My b/f was my friend for almost a year before I got together with him. We've liked eachother since we met last summer. There is a long story of how we met and things that went on, but I am not going into that. But I am 16, still a virgin, but I've been close to losing it by force many times. My boyfriend aka Josh, is 18 and lives right behind my dad's house, which I go over to on the weekends. Josh has a 1 1/2 yr old son, by accident. His name is Skyler.
Josh makes me feel like I am the center of attraction, and the middle of his world.. along with Skyler. But he treats me great.. and I am ready to lose my virginity, and I am sure I want to lose it to him, but it's too soon in our relationship cuz it's almost only been 3 weeks. But when I will feel comfortable... I dunno. I am scared.. and i trust him since he was like a bro to me. But I am scared to tell him somethings i am thinking. I dont know what to do, or what to say. But all I know is that there's this bright glimmer in his eyes when we are together, which makes me feel special.
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I wanna loose it to my b/f, but I'm scared.
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When the time is right you'll know it. It sounds like you're not right now. Don't be forced to do anything that you don't want to do. Virginity is a very special thing and one you lose it you can never get it back.
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I've been close to losing it by force many times.
That worries me - how has that happened?
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i bet it was at a party..parties.. parties are evail stay away from parties!
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becomes a social outcast
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The way you described this situation worries me. You mentioned losing it by force to a guy that already has a son so young. IF you go through with this you have to make sure your ready not when this horny dude tells you you are ready for you. Also make sure you take all the proper procautions. Don't let him talk u into doing it without a condom or anythign stupid like that. Do your research and make sure its definatlly what YOU want to do.
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yeah, it sounds like you're not quite ready yet. But I would talk to him about how you're feeling. That you'd like it to be him when you're ready for it. How he makes you feel etc.
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I must say how you written your post rises many questions about this bloke. The 1 1/2 year old son, the 3 weeks togeather, how hes like a brother to you. Personally theres too much baggage involved and the fact that you see him as a brother would be like mental incest. He sounds like the kinda bloke who'd use a bloody sports sock as contraception.
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Don't do anything until you're not scared.
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it took me a while to decide i was ready...i was raised being taught sex before marriage was horrible and something that just wasnt done, so that was a big thing to consider, but i talked to my boyfriend about it quite a bit...we covered everything from what if our parents find out to what if i got pregnant & once he was sure i was comfortable with it & was willing to loose my virginity to him we did it...that was only 3 months into our relationship and though that may seem too soon he & i were both ready & only love each other that much more for it...we were both really nervous at first though & scarred of what all could go wrong, it being both our first times...what's important is to take it at your own pace & dont rush into it & use protection!!!
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Don't have sex until you are married, your body is still maturing, you aren't ready for an adult penis... WAIT.
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So you're ready to get thrown in jail over "JOSH?" Or have him thrown in instead?