Newbie needs help

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In reply to: I would rather die single then go out with/ seriously talk 2 her HAHA that cracks me up cuz i know what your talkin about. But i mean ill say it again, follow your heart, its tough to give advice without actually seein whats goin on

Im so confused I really need 2 talk to somebody I guess its driving me crazy but im getting mixed singles. when i talk 2 her on the computer just to even get her number she says "everyone wants me jk" its so annoying. AHHHHHHHHh

She says she loves someone else and she won't give you her number - I think you should do your best to forget about her.

well i havent really asked and she uses "love" loosly. Im sorry if im not being clear on my posts but in conversations she's said "I love you" and I know you love me, its one of her favorite words. I haven't asked for her number but when I try to have a serious conversation for one reason or another it always falls through..

hmmm yea the problem is to many people you the love word to loosely. The big problem is the confusion between love and lust. plus when you're younger i noticed girls say it as if its nothing. She may just be jokin around or loves you as a friend, but its hard to tell. But if it were me and she never wants to give me her number i would drop her like its hooottt

I dont think its hard to tell whether girl loves You as a friend or not. I mean, if really in doubt, then one should ask.But no, Ive personally always known when a girl Im with loves me or not. I mean, it hasnt really come hard for me. Its the way she says things, the way she looks, breathes on my neck when we hug, all those little details.Its usually Your own "feelings" that may confuse these senses. But in no way does it "confuse" the actual sense, but more like the analyzing capability of this sense.But nevertheless, when in doubt one can always ask. I think its not really right to like meet with a girl for months and months and not really know if She has those feelings for You or not and if its right to take the next step.Especially in the case where the two are friends. This doesnt ruin a friendship, its a myth that it does. Because its even more wrong when the one who has those questions doesnt really reveal these to the other person. Such a situation can go so wrong, so its always better to be clear and honest with Your friends. Just like one hsould be clear and honest with His or Her Love.The author of this thread though seems like a young person though, so I somewhat seem to understand where all these questions come from.But it may be a cold truth, but I dont think She is really interested. I mean, Im not really sure of Your age though, and if it is "young girl playing" because it may be "that age" where girls love to play this target, but still. I dont think She is interested in that way.I may be wrong though, cause its hard thing to analyze relationships going on between two young people like that.But hey, this online chat giggling thats going on isnt really the place to get Your answers from.You want answers? Go and talk to her.Its easier than it sounds. Or as easy as it sounds. Just do it kid..

just a random question....how old are you chris?

you need to chill out about this, if you stress out about it then your not going to go anywhere..im guessing you and her are 14, maybe 15? there isnt much i can say about the situation that hasnt already been said, but here i go..think about why you like her, what you love about her personality and how she pulls you towards her. if you can just express these feelings and tell her straight out about the effect she has on you.. then who knows what'll happen! ive done this so many times before.. when your casually talking to her, after she says something funny then say something like.. "thats what i like about you".. be smooth about it.talk with your heart, it'll get you far.

In reply to: just a random question....how old are you chris? 21

Just checkin cuz you didnt sound like a kid, but some people on here talk bigger than they are (no pun intended)

were both 16 sophomores. Like I said i havent had much luck with girls and she seems immature at times. Im quite stressed right now so it might not be the best time to pursue her but you only live once and if the summer comes and I havent made some sort of move we will probably lose touch.

Well she seems to go out her way to try to talk to me. One problem is I have nothing to talk about. Its impossible to hold a conversation if theres nothing to say. I guess this is also a problem.

Ask her about herself - what does she like, what does she hate, what does she hope to do when she finishes school . . . You can add a bit about how you feel about these topics, but if you keep the conversation mainly about her and you listen carefully and make sympathetic comments at the right times, she'll consider you a marvellous conversationalist.

In reply to:Just checkin cuz you didnt sound like a kid, but some people on here talk bigger than they are (no pun intended) No, but I am. A kid.