Okay, I came home lastnight from work and I sat down and started chatting with my sister. Well she said since I’m 19 and she is 22, we both need to visit the doctor and have things checked out. Well me being the ditzy person I am said “Why do I need to go to the doctor? I’m not sick.” And of course she rolled her eyes and said “Not just any doctor nerd, I’m talking about a gynecologist, and I already set up an appointment for us in a few weeks.” Well I just freaked out. I mean I know I need to go and have everything checked out but I’m scared to. What if they tell me I’ll never be able to have children? Or what if I something is really wrong? I’m really nervouse and I was wondering if anyone could give me any advice on how to calm my nerves, because I’m so afraid of going to the gyno. What’s it like? Will it hurt? I’m really nervous....
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Going to the gyno....ladies please help!
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Ok hon take a deep breath LOL
An examination like that is not painful, but sometimes 'uncomfortable' but more embarrassing than anything else the first time you have one. You have to bare in mind that they had done this a thousand times, and it really is nothing to them, so no need to be embarrassed. It helps me to be very matter of fact about things, you have to go, so hey just get on with it, and it will all be over quicker than you thought. Try NOT to worry about it, cos there isn't anything to worry about, it won't hurt, and i doubt they will tell you that you won't be able to have children hon, and if they do, or tell you there is something wrong, then you will deal with it - IF and when - no use worrying about what might be, cos worrying won't change a thing.
I remember my first exam, and smear test, jeez i was embarrassed, cos generally you only let someone you know (and hopefully love or have gotten drunk with LOL *joke* ) look at stuff, but its an every day thing for them, once you get pregnant you will have lots of examinations like this LOL so you might as well get in the right frame of mind now hon - its no big deal, no need to be embarrassed and everything will be fine *big hugs* -
I'm not a lady, but there's good info here, here, and here .You're a bit late. Your parents should have made an appointment for you a long time ago.
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Take a valium first...Just kidding. Angel is at it again, being right about it. They RARELY find anything wrong with otherwise healthy women. It is embarrasing the first few times, but it isn't painful.
And considering you read these boards, I think you will have good questions if you think of them there...
I have gotten to where I joke with the doc about finding it :grin: behind hairy leggs, or watch out for my big feet if they drop somthing, or the room is small....but be matter of fact for a while till you are comfortable with it.
And think about that poor dr...if it is a female having to look at those things all day, and never knowing what hers REALLY looks like (can you imagine her trying to see HER own cervix with a mirror?), and if it is a male, ask yourself if he can stand to go home and look at his wifes'...It just helps keep your mind off the exam.
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Thanks you guys, you've made me feel a little less nervous about my appointment. I'm still a bit scared, but you guys have helped alot. Thanks ^_^ I guess I'll be in need of a trim before I go lol
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Glad we could help! You'll be alright
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Glad we could helps sis, how long have you got to go before the examination by the way?
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SteveA, you said she was late in visiting a gyno. In the links you gave, one of them said you should get one at 18 or after you're sexually active. another said 13-15 yrs?(question to all, not just SteveA) So what is the age a girl is supposed to start going to the gyno (if they're not sexually active)?
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My pediatrition recomended it at 16 or 17 for my now 13 year old. Unless she is sexually active, then its when she gets active.
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I suppose that's reasonable if you're already seeing a doctor anyway, but the usual standard is 13 to 15 years of age (or upon becoming sexually active).
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My source is the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. What's your source?
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Well my gyno said 18 as well unless you become sexually active before.
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What's his/her source?Speaking of gynecology, recent studies show that breast self-exam is worse than useless.
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Steve, Amandas source is a doctor. You just like to argue dont you?
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Ill bet he cant say im sorry, either.
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Amanda's doctor may be God, but none that I've met is. While you were typing that comeback, you might have told us why you think 18 is the right age.
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http://www.estronaut.com/a/gynecological_visits_what.htm That says you should go by or at 18, so your both right arent i a good peace keeper? lol
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Do you have an opinion also on the right age for a first gyno visit, or just a comeback?
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Hey now, Im helping im looking if anything says 16 or anywhere between.