What should I do?

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Well, I searched various sites for this problem, but none of them were as useful as this one, so as always I came back here for help Anyway, I'm here to make an appeal for help. Basically, one of my teachers at college is smoking weed/pot, and I found out like last week. This teacher is a really sincere person, and are great at teaching, I often admire their courage and energy to tackle the problems that they have, but now I unfortunately know why. I'm still not sure if this is true, but it seems ever-so-likely, given how common and easy it is obtain this stuff these days. I'm going to do a bit of investigating. I certainly don't want to intrude their privacy (obviously) in anyway, but I want to help them, if this true. If it is true, what should I do? I'm sure they will inevitably be caught in the end; people always do in my experience. I respect this person, but I fear for their wellbeing and the students' future, and my own to say the least.Any advice?Cheers

You want to help your teacher? Help him/her with what? Does this teacher need help? Why are you even meddling in their private affairs?

You must have a lot of spare time on your hands. I'd suggest getting back to your studies and leaving the grown-ups alone.You're not planning to stalk this instructor, are you?

Although I think your heart is in the right place, it really isnt any of your business. You never know how this teacher will react to your little intervention.

If you feel you must tell someone, I'd talk to the dean of the college. I dont think you'll get very far though.

WHAT?! I never insisted on stalking... I am merely concerned for their career and being found out. I just wondered if it was such a big problem. Obviously I touched a nerve with one or two people. I guess it depends on your view on pot/weed. Btw, so I ask here and now, what have I done to any of you? you act as though I'm going to kill someone. Dear me.

So I make this PERFECTLY CLEAR, for those who think I am actually going to interfere with their life: No, I am not. As I said earlier I am concerned about THEM, and my class, aswell as my own future. I certainly will not tell on them of any kind, but I just wondered could I help, and should I help for that matter? I'm not out to ruin their life... If you hadn't noticed, I care deeply about people, and I do 'dwell' and *SOMETIMES* think things through a bit excessively but that's part of my thinking process - being a worrier - anxiety, hence all the posts in the depression forum!

If you want some advise, it would be to mind your own business. You have no need to talk to anyone about this. This includes the teacher. You claim that this teacher is doing a great job. If so, then why muddy the water. Now if this teacher were coming to class stoned and was negativly affecting their teaching ability, then I would personally complain and get their ass out of there.

You're right, I don't! But I do have a right to use my free will to come here and use this site for help and ask for other people's opinion on the matter. But for that being the case, why be so negative? I only ask what to do because I worry.

It ends here. I will mind my own business, but I can't help it when my face is rubbed in it. There is other issues that I haven't already mention on this matter, which I feel would contribute to a better understanding of this, mainly being with other students and such. I won't argue this any further. And while we're on the subject (with this being so negative and to be going absolutely no where) you may as well delete the topic.

OK, then if your question is theoretical, consider our replies theoretical, not personal.What you asked is whether you should interfere in the life of someone who doesn't appear to need an intervention, and you really could screw up his life. What good will come out of this? Assuming you're even correct, that the teacher is using pot, his teaching is not affected.How do you even know what he's using? And if he's using pot, how do you know it's not to control bad effects of chemotherapy because he has cancer? In any case, I don't see why it's a concern of yours. (Note: when my mother was under the care of an oncologist, she was prescribed Marinol, an expensive prescription medication that contains the active ingredient of marijuana, to stimulate her appetite...she had been losing a lot of weight. Now you have some idea where the info on the need-to-eat-more thread came from.)If you want to do good works, there are plenty of homeless, hungry people, dysfunctional drug addicts, people with AIDS, etc. that you can help, if you'd like to volunteer. That would make the world a better place. Screwing up this guy's career won't.In reply to:I'm sure they will inevitably be caught in the end; people always do in my experience.You might think about leaning less on your personal experience until you've logged some more years. You'll have many more experiences, and time to reflect on them.In any case, if you ask for advice, with the implication that you want to do something, and that something might be destructive, why are you so taken aback by negative responses? There's some guy in another thread asking for advice on how to get his (married) neighbor to have sex with him. I wonder if he's upset by the negative response he's gotten.Do you consider pot Satan's manifestation on Earth, or something like that?

As already said: I wanted to know if it would be wise to do anything about it for the best interest of my class's future. AND AS ALREADY MENTIONED: There is other issues you are not aware of that I didn't mention.

Don't ever say to me I must have lots of time on my hands. Look at you, you registered on the 03/03/05 and you have 85 posts. Wow, that's a damn lot of post within that time frame, what do you do? Live on this site?

Screwing up a person's career was not my intention as said ALREADY. You think by posting this topic that conludes what I am going to do even when afterwards I have explained I am not going to? Please...

Don't even talk to me about good works either, I do plenty of those, I'm a considerate person who often thinks of other people before themself.

