Lately things between me and my girlfriend of 16 months have been getting rather boring. Neither of us have many friends and all we ever do is rent movies and hang out/ make out. This used to be fine, but too much of anything can get boring after awhile. So my question is when it time to just give up and move on? I would bring it up with her but whenever i start talking negatively about our relationship she starts crying and the conversation ends there. I think it is because she suffers from depression. Any advice would be helpful. Also lately she seems to be mentioning a lot about guys at her school(we don't go to the same school) asking her to go places with them and stuff like that. Is she just trying to make me jealous or what? I'm already kinda jealous guy and all her talking is kinda taking me to the edge.
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How long is too long?
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She's just trying to make you jealous. Trust me, whenever a woman tells you about all the other guys she has, its because she's trying to get a reaction out of you. She wants you to validate your feelings. After all, if she was trying to cheat on you, would she announce it?! If she didnt value your relationship she wouldn't cry when you talk negatively about it. All couples go through that same thing though. It gets hard when you're stuck in a rut. Maybe you two can try new activities together? Anything to spice it up.......
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Do you think that after being with a girl for like 16 months that things will just never be exciting again? I dont want to give up but things are just getting really old no matter what we do
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16 months is nothing! Look at all the people who have been happily married for like 50+ years. I've been with my bf for 3 years and we've had our share of times where it was boring. Realisitcally speaking those butterflies will probably never flutter like they used to in the begining of your relationship, but that doesn't mean that that relationship isn't worth saving. I think you two should just talk and get it all out on the table. Are you questioning the relationship because you' re bored, or is there something else going on? If its just boredom, then rest assured all couples go through it. Like I said try new things, change of scenery--and not just like going out to dinner or a movie--go do something that you wouldn't normally do. My boyfriend signed us up for ballroom dancing classes this weekend. I was like wtf??!!!!! but it turned out to be fun.
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i guess that its just recently I've been getting annoyed with her a lot, and our relationship dynamics have completely changed since we started going out. She doesn't really seem to care about the boyfriend/girlfriend types of things anymore, and it seems like we are just two friends that full around a lot. I guess the shyness and akward silences we had at the begining of our relationship isn't there anymore and i don't know how i feel about that.But i'm not going to give up now, I'll try to change some things up. But right now I always walk away from a day with her wondering how i could have wasted my time doing nothing all day. I used to be fine sitting around and talking all the time but it seems like its getting old. By the way, thanks for the responses
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No problem. For what its worth I understand exactly where you are coming from. Good Luck.
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I totally agree with me myself and I, me and fiance have been together 8 years, and there have been times when stabbing myself in the eyes with a blunt fork would have been more of a pleasurable way to spend my time......but, we are still together......cos we are brutally honest with eachother whether we wanna hear it or say it, if you are bored and fed up, talk to her about it, maybe she feels the same way and it is time to go your separate ways, or maybe she feels the same and its time to go wild.....Good luck with it all, hope everything turns out the way you want
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You should talk about it and then decide if it is time to break up with her.
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Although...it could really be a sign that it's time to move on. If the relationship is not growing, that's not good. I like your idea about changing things up a bit to see what happens. That's a great way to find out if maybe there's still good life left in the relationship but you're just stuck in a rut, or it's over. I think it's good though that you're going through this though process, whatever the outcome.Another thing...One thing that happens to a lot of young couples is that they spend way too much time concentrating on the physical stuff that the relationship ends up being just about that. I think some good advice for you would be to discuss this with your gf and tell her how you feel, and tell her you want to lay off all physical stuff for like a month. I think you'll be amazed how your relationsip will grow in other areas.