It happened again! Now what?

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I posted a week or so ago about masturbating with my roommate. I'd never done anything like that before. Guess what? We did it again tonight. We talked about last week for the first time. I mean, we mentioned it befor, but tonight we really talked about it. I guess we both got kind of horny and did it again. I never thought I would do anything like that. I always considered it way too gay. But I really loved it. and I know he was into it. It was strange how we were both okay with the other one looking at us - watching our dicks. Crazy, huh?So here's my question. And I can't believe I'm even thinking this way. I wouldn't mind touching him. Maybe even licking him. But how do I go about making that happen. He's a good friend so I don't wanna piss him off. But I think he might be into it. He certainly was into the scene tonight...and watched me jack the whole time. Of course I watched him too. Part of me thinks that he would be more willing even then me cause I'm more modest than him and he would not expect it. But it's scary...Any thoughts.Oh yeah. Before, I was so modest. Would never let my roommate see me naked. Even tried not to be seen in undies. That's changed. I don't parade around naked, but I've "exposed" myself a couple of times.

go with ur instincts and what ever happens, happens.

Yeah, I would go with what you feel you want. There's nothing wrong with feeling the way you are about your roommate. If you're both enjoying it, then go for it.

I appreciate your comments. But I'm not feeling any way about my roommate, other than he's a great friend. I mean I'm not hot for him or anything like that. It's just about the experience, if that makes sense. But thanks anyway.

Yeah, that makes sense. I wouldn't try to over analyze this - that'll just take away the fun. Just go with your feelings, and have fun, and don't think too much about it. You only live once, so you might as well make the most of it. If the experience brings both you and your roomate fun and enjoyment, then by all means, go for it!

maybe you should treat it like any other case of being unsure about a sexual advance.You could talk about it without over committing yourself so you can back away if the reaction isn't good.Also, what's his body language like when you do it? Does he sit close? Is there incidental contact like legs touching or something? This could be an indication as to how he feels about his personal space in this situation.

In reply to: You could talk about it without over committing yourself so you can back away if the reaction isn't good. That's kind of a question I had around this sort of thing. Does it usually happen through discussing and agreeing, or just by just happening? In reply to: Also, what's his body language like when you do it? Body language? He was jacking off. I'm not sure what you mean by this question. We were kind of turned toward each other and watching each other. In reply to: Does he sit close? Is there incidental contact like legs touching or something? Both times one of us was on the sofa and the other was on the futon, about six feet apart. So obviously there was no touching at all. In reply to: This could be an indication as to how he feels about his personal space in this situation. I don't know if he gave off any clues about that. I know he has always been a lot more open than me. I've seen him naked several times. He doesn't prance around in the buff, but he doesn't try hard to hide himself when he's changing, etc. like I do. He also hangs out in his boxers from time to time and ocassionally gets a little careless with the old wide open fly, although he catches it and fixes it quickly. He often walks around a bit when he wears boxer-briefs but doesn't usually hang out in them. Just does that in boxers. All that is to say his 'personal space' would probably be a little wider than mine.

In reply to: his 'personal space' would probably be a little wider than mine. heh heh a little longer, but I don't know about wider

Be careful and don't assume that his being free around the house as far nudity and underwear means he's open and waiting for you to initiate sexual contact. I'm not saying he ain't, but one doesn't necessarily lead to the other.

In reply to: That's kind of a question I had around this sort of thing. Does it usually happen through discussing and agreeing, or just by just happening? I've never been in this situation but what I was thinking was if you mentioned that you were a bit curious about touching a man but you would be able to back out if he seemed totally not interested. In reply to: Body language? I was just refering to the 'personal space' and incidental contact thing. If he was sitting across the room, then that's a mute point.

Ok, first thing is who originated these sessions you or him, if it was him he problem wants to try it once with you and doesn't know how except for exposing himself at you to tease you and get you try to bring it up. I had sex a couple of times with a guy and it sounds like your roommate is doing, he wants you ask him straight forward that if wants to have sex with you and go from there.

Take it slow... If you are into it, maybe reach over and start jerking his dick for him... Reassure him that what you guys are doing is not gay... Keep it real, have fun dude... Lata, H.