Yes its true, my lovely relationship is about to end But, I need some help here. I need advice on how to break up with my gf in the nicest way possible. I know that she will obviously be hurt atleast a little, but I still like her, just not in the way I used to. You know the whole "I wish we could just be friends" thing, well I would really like to just be friends with her. She is a great person and everything I'd want in a friend, just not more. Hence my desperate need to not hurt her more than neccesary. Please help, and I shall reward you with Mars bars and Curly Wurlys.
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Breaking Up
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why dont you just try along the lines of what you just said to us
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make her break up with you, do all the things she finds annoying...worked for me
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Like I've told you earlier, you guys probably just got caught up in the moment and didn't stop and think about what you were doing and how you'd feel later on in the relationship. You need to talk to her and explain to her how you feel. You need to tell her that you guys need a break, that being away from one another for long periods of time is really begining to strain the relationship and because you're working for such long periods of time you don't feel you can give her what she wants in this relationship. Just sit her down and explain how you feel, I know you can find the right words to let her down easy. You don't need to stay in a relationship you don't feel completely happy in, because in the long run you'll just hate yourself and her for staying for the wrong reasons. You don't have to take my advise, I'm just trying to help you the best I can because you've been an amazing friend to me and I just hope I can be one to you. I wish you the best of luck ^^ Now where is my Mars bars and Curly Wurlys? I'll be waiting ^^ --- I hope I've helped a little
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make her break up with you, do all the things she finds annoying...worked for me
That is extremely obnoxious and childish. Don't do it if you hope to maintain any kind of relationship with the girl. Something that has at least a passing connection with honesty would be a much better idea.
Wow...from "looking for first serious one" to "ready to move on" in a matter of weeks. Bobalicious is like a Ferrari...0 to 60 in no time.
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big hugsI was just about to PM ya and find out how things were going, then i read this.I think aTa is right, just tell her what you told us. Theres no point flowering it all up, cos it will all mean the same in the end. Be honest with her about how you feel, honestly is ALWAYS the best policy. Good luck with that hon, and don't forget to PM me if you need to have a moan.
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Well, where shall I start... In reply to:why dont you just try along the lines of what you just said to us Well that was just plain lazy... but very usefull, thank you. In reply to: make her break up with you, do all the things she finds annoying...worked for me That sounds so tempting, but as Steve said I still want to be friends with her. OK, not gonna quote all of what you said Katie, but it was all useful. I know you've already helped me out with this and so has Angel, but I just needed a wider perspective. But you still gave me some of the most useful advice, thank you. You are a great friend and the chocolate is on its way. In reply to: Wow...from "looking for first serious one" to "ready to move on" in a matter of weeks. Bobalicious is like a Ferrari...0 to 60 in no time. Yeah I know, but we never see each other and as Katie said, I think we just got caught up in everything and I didn't think ahead. Of course I'll PM you when I get back Angel, I'm meeting up with her in just over an hour... and its pissing rain outside! What a horrible day to do this. But I can't put it off any longer, with the way things are going I might not even see her again for a few months!Well, when I get back I should have an update, whether it went well, badly or if I chickened out... Thanks for all the advice. Except Steve, you just pointed out flaws in the one idea that seemed easy.
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OK, weather is so bad meeting up today is impossible, so operation 'do or die' is on hold. Thank god I have a shit load of homework to do, I need something to keep my mind of this.
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Well that was just plain lazy... but very usefull, thank you.
Im not sure if that was a compliment or not but im gonna take it as one. I meant it though i wasnt being lazy. What you said was a bold enough answer i think, and if i were to do it i prolly woulda said to her what you said to us, i mean its the truth isnt it?
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Well it was a joke, and a comliment, sorta. Yeah, I may be meeting up with her later today, I gotta do it soon. I'm putting it off too much.
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Good luck hon big hugs
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Just read this post today and I agree with everything but the whole "get her to break up with you." Just tell her how you feel. That's all you can do. Good luck!
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Sorry, bob...breakups ALWAYS suck. If you haven't yet, I have always found that the honesty thing allowed me to be friends with my guys afterwards...sometimes the friendship fades, but it still isn't as ugly as waiting till the other person drives you nuts, and you hate each other.
Good luck sweety.