So me and my ex went out for about 9 months, and had that whole first real love thing. He was everything to me, and I knew that he really cared about me. Well we broke up in aug. 2003, and at first everytthing was horrible. we would fight everytime we talked or i would beg for him back, and it was just really hard not to be with him. we started hanging out again in nov. and we had sex and i thought then maybe we would get back together. well we didnt and i was really upset. In Feb. I lost one of my really close guy friends in a car accident and went to my ex for some support, we are now talking again and have had sex like 10 or so times since then. I really love being with him, and i love having sex with him, but it sucks because i know he's just using me. WEll this month i had a huge scare and when i told him i didnt get the reaction i wanted, he was pissed and didnt believe me, then thought i was just trying to trap him. But then he would swich moods and be like "baby we can get through this, i promise" and telling me that its not a bad thing and that its good, and that he wasnt using me, since he cares about me. like i dont know what i am supposed to do about him anymore. I still care about him as must as i ever did, i just wish i would know what he really thinks. I mean does it honestly seem like hes just completly using me? and is there a chance that he still might care? i mean everytime i stop talking to him and start actually getting over him, he calls. I just dont know what to do or how to handle any of this anymore!.
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Sex and my ex
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Truthfully, I think he's using you. Unfortunately, a lot of guys will say anything just to get into your pants. Although, it may be true that he cares about you, but just to a certain extent. It sounds like he wants you as a sex buddy, or a "friend with benefits" deal. You need to learn how to move on and subside these feelings you have for him. I know it's hard since you said you were in love with him. If it makes you feel better, ask him if there will be a chance that the two of you will be together again and if he says yes then how long will it be. I think your best option is to just move on though.
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I think he's using you too, and you're letting him. You need to move on.
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I know he is just using me, but its hard not to let it all happen, because we are still cool around each other (unless hes high) I just loving being with him, its hard not to, plus i dont want a new partner and love sex, i just want to have a cool friendship before we have sex, but that basically liek being together except he can be with whoever, even though hes not. I just dont get it, im trying to move on, i just im not letting myself even though i know what i need to do. Anyone got any good ideas on how to move on fast?
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Well, not to be too obvious, but stop having sex with him for starters. You'll get over him soon enough. We all had been there, and there's no magic way to get over someone.
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Take care of yourself, go out and work out, pay attention to your diet, go to the hair salon, get your nails done, go to the tanning bed, watch your diet, keep yourself busy. As time goes by, you'll find it easier and easier.