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hi everyone i really hope u can help me with thisi had an abortion 9 weeks ago and since then i bleed one day then have a dark discharge the next its really worrying me as my fiance wants to have sex again but i just dont feel like it due to all these body functions! does anyone know what is wrong and if it will clear?

I would be asking this question to your doctor, or someone else who knows the after effects of an abortion.To be honest, if had had to go through something like that i don't think i would be ready for sex for a while, regardless of bleeding or not.

You definitely need to see a doctor. Bleeding that long afterwards is not normal.

Yes definatly see a doctor. I also WOULD NOT have sex until you know what is going on. You could get an infection (if you don't already have one) and if you have a tear or something, it could make it worse.

I wouldn't have sex again until I was responsible enough to use a form of birth control.

How do you know what the circumstances were or if she was using a form of birth control?

Trust me; I've been having sex for seven years on birth control and havent' gotten pregnant. If you don't want to get pregnant badly enough, you won't. If you use it responsibly, it's pretty damn rare.

Things happen, birth control isn't always effective even if taken correctly.

Yeah, less than 1%. I'm so sick of you arguing with people and your dry comments.

Sounds like a personal problem...All I'm saying is that you shouldn't accuse her of not using birth control when you don't know the situation. I take the pill correctly and it has failed on me before, and if I recall it has failed on Angelwitch as well.

Amanda your spot on, and I don't think its as rare as i first thought it was.Boodiddle - I was on the pill when i got pregnant with my first, using condoms when i got pregnant with my second and back on the pill when i had my last baby........sometimes you can be very careful and things still happen hon, the only sure fire way not to get pregnant is not to have sex in the first place! - dammit LOL

i already have 2 kids was on the pill with my first one and had the implant with my second one, i wanted the thrid child but due to medical problems it wasnt possible so i had to take the option of abortion it has scarred me for life

Oral contraceptive fail about 9% of the time under typical useage. Under ideal conditions, the pill is effective 99.9% of the time (see reference). That means that if you have sex regularly, there's a reasonable chance of failure at some point.If your BC fails, please don't blame yourself. I understand that you wanted the third child, and you suffered a terrible loss, but you did what you had to do for the sake of your family.If you're still bleeding or have a discharge, please, please, please see your doctor. Even if there's nothing wrong, you may want to discuss your feelings with your doctor; your situation is not unique and he or she may be able to help.________________________________________________reference:Hatcher RA et al., Contraceptive Technology, 17th rev. ed., New York: Ardent Media, 1998; and Hatcher RA et al., The Essentials of Contraceptive Technology, Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University School of Public Health, Population Information Program, 2001.

Well, I'm very sorry to hear about that. You really should talk to a doctor though, it could be dangerous to your health.

Steve, I nominate you to be a moderator. You always give helpful, friendly advice, which is obviously what people come here to get. :smile: Good job, Steve.

Thanks for the compliment, but I seem to have frequent bouts of broken people skills, so I'll just jump in from the sidelines. Just trying to help.