I think my boyfriend is about to propose to me. Well actually, I am 95% sure he is. Here's my evidence thus far:1. He took my dad out to lunch, which is weird because they hardly ever talk.2. He went to the mall with my best friend a few weeks ago.3. My ring that I wear on my ring finger mysteriously disappeared from my jewelry box, and returned the next day.4. My mom keeps giving me the "awwwww my baby is growing up look"5. Whenever my and my bf are watching tv, and a young couple are somehow committed to eachother, he tries to casually ask, what do you think about getting engaged young?6. He made reservations at this fancy-smancy restaurant for next weekend and invited my family and his.7. When I ask my mom whats up, she just smiles and quickly walks away. (she couldn't keep a secret to save her life)8. Out of the blue his sister calls me to ask my preference between white, yellow, or rose gold, wtf?I love him and all, but I cant get tied down right now. I've gotta finish school first. Plus how do I know if he is really truly THE ONE? We dont make enough money to live on our own and maintain the lifestyle I'm used to. I could see us growing old together, and there are plenty of reasons why I'd love to marry him, but I also have reservations. I know the spotlight will be on me at this dinner next week, and I dont want to say "yes" just to save face.How can I decline his proposal without making him feel, i dunno, like "less" of a man?
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How to decline a proposal?
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i dont know what its like.but i would think you should tell him how you feel before you go out, and you decline infront of both families making him and yourself feeling like asses.i say tell how you feel, that your not ready YET; maybe after your done with school...?
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i agree with dolfan0516bring it up with him first to save him the embarrassement
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And do it quickly - it sounds like they're making a lot of plans. Stupid to do it without knowing what your answer is; but, human nature being irrational, the more money they have spent that they can't get back, the more they'll blame you when you say no.
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I totally agree with ineligble hon, don't get blamed for this, say something soon that will make him re-think - like the next time you both see a young couple on the TV - you say, something about it, and how thats not for you!
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"5. Whenever my and my bf are watching tv, and a young couple are somehow committed to eachother, he tries to casually ask, what do you think about getting engaged young?"When he asks you that, tell him "if i ever get married i'd want it to be after I'm done with school" or somethingl ike that...If he doesn't ask, then bring it up somehow... "Me and my friend were takling about people marrying young, and she says xyz but I think I'd rather like to wait until after school"Something like that
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Well I talked to him, and it didn't go well, to say the least. I wasnt sure of how to approach him, so I just blurted it out (stupid, I know). I told him that I wasn't ready, and he got upset. He told me that life is too short, we aren't promised tomorrow, etc. I tried to explain that I dont love him any less, but I'm just not ready. Somehow it turned into a huge arguement. Ever have a fight with somebody and have absolutely no idea how and when it started? We were having a heart to heart conversation one minute and were yelling and screaming the next..... :confused:
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In reply to:Ever have a fight with somebody and have absolutely no idea how and when it started? We were having a heart to heart conversation one minute and were yelling and screaming the next yeah i know what that is like hon, once hes calmed down i am sure he will understand more, and maybe you could try telling him you love him again, cos when people argue sometimes you just hear the bad stuff.