Of course it's for my craft. What else would it be for? And to ask another question, can you tell me where to start? You say there are books stacked to the moon about this stuff, but what should be the first place to start my research and I mean serious, dedicated, I don't want to fuck this up in anyway, research.
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Lesbian Guide
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- Judging by the syntax and spelling of the post, I'd have expected something a bit more polished from a writer, at least in a post where he mentions that he's a writer.2. This is basically a youth-oriented message board, where people discuss issues such as how one sucks his own penis, how to buy a condom, and so on. When an adult professional comes here practically soliciting sex stories, it raises a flag.3. I am not interested enough in the subject to have researched it. You can Google for stuff. You can ask the librarian for help. You can browse the sexuality shelf at the bookstore. If you really can't figure this out (though you know what "snowballing" is), might I suggest you consider some other line of work?By the way, "hense" and "alot" are not English words. And the possessive precedes the gerund.(OK, I just Googled ==> lesbian dating
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Just cause s/he's a writer, doesn't mean s/he's a good one.
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I hope no doctor come here asking for advice on socially-transmitted diseases.
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In reply to: Just cause s/he's a writer, doesn't mean s/he's a good one. And even the best writers were probably at one time young kids still trying to master the English language. Give him a break. At least he's not using that annoying cyber-speak crap. And actually "hense" is a word. It's just spelled "hence".
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Yeah and I can't type acturatley (as you can see by the last word there). But I'm not bad at English. Remmeber this is a board just for people to get their ideas across, spelling and such doesn't matter even if you are a writer.
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Well, I may be paranoid, but for me it didn't pass the smell test.
I would expect a professional writer not only to be good at English, but to write well. Not to mention the other stuff that I already mentioned.
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spelling and such doesn't matter even if you are a writer
Are you trying to make my English teachers roll over in their graves? Standards have really gone to pot. Can you tell me of a successful writer who doesn't write well? (Besides the author of The Bridges of Madison County, I mean.)
Might I suggest a spell checker, commonly available in mail and text editing programs? You can cut and paste in the "Post" box.
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I don't think he ever claimed professional status.
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In reply to:I'm a writer hense the question Do you think he mean to say, "I'm literate, hence the question"?In reply to:Of course it's for my craft.If he's not a professional writer, then he's playing games. If someone says "I'm a neurosurgeon", I hope they don't mean it as a hobby.
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In reply to: If he's not a professional writer, then he's playing games. If someone says "I'm a neurosurgeon", I hope they don't mean it as a hobby. I'm sure a smart guy like you sees how that analogy is extremely faulty. If I say that I play baseball, do you automatically take that to mean I'm a professional athlete. What if I just bought a pair of Brooks and some sweats and started running last month? Can I not say I'm a runner? Or is that term reserved only for those running the Boston marathon?
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So you meet someone at a party, and he introduces himself like this: "Hi, I'm Fred. I'm a writer." What would that make most people think?I think this bickerfest has pretty well run its course. If the original poster has a comment, he's welcome to post it.
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Well, if it's out of context like that, it would probably signify his primary identity and you could safely assume it was his vocation. However, he offered it in the context of why he was asking the question, which is a totally different thing, no?Sorry...I guess it was my turn to get the last word in.Semantics...always arguing semantics...
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OK, you can have the last word.
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Thanks. You're a swell guy.
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So I have to be polished do I? When I first posted I didn't really think about squeezing this thing though a spell checker but then I didn't think about rechecking it either. My mistake. And I never claimed I'm a professional writer. Right now it's just a hobby and I'm improving and improvising a lot. And how am I playing games by making this a hobby? Even more how am I soliciting sex stories, when it's a hobby? I'm just interested in this kind of topic, not just about sex but the whole relationship. Thank you Daemon and everyone else who did so for sticking up for me. I'm not posting out of maliciousness or as a 13 year old kid making a stupid post "How do people have gay sex and they're faggots" I'm trying to be respectful to the community of people who choose this lifestyle. Me? I'm personally not straight or gay at this moment. I'm wondering what I am. And so what if I decide to write about the complex life of lesbians? Do you know who inspired me? Nancy Garden who wrote Annie on my mind. M.E. Kerr, who wrote Deliver Me From Evie. Venus Envy. In the long run, I have the general idea about complicated these kind of relationships are, even though none of these are considered true lesbian writings, which is why I asked about it. True I don't have experience with this kind of topic, and I still have a long way to go as a writer, but I’m trying to learn damn it and I sign up here hoping that maybe someone could help me out. One person could give me a clue on how to work this out, but no. Well thanks for nothing!
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Jeez, why didn't you say this in the first place? The Google search string I posted above didn't help? It points to a bunch of sites that point to a bunch of books.Look, there are a lot of predators hanging out on the Internet, and based on your original post, I don't know what your deal is. You can understand my vigilance, no?Every time you write is an opportunity to hone your craft, especially if you're publishing it in a place where a lot of people will see it. This doesn't apply to grocery lists, but it does apply to anything more than a trivial note, and it certainly applies to public forums.And my spelling is not too bad, but my typing is not too good. The spell checker is my favorite tool. You can cut and paste from your favorite text editor or mail program. It has forced me to deal with words that I chronically misspell.
