I don't want to be considered a loser

---

This stinks. My g/f asked me if i wanted to have sex but i said no. I don't want to have any risk of having a kid and i always hear of people accidentaly having a kid. I kind of want to wait until maraige, but i don't want to be made fun of for being a baby or something

If your gf cares at all about you she should respect and understand your morals. You shouldn't be considered a loser just for wanting to wait for sex til marriage. MANY guys feel the same way. Just make sure she understands.

yeah,tell her you're flattered!but not ready for it.

But... I wouldn't go up to my girl and say "I'm flattered!" I'd put it in other words.

That's a noble thing for you to do in my opinion. Waiting for marriage isn't easy from what I can tell.

You were given the opportunity to have sex, and you turned it down after thoughtfully thinking about it. I'm impressed. Most guys wouldn't be that reasonable or mature. I'd say you're the opposite of a baby or a loser.

Yeah, just tell her how you feel and hopes she understands, I messed that up and lost a gf that way. Chances are if she really loves you she'll easily understand and she will know that if you have a few close lady friends that you won't go cheating on her or try anything with anyone else.

I think what's reasonable and mature is to think about it and come to a considered decision.

You're not a loser. Standing up for what you believe is a respectable attribute.

If you are having sex with someone you care about and you are ready to have sex that means sex would be mature and resonable. But since this kid didn't want to have sex and he was offered it was really mature of him to be able to turn it down despite what others may have thought of him. Sex is only immature when you are having sex just to have sex either because you think everyone else is or u really dont give a shit about the person and view them as an object.

99% of the world is immature.

Thanks to everyone for your comments.I feel a lot better. O by the way, she understood and said she was willing to wait until i was ready. While i am posting, how do you people get your ratings with the stars i want one of those

Another question that i have is how many more posts do i need before i get a new rating

You could post once and get a rating. It just depends on if someone rates you. If you have no stars, then you haven't been rated by anyone yet.

there u go... now u have stars.

how do you 'rate' someone?

if you click on someones username to see there profile, there is an option near the bottom to "rate" someone, you can choose between 1 - 5 stars

thanks for the rating? for that i give u five stars

woohoo