Sex before marrige good or bad?

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i want to hear your guys and gals opienins

I dont see the point in waiting till marrige, most marriges these days end in divorces, sex is probably very slow after cause you guys didnt do it before, and why wait till you find the "one"

i think that if you deside to have sex before marrige it shoud be with the one and be done with protectshin

I dont believe in the "one" i have only loved one person, and i want it to be special for him, and i dont think marrige is required. Protection is a must, people who dont are crazy will all these STD's and over population.

i aggree Protection is a must expeshily in california were that new super aids

I just want to let ya'll know what i have read and experienced. I don’t believe in sex before marriage but then i am not really against it either. I have a girlfriend and i have could have sex with her about anytime we feel like it, but we have chosen not to, anyway. I believe we should wait till we are married because those first years are hard on the couple and most people get divorced during those first few years. Sex is supposed to help you get through those first few years. Think about it, when you and your bf/gf fight ya'll usually get over it and fall back into each other's arms, and it makes you realize how much ya'll love each other. Well if you have already had sex with each other and it's not that big of a deal when ya'll get married and you two are used to having sex then there really isn't anything to hold you two together after you get married and fight. I don’t know if this makes sense but the sex is like glue or a clamp to hold you two together for the first years of marriage. Then once you get though those years and get used to being together and the sex may or may not happen as frequent.So i wont tell people not the have sex before marriage but i think it's a good idea to wait. If ya'll cant wait and have to have it, then i would suggest that the two of you hold off from doing anything, even kissing, for a month or 2 weeks (longer then a week) and see how your relationship holds up, if it is tense and ya'll aren't getting along then it's probably not meant to be. Let me know if ya'll need further info on this. Hope it helps ya'll out there stay away from potentionally bad relationships that end in pain.

Nothing in and of itself is good or bad, its the intent that matters...

With that said:

Protection Protection Protectiong. With the bodily out of the way lets get down to some truths...

There is only ONE HUGE factor that I would say wait as long as darn possible.

Unless you are some robotic emotionless animal, sex has a ton of meaning. Despite what you think before having sex, the two who engage in it will be changed. They will feel different around each other and think differently with each other. Sex adds a dimension to a relationship that a lot of people, especially if they are young, do not understand.

Therefore I believe that the idea of waiting until marriage is a good idea because hopefully by then the couple involved is mature enough to handle the stresses and new dimension that sex will bring

i aggree and disaggree with what you say but i still think that if you are going to have sex before marrige it should be with the ONE make shure of that and make shure that you are in love with him/her!!!!!!!!!!!! and use protection or you could get a std git/or cause pregnant/pregnancy

i believe waiting until marriage to have sex does not enhance the value of marriage. if anything, it takes it away. If your only ambition to marry someone is so that you can get them into the honeymoon suite and fuck their brains out, you're going to have a very short marriage (don't read too much into this...i'm nothing more than a smart ass 17 year old, my opinion may not be that valid.) If you love the person it shouldn't matter if you're married or not.

The idea of the ONE, in my opinion, does not exist. I think though, your idea is correct. You definitely should think about it and be as sure as humanly possible before engaging in sex. And yes definitely LOVE the person. There I would have to absolutely agree with you! Im not sure what you disagree with so....um.....yeah...bye!

To someguy- The idea is correct. If your just marrying to have sex, it wont last. But, if you that type of person to begin with, you would of had sex before marrage anyway.

I decieded not to wait. I dont see the point. I say live life to the fullest. Only live once, so I'm going to have fun :grin:

I say wait if you eventually wanna be married and have a family...cause its a waste...most older people I know say they wished they would have waited

Now to those eternal bachelors-do what you got to do...

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Sex outside of marriage can be erotically intense, but the feelings afterwards include an emptiness or lack of fullfulment. Sex in a committed relationship leaves a deep love for your spouse and a deep sense of being loved. Eye contact during orgasm creates a most intense feeling of intimacy. Living without fear of STDs feels secure.
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thats deep JR but ideally you should be married to have sex....am i right or wrong :confused:

It's all personal opinion...if you want to wait then wait, but don't come here and preach that's it's wrong not to wait. Do what's best for you.

It is possible to have a committed relationship outside of marriage. And some people have sex outside of a committed relationship altogether and do just fine, although they may not share your values.

I have been having sex outside of marriage for the last 8 years, but in a committed relationship, you don't need to be married to be in love with someone, so you don't need to be married to have sex with someone, tho i think you should be in love with someone to have sex with them - in a perfect world!

I think it's up to a person whether it's good or bad. It's really a matter of opinion. I didn't wait, but sometimes wish I did. Shrugs

I think its great b4. hahaha..but u have to respect the girl if she wants to wait dont pressure her its her thing that she has always believed in

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Right or wrong gets determined by belief systems.

Twentieth century thinking: pregnancy means you have to get married.

The Old Testament says that doing the marriage act equals a marriage commitment.

The New Testament says it's better to marry than to burn in lust. And young teens got married.

I think the link to delayed marriage has to do with financial independence. Youth used to become apprentices to develop a career. Now they spend four years in high school, and perhaps another four (or more) in college, before becoming self-supportive.
I'z thinks this stinks.
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