Is it worth it?
Hey, There is this guy in my Marine Sciences class, and he is extremely nice, respectful, polite, and every thing you could wish for in a guy. But, Hes black. My father would *kill* me and him if he found out i was even flirting with him, and its well just not fair. should i go against my fathers wishes and get disowned if he finds out, or just back off and think there will be other guys?
ps: im jewish, and my parents are STRONG jewish
If some guy really liked you but his family didn't like Jews would you be happy if he backed off?
I dont have to tell him my dad is crazy, i cant just revert back to being friends.
Go for it. Your dad can't hold you against your will. This is YOUR life. Not his. My parents always said that they would disown me if i ever dated outside my race until recently. Now they've changed their tune. They said they'd prefer grandchildren of our own race but he'd find it hard to hold it against us if the guy treated me well, wasn't lazy, and took care of me and owned up to his responsibilities.
It didn't work out too well for Romeo and Juliet, but it might work better for you: "Dad, guess who's coming to dinner!"It sounds like your dad's already a piece of work; being a bigot is just icing on the cake. You need to decide whether it's worse to bow to the wishes of a racist, or worse to screw up your relationship with your father even more than it already is.Personally I'd just go for it...but you have to decide for yourself.
I told my dad i have a new boyfriend and described all the nice qualities, so far he approves. i only left out one little detail
LOL.. I could just see the look on his face if he saw him.
You'd better see Guess who's Coming to Dinner with Sidney Poitier to see what you're in for. I hope there's no problem with your dad...good luck. It might be interesting if you could get them on the phone together, so your dad gets more locked into the idea of your dating the guy. If you could get them to IM together....nah, to much to ask for.
That remindsm e of "guess who?" when the couple (can't remember names) first go to her parents house... the dad thinks the taxi driver is her boyfriend b/c the taxi driver is black..
except my dad thru in the words disown and heart attack several times in the same sentace...bernie mack pulls it off much better rotfl
It sounds more like Fiddler on the Roof (youngest daughter) than GWCTD. In the movie the middle daughter did not look very Jewish. I suspect Tevye's wife may have stepped out on him one or more times.
omg thats hillarious "do you love me" "oh sure, except for that one night...."
"Do I love you?
Two daughters and an affair,
One from the postman who had time to spare
..."
Their talking on the phone about his gpa, major, aspirations, intentions. so far my dad aproves. james (the guy) thinks its hillarious my dad doesnt know hes black
Excellent. I wish you could videotape this...I'll bet MTV would be interested. You have to keep us up to date.
I think you may have gone about it the wrong way, i first off wouldn't of told my parents i was dating at all. They didn't need to know, not at first anyhow. Specailly with there feelings.As for the color thing and religion thing i can't wrap my head around it. Id personally kill my own parents if i heard them say that shit. Jewish, black, purple, doesn't matter its a word its a color. If you follow the relegion as much as them then you wouldnt want to be with him in the first place so go for what YOU want.In the end its up to you, if you love him or like him right now stay with him. If they go to meet him unlike the movie guess who let them know before he gest over there. As well let him know your parents feelings, so its not aquard... He does deserve to know as well, so he can decide whether or not he wants that preasure. If he doesn't your issue is solved with out getting parents involved.If he does like you and want to be with you sit down iwht your parents and let htem know, and say i want you to meet him first. Bring a copy of romeo and juliet home when you do this talk, as soon as they start bringing up the kill you part throw it at them and walk out.-Dan
See i want my dad to like him, approve and then meet him.
Im usually extremely open with my parents (hell i told them when i lost my virginity, they REALLY didnt approve, but we lived in a very casual environment)
In reply to: See i want my dad to like him, approve and then meet him. Thats the problem, when people are racist or whatever it may be called when it comes to religion they don't see it like that. They may say oh he is awsome, he rules... But once that color comes in every logic goes out the window.They won't see past the color, they won't remember how sweet he was a second ago, or how nice they thought he was.To respect someone is to know them, to know them you have to of met them. So they will never know or respect him, not until they meet him...If you go about it this way your setting yourself and him up for disapointment.-Dan
thats not my dad, i did the same thing for my senior prom (atheist guy) and when he met him, it was all ok, and now he knows he has less pull since im out of the house
He doesn't like atheists? That's awful. Skin color is obvious, but does your father talk about religion with your boyfriends?
