Ok, so i just got a bj from my gf last a couple nights ago and instead of being happy about it all i can think about is how guilty i feel. We have been going out for like a year and a half and i love her and everything. I thought i was ready for it, but when i couldnt stop her once she started and things just kinda went fast and we didnt have a chance to talk about it. I cant help but feel like i pressured her into something she didnt want to do. Any advice on further action? Should i bring it up, let it slide, or just be happy? Im really confused right now because i have been looking forward to it for about 3 months and now i just feel horrible.
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Guilty feelings
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I would suggest talking about it, just ask her if she was ok with it and say you feel bad. Hopefully she won't've had a problem with it and just be glad you care, but if she did then she might be releaved you asked her about it and at least then she knows that you are concerned and you can talk about it from there.But you dont have to take my advice...
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Yea, i asked her right after if it made her uncomfortable and i said if it did she didnt have to do it anymore and she said something along the lines of its a little to late for that now. Thats what made me feel the worst, the fact that i was so caught up in the pleasure that i didnt take into account her feelings.
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Well erm, i know this wont help but it she didnt want to do it she shouldnt have! It wasnt like you where forcing it on her right?
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you didn't hold her head down did you? (sorry that was on another post!!!)She did it obviously cos she wanted to, but, I guess she didn't enjoy it as much as she thought she might, wereas you did. Definitely talk to her about it, tell her how much you enjoyed it - but - that you feel how you feel.
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I guess maybe you two might be too young and cant handle the pressure of knowing what happened. If thats not the case then she must have wanted to do it because why else would she? its not like you threatened her to do it, did you?
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I hate to say anyone's age makes them unable to perform certain sexual tasks, i think it has more to do with maturity and how the relationship is. But anyway im 17 and i would say our relationship is strong. And i didnt threaten her or anything. If anyone read my post awhile back i was talking about this same thing, that i wanted to do it and i was asking for advice on how to ask her and stuff. She kinda did it anyway and i have mixed feelings about it. It was good but not really the right time or place