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In reply to: I'm trying to be respectful to the community of people who choose this lifestyle. um, note: people don't choose to be gay any more than people choose to be straight. it just is.anyway, i stick with my original answer: gay relationships and dating are the same as straight. take the sex of the two involved out of the equation, and it's pretty much identical. you meet someone, you're attracted, you chat, one of you works up the nerve to ask the other out, then you either click or you don't. pretty simple. the only thing that complicates things with gays is that often you don't really know if the person you are interested in is gay. it's much easier for straight people to assume almost everyone else is straight and make a move than it is for gays to do the same.
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Jeez, why didn't you say this in the first place? The Google search string I posted above didn't help? It points to a bunch of sites that point to a bunch of books.
Look, there are a lot of predators hanging out on the Internet, and based on your original post, I don't know what your deal is. You can understand my vigilance, no?
Every time you write is an opportunity to hone your craft, especially if you're publishing it in a place where a lot of people will see it. This doesn't apply to grocery lists, but it does apply to anything more than a trivial note, and it certainly applies to public forums.
And my spelling is not too bad, but my typing is not too good. The spell checker is my favorite tool. You can cut and paste from your favorite text editor or mail program. It has forced me to deal with words that I chronically misspell.
Well, while posting on a community forum is a lot easier then asking in real life, how can you put something like this intellectually and make your point while at the same time not sounding like an idiot? You have to make your point strong the first time (or judging a book by it's cover) which as you can see came out poorly, but at least I rebounded and explained what I was trying to do in the first place.
As for the Google thing, it's less about finding guides as it is ending up getting results to spam porn sites. It would be a waste of time going through all that (but oh well, I guess that's a part of research.) I'm checking it out now.
And as for your post concerning:
First about your concern about "predators" and my last posts. I made it a point, the first time and again that this is for research only and I'm not using it hunt people, I'm just writing. People would be insulted by this but I understand why you posted it and your concerns when someone posts something like this. I'm sorry if I came out like that, but I'm not. I'd rather focus on writing then something like that, nor do I think about that kind of thing.
As for spelling, I know it's important to use spell check, I just got a bit sloppy and forgot this time. It didn't come out as a professionally as I'd like but as you can see the last few posts have been spell checked including this one, hence I'm willing to learn from my mistakes.
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um, note: people don't choose to be gay any more than people choose to be straight. it just is.
anyway, i stick with my original answer: gay relationships and dating are the same as straight. take the sex of the two involved out of the equation, and it's pretty much identical. you meet someone, you're attracted, you chat, one of you works up the nerve to ask the other out, then you either click or you don't. pretty simple.
the only thing that complicates things with gays is that often you don't really know if the person you are interested in is gay. it's much easier for straight people to assume almost everyone else is straight and make a move than it is for gays to do the same.
I didn't say anything wrong I hope. Sorry Maggie...
Actually, you can flip that situation and be straight and confuse someone for straight as you just pointed out. It's just a misunderstanding, the problem is a lot people don't see it that way. And it could (not always) lead to a very bad situation, like a hate crime because certain people don't see it as a misunderstanding, but as wrong. And it only gives them a reason to fuel their hate. Quite a sad situation indeed. :frowning:
But that's moving off the topic at hand. Still important though.
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In reply to: people don't choose to be gay any more than people choose to be straight. it just is. Wouldn't it be fair to say that people don't choose to be gay, but they choose to live the lifestyle?
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OK, I apologize for the misunderstanding. I'm just suspicious by nature.Being a writer is a lot like being an athlete or musician. You have to practice a lot (write, rewrite, rewrite, rewrite, etc.), and you have to have a lot of discipline. I'm not a writer, but I'm still working on organizing ideas in essays/papers/presentations/etc., as well as reasonable paragraph structure. I have a long way to go.Have you made any progress in your search? Looking up "lesbian dating" gets you a lot of gay and lesbian dating sites, but I also found this: www.bicafe.com - bisexual information; bisexual personals; BiCafe Interviews; coming out storiesThen I searched on "lesbian relationship" and found these: www.enotalone.com - lesbian relationshipsWayne and Tamara's relationship advice - Gay & Lesbian Relationships (this looks like an interesting site in general)Article by psychotherapist Kali MunroeHere's a thought: Gay, Lesbian Couples Can Teach Heterosexuals to Improve Relationshipslesbian relationship forum <<<<<<<<<<and so on...I went to amazon.com and looked up "lesbian relationship" and I got 260 hits. I'm not suggesting that you buy any of these books sight unseen, but you can read reviews and look for the interesting ones at your local library or book store.I don't know if those things are exactly what you're looking for, but the Lesbian Forum might be a good place to start.By the way, I think what 123maggie said makes a lot of sense.I hope this was helpful.(By the way, is "Seven of Curious" a Curious George anthology reference?)