And as a matter of fact: I have nothing strictly against weed, my friends use it and many other people I know. But when I hear my teacher is popping out on the school site for a quick puff of weed and then coming back to teach and is laughing and all over the place I have my fucking concerns.

In fact, do me a favour and don't talk to me at all.

In reply to:But I do have a right to use my free will to come here and use this site for help and ask for other people's opinion on the matter.No one told you not to come here, and no one is asking you to go away.You didn't just ask a simple question (e.g., why does water boil); you asked, in effect, "should I take some action"? If you only find positive responses acceptable, you're in the wrong place.In reply to:as well as my own futureYou said the teacher is doing a fine job of teaching, so it's not unclear how the matter in question affects your future.In reply to:I can't help it when my face is rubbed in itWe just want to get your attention before you do something that might have unanticipated repercussions. No one here is saying you're a bad person. In the real world, there will be people who disasgree with you. You can't take everything so personally, or you will be very unhappy.In reply to:you may as well delete the topic.Why? People other than the original poster might benfit from it.

What did I tell you?I didn't mention it before because I was too frickin embarrassed to even say. I wanted to keep the info rather bite size, but obviously it doesn't work with you people, as you seem to get all touchy inside and inflict comments such as 'it is none of your business'. Well Whoop-de-fucking-doo I posted about my concerns for my class and teacher and I didn't mention enough! Oh no! It's none of my business! even when my teacher is laughing none stop and falling over the classroom furniture. So now you know. Now we can all absorb the info and understand why I posted it. Does that sound better? Really does it? Are you sure?

Well, I guess it didn't end here.In reply to:There is other issues you are not aware of that I didn't mention.We can't comment on what you don't say. If a kid says, "I want to run away from home", we'd say "Bad idea." But if the person didn't tell us he was being sexually abused by his parent, what can we do, since we're not psychic?In reply to:Don't ever say to me I must have lots of time on my hands. Look at you, you registered on the 03/03/05 and you have 85 posts. Wow, that's a damn lot of post within that time frame, what do you do? Live on this site?Well, I do have a lot of time on my hands! I have spent a lot of time on this site. Is that not OK? It just appeared that, as a student, there must be more pressing concerns than the situation you described (minus the part you couldn't tell us).In reply to:Don't even talk to me about good works either, I do plenty of those, I'm a considerate person who often thinks of other people before themself.That's good; I'm sure you're a fine person. That comment may have been presumptuous, if not patronizing...I'm sorry. But not having read all the archives, I can only address what is posted.In reply to:But when I hear my teacher is popping out on the school site for a quick puff of weed and then coming back to teach and is laughing and all over the place I have my fucking concerns.This is a rather important fact that you neglected in your original post. If that's the case, then it is affecting his teaching, and therefore affecting you and the other students. That changes everything.In that case, I would confront the instructor (after all, you're paying tuition and not getting your money's worth). If that led nowhere, I'd confront his department head, and if that didn't work, the dean of the school. But I wouldn't do it alone. I'd first get together with others in the class who've noticed the same problem.And keep in mind that your concerns may be perfectly well-placed, but you don't know the whole story.

How can a great teacher fall all over classroom furniture laughing non stop??? Why would you come here with half ass details asking for advice? Why get angry when people give you advice? Is it because its not what you want to hear?

In reply to: I wanted to keep the info rather bite size, but obviously it doesn't work with you peopleIf you'd have said, "I have a teacher who steps out of class, gets high, comes back, and acts like a moron, what should I do?", and left out the rest, then you'd have gotten the response you were looking for. But you left out the most important fact.No need to get so upset....this in only an Internet forum, not the real world.

ME_MYSELF_AND_I, my teacher is a great teacher when she is NOT behaving in this way. When she is behaving in this way, it does not give a very good impression and people I have spoke to agree it does sometimes cause problems with getting work done.Want to know why I act so negatively back? I'm sick of letting negative shite fly over me and sink to the bottom of me and stay there; stored up, and taken in. My way of dealing with my problems, is to tackle them head on (vent if you will) to allow myself to not be pushed a side like a push over that I once was. I'm sorry if it all came out very personal to some of you.

As said before, I was 'embarrassed.'

OK now that we all understand each other lets kiss and make up. We weren't trying to be negative or mean, we just gave our opinions based on the info that was given.

Now back to the problem at hand. I agree with the other poster who said you shouldn't approach this problem alone. Get together with classmates and discuss what should be done. They obviously have more details than we do, and would be better suited to help you.

In reply to:As said before, I was 'embarrassed.'This is an anonymous forum. Lots of people share deeply personal, and sometimes embarrassing, things. No one would have come down on you, or figured out who you are, if you'd shared the whole story.The people you find here are pretty much the people you'll find in real life. The gamut of human emotions still applies. Misunderstandings are not uncommon; you can't always express the whole story and context in a posting. There are also people who get their jollies from provoking people....it seems to give their life meaning. I hope you don't put anyone who's posted on this thread in that classification.