im a teen and i just recently started having sex. The only problem is that i cant orgasm. 10..15..even 20 minutes pass but i cant. even when i get a BJ i cant. The only way icould is if i masterbate. whats thevproblem, i need help.
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Cant orgasm
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If your using a concom, that would dull the sensation (keep using the condom if you are, dont be a dumbass)
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Sometimes the body has become so used to the sensations of masturbation that something different doesn't work. It's a matter of getting used to the new sensations, so it should get better in time. In the meantime you could try not masturbating for a few days beforehand.
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It could very well be nerves (performance anxiety). Don't rush things. As you get older, you'll wish you could go back to the 20 minutes without ejaculation.I agree, too, that condom use may diminish the sensation, but don't give it up. Unless you're in a mature, committed relationship you shuld even think of sex withour one.
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Sorry for bringing up an old post, But it seems I have the same problem.. If I masterbate I can cum in like 2-3 minutes seems like nothing, But whenever I am with my g/f I cannot cum. She has given me head and we just started having sex and it seems difficult for me to cum.. I always wear a condom... So that could be it, but I just find it really weird that it can take her forever to make me cum(if she even can) and if i masterbate it takes 3 minutes...
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That is quite common buddy, your penis is just accustomed to your masturbation technique..your hand and a vagina provide two very different types of stimulation. Just keep working at it and enjoy the fact that it takes longer! By varying your masturbation habits you can help "re-train" your penis so respond to a variety of stimulations.
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Thanks for the help everyone, i thought i was alone... It is veryyyy appreciated... Anyone have any tips that they may give?
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Here are a couple....if you're not using lubrication, add that and lessen your grip. Alter your speed between slow and fast. Try to loosen your grip and not apply too much pressure. If you can, try some hands free techniques that provide the opportunity for your penis to respond to the same stimulation and "activity" as intercourse. (go visit www.jackinworld.com) for some tips on some of those suggestions. Basically just change everything you are currently doing with masturbation and try not to do it the same way everytime. Good luck, let us know if you need more help!
