this was really serious..ive helped him through alot of rough times in his life and now he's losing trust in me..the thing is me lieing about the 3 guys came from one little lie...then it grew and grew and grew into something he was always jealous/angry about..just because i couldnt tell him the truth..so i basically have been lieing to him for over 1 1/2 years about it..and making him worry about it for nothing
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I feel REALLY guilty..and i need help
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Still I don't think he should be mad... he should rather be happy that you were/are just as much virgin as he was...
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i think your bf is way too emotional
i couldnt stand to be with someone like that, i mean, crying?? come on
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wait do you bone and give him head?if you do , go ahead tell him ,atleast he gets action now
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In my opinion, this guy is very childish and still has some serious issues. He's been angry/sad/whatever over something that happened(but didn't) before you were together. Why? Did he want a virgin because he was? IDK this all seems really stupid. If he has issues with you being with other guys then he should have been relieved. I have a feeling this guy has a tendency to be a very controlling and jealous person. He needs to come to terms with these issues.
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whoa. if it were me I'd be overjoyed and would probably ask for head! :PI guess I'm freaked out about girls I'm with (not that I ever am) being with guys before me. Anxiety issues probably.
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I dont know, I kind of understand where he is coming from. Once you lie, you have to keep lying and lying. I would be mad too, not because of the lie itself, but because you kept the lie going for so long. That said, he'll probably come to his senses after he has had time to think.
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well everyone..we talked about it..i gave him all the details..we're going to forget it ever happened..as for all of you saying the crap about"hes emotional, hes taking it too serious, hes a bonehead"..i dont know if i made it clear in my post..but ive been lieing to him for over 1 1/2 years..and it wasnt just a "i gave 3 guys head besides you" it led into all kinds of things about me being with other people..so everything he was upset about he just found out was a lie..i appreciate the helpful responses i got..as for the rest of you.i try to help when i reply to peoples questions..not make rude comments about people in the problem
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In reply to:it led into all kinds of things about me being with other peopleTherein lies the problem. Unless he's some religeous fundamentalist or from a culture where the female has to be chaste to be worthy, then this shouldn't have been an issue from the get go. I still think he's a bonehead for making this an issue all along.
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When you really love someone, you want to believe you're the only one they've ever been with. Nowadays I know that's nearly impossible, but some people would still like to know someone else waited. It has nothing to do with one person being "better" than anyone else...it has everything with sex being thrown away by young people today like its nothing. Trust me - when you meet the right person (and the right person isn't Johnny or Susy in 9th or 11th grade), you'll know how important sex really is to a relationship. That's the one thing physically that two people are supposed to share that no one else can. Sadly, no one cares today. People who have had sex before shouldn't even date people who haven't. Psychologically and emotionally, it's just going to hurt the person who hasn't experienced it yet, no matter what you do or what they say. If you can make it work, mor epower to you, but it's very hard...and if lies are involved, it's near impossible....and BTW - so what if the guy is crying? ...I'm sure none of you have ever done that. People should show their emotions. If they did that more often, people would have less reasons to cry. It has nothing to do with "being a man or not"...it has everything to do with being human.