Well, as most of you adviced, I decided to ask this girl out from work in person rather than via Email. I think I kept it pretty cool - I didn't go blank or panic. In any case, I'm sort of confused at the outcome.
First we started talking about where she was going, as she had to run out somewhere. Then we talked about an office party this week. This was a good lead in for me to ask the question. Here's the conversation:
Me: There's this great restaurant that I used to go to that I really loved and used to go with friends a lot. Would you like to come this week if you have time?
Her: Hmm, let's see. I'm going to be a little busy - it's tax season and I haven't done mine yet. But let's see....
(at this time I was thinking I was shut down already...)
Me: Well, we can go whenever. No rush. If you're busy, it's cool. I completely understand.
(At this stage, I was expecting her to just say she'll get back to me, assuming no on her part, or she actually saying no.)
Her: Well... tomorrow I'm doing something, so Thursday should be good.
Me: Cool, that's great!
(This is where it starts getting mirky...)
Her: You want to go with other people as well, or just us two?
Me: Yeah, just us two is cool. If you want to bring other people, that's cool too. It's up to ya.
Her: No, us two is fine.
Me: Ok, cool. Sounds good.
(And here's the kicker....)
Her: But I just want to say that I'm not really dating at the time.
Me: No no... it's cool. I understand. It's just getting together, that's all.
Her: Ah ok, that's cool.
Me: Ok, cya!
She looked pretty calm through it all, but I just don't know what to make of it. Here are my questions:
1. Should I just take it as a no?
2. Does she actually want to go out and say that just so I don't expect much from her in case she doesn't like how the date goes?
3. Why didn't she just say no?
4. Why did she say yes and say what she said?
5. Should I call the date off? I don't want to force her into going if she's just being nice, for her sake.
I'll never understand women. :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye: