I'm not ugly, i just suck as a boyfriend i guess. I am a really nice guy and all, but every girl I date seems to give me the old "lets just be friends" speech after about 2 weeks or so. I just don't know what is wrong with me. The girls I date are average at best, not hot, but not ugly. Hell I just date a girl for the hell of it sometimes and it always turns into friends. What is more messed up is that all these girls say lets be friends, and then I NEVER hear from them again. They want nothing to do with me so they just lie to me so they won't hurt my feelings as much, whatever. Maybe I am boring, that must be it. Cuz I know it isn't my looks, even though some days i do look horrible. I am 24 and a single father of a 4 year old son. Seems most girls dump me after i tell them about my son, which is usually by the 2nd or 3rd date. I could use some advice on what to do on a date i guess. I am a good kisser, cuz when i kiss girls, we go for hours, and it usually leads to more, but never past 3rd base. Out of the various dates i have been on over the years, i can't even hit a homerun. My penis is about 6.5" errect so that can't be the problem. I do have a hard time approaching women but not if they make the first innitiative. When i am on my first date if i don't know the girl that well i am sometimes shy and speak in monotone but i just can't help it. I try to talk normal but I talk like fricken Ben Stein, and it sucks. once i get to know the girl I talk more and normal and i am much more myself around her, but i never make it that far. SO HOW THE HELL DO I GET RID OF BEING SO TENSE??? I feel like a dead fish sometimes. I can spark a conversation and make her laugh but i am always tense, not really nervous. Any advice is helpful thanks.
Girls never like me
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Hell I just date a girl for the hell of it sometimes and it always turns into friends.
well that bit isn't very surprising is it :smile:
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Cuz I know it isn't my looks, even though some days i do look horrible. I am 24 and a single father of a 4 year old son.
Don't we all have bad days - today is a particularly bad hair day for me :smile: as for being a single father, i really admire you for that, and yes that will put some women off, but they arn't the ones you want to be with anyway!
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My penis is about 6.5" errect so that can't be the problem
it isn't how big it is its how you use it :smile:
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once i get to know the girl I talk more and normal and i am much more myself around her, but i never make it that far. SO HOW THE HELL DO I GET RID OF BEING SO TENSE??? I feel like a dead fish sometimes. I can spark a conversation and make her laugh but i am always tense, not really nervous
well it seems like your previous dating experiences have made you self concious and tense about the whole thing. The right woman will like you for you, and enjoy spending time with you and your son, it sounds like your trying too hard, examining everything you do, instead of just relaxing, when your on a date you might actually be actinig like you don't wanna be there, cos you are so tense, and thats why the women are running away!
I would say stop trying to so hard, enjoy being you, and enjoy being with your son, from experience i like someone who is happy being themselves, thats what attracts me to them, and I would imagine a lot of women are the same - be you, and I would bet the dates happen
if you're not happy with the way you act, how you speak etc, how do you expect a girl to be? why would they want to spend more time with someone who is timid and boring?you have to change your state of mind, be content and happy with who you are, think postive and smile stop stressing!when you're on a date, you're meant to have fun!you seem to make a huge deal of it and get worked up, -dont! just go out for the one night and just aim to please yourself by enjoying the night, regardless of whether you will see this girl again.
In my opionion looking for a girl makes it harder to find one.Just relax, be yourself and dont worry, hey if she doesnt see you that way then you can't force it on her right?