It seems like every girl I crush on thinks my best friend is the greatest. Sure, he is attractive but all the girls have already lamented he is a boring asshole. Still though this girl I have felt EXTREME emotion towards always seems to want to talk to him and stuff and it makes me feel kind of jelous. She seems to be subliminally flirty with me I can just read this vibe. She trusts me ALOT and whenever she is on her cycle she tells me and I empathize her pains. She seems to appriciate my presence but I don't know why she isn't intereseted in a relationship. We went out about a year ago but she was to shy and we had to break up. She was the first girl I cried over too. How can I gain her affection? I don't expect instant results because I have tried the subtle approach and it worked extrodinarily well but now that we are good pals I just gotta know to start a spark.
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I feel kinda ignored
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I know exactly how u feel. I always feel to be the lesser of me and my best friend. Then when i say soemthing they say its because i'm boring and dont talk in reality i talked the whole time and noone listened so i gave up. I guess you need to get the girl alone and talk to her so she can see that ur go to have all by urself, and then eventually maybe while u and with ur friend and her the attention will be shared more equally.
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Alright, there is a party this Friday, she said she would like to leave for a bit and come to my place and see my dog. Probably some great 1 on 1 there. She is also in band and so am I, thats how we met actually, but that is great bonding.
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I wonder if she thinks that because you broke up before, there's no hope now for a relationship between you? Perhaps you need to let her know that you no longer think she is too shy, and you are still interested.(I'm not clear to me why her being shy caused the relationship to break up.)
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Sounds good, let us know how it turns out!
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Well party is this Friday, once we get over here I guess I will show her around the place, play with my cute doggy and hangout a bit. I will be able to tell if she is interested if we hold hands or something sweet/cheesy like that. I don't know what it is about her; she reminds me of a part of this song "Look what you've done to me now...You made perfect!" Yet she still depresses the hell out of me. I wrote a poem about her and I think I might "accidently" let her see it. Well next time I post, it will be the momant of truth. Thanks for the confidence guys, you have made my fire burn even more intense than ever before; I am pumped.
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Success!! I am happy man... She sat by me and we talked and yeesh I feel indestructable. There was some innocent touch and I even gave her a hug when she left. Sadly enough I may have to lament we are just friends. OH WELL THIS RULES!! I am soo high right now nothing can stop me.
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Hah, yea i know how u feel. My best friend is the same way. I think she is gorgeous. I mean, she could be a model. And she's really good with people. So she's like friends with everyone in the school, but shes not popular. And yet, she gets all the guys. Everyone says i'm so much pretyer than her, but how is that i have only had 1 boyfriend..my whole life and shes had 4 this year!!(1 boyfriend, my first boyfriend this year) Maybe its because i'm not a social as her, and she just seems cooler. but w/e,.
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Oh yeah you know what I almost forgot to tell you guys? We were walking to my place and there was this spot of mud she was reluctant about walking over so I picked her up and took her over the mud and she gave me this smile when I picked her up and I had her in my arms for what seemed like forever but it was only a few seconds. Man she is beautiful.
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Be careful man. I was in a similar situation and things... how should I put it... didn't turn out so well. You need to find out if she's interested in you romantically or platonically before you let your feelings run amock with false ideas.
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Yeah I have had that before. I want to tell her how I feel like a madman but I can't figure out how to do it right.
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Tell her exactly what you wrote here.
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Damn you guys I fucked that up good. I guess I scared her off because of my religion supposedly and she said she needed some space so I said why you always seem so happy to see meand you flirt with me alot then she said she thinks I'm cute but I made the wrong decisions in my past and she has been wanting to get away from me for a while but has never had the guts to say it. I don't get it she said she likes the "bad guys" when I'm about as bad as it gets. One of the last things I said was "Megan I will tell you what, I will disrespect you, sexually harass you, and objectify your body just like every other guy at school does if that's all it takes but all I want to do is make you happy and if thats all it takes I pitty you as much as I love you"Then she said "wait guys think im hot?" seriously and I was like yes and there are alot of them out there that will hurt you more than you have ever been hurt before but I love you and I will be there to love you regaurdless of the state you are in then she said she didn't beleive me so I told her to take her time off and I spent the rest of the night in my room trying to remember how to cry. Sorry for the poor grammar but I am ranting.
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I'm sorry.
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Mother fucker I am getting pissed off. She is going to prom with a junior (shes a freshman). This is not good man I know something bad is going to happen I know she will get touched and forced to do something she doesn't need to be doing at her age. I just can't beleive her parents are going to let her go, they are VERY strict on account of the fact the dad was a marine and the mom was in the navy. Oh man I am soo shocked; I feel like killing some one. What is wrong with me why can't I get over her? My mind agrees with my heart and I am only passionate about what I totally love. Why can't I get her out of my head? I don't want to like her but I feel like it is my duty to love her unconditionally. How can I stop this feeling?
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You can do 2 constructive things:1. Find yourself a different girl2. Think about yourself for a while and take a break
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I have tried thinking about it, I probably filled a 70 page notebook with writings. I have been looking at other girls and gosh some of them are knockouts I just don't see them every day at school. I might try to get hooked up on a blind date to get Megan off my mind... EDIT: Now for the DEstructive things?
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concentrate on the constructive. Positivity is key.
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Yes, please don't go for destructive things.