Sex dreams with close friends and such

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Hi,

16 (very soon to be 17) year old male..never had sex before but I really masturbate a lot and watch a lot of porn. I have recently been having a lot of sex dreams. Last night, I had a very vivid one with one of my close friends who is a girl (not a girlfriend by any means) and 1 year older than me. She is close, and I tell her stuff, but almost never anything personal...although she does turn me on sometimes and I know she has a different side to her as well which she doesn't tell me about. So I had this very explicit sex dream..I even remember using a condom and stuff. When I woke up I discovered that I had actually ejaculated in my sleep! I NEVER do that! It was an intense dream..

I haven't spoken to her yet, and when I do, I don't think I would be able to tell her this sort of thing (we're not that close even).

Any thoughts?

Not sure what thoughts you are looking for. It's called a wet dream and is very common during puberty.

Well, if you are interested in becoming more than just friends, telling her about it could be a good way to let her know. If she reacts negatively, you can always say it was just a dream. On the other hand, if she acts interested in your dream, that would be a very strong clue that she's intested in you in that way as well .

that's a really good idea...but i keep ruminating the idea of it...i mean, i don't know her that well, and she's still a girl, and i know she can completely get grossed out by this kind of stuff...so if i did tell her, she might react with the most violent negativity ever...threatening to not speak to me or something...i dunno?? but like you said i could just tell her it was just a dream so..also i'm not sure i even want to become more than a good friend with her so maybe i shouldn't tell her.thanks

Yeah, first you need to decide if you want to be more than friends. If not, I'd keep the dream to myself.If you're worried about a negative reaction, just start out in a real gentle and general way. For example, first bring up the subject of dreams. Then after a bit, you could say something like "Oh, I had this strange dream the other night that you and I were intimate." Then, depending on how she reacts, you could go into more detail. And to get out of a bad situation, you could say "Boy, people sure have strange dreams sometimes. Don't know where that one came from."

i would strongly recommend not telling her. think of ti this way.. if you tell her, she will have either a positive(interested) reaction, or a negative(disgusted) reaction. if shes negative, which personal experience tells me she will, then every time you compliment her or look at her when you two arent having a conversation, shell immediately think that you are thinking of her in the sexual manner you did the night of the dream. BUT, if you dont tell her, then you can still act the same way you do now and tell her she looks good and she wont freak and start to pull away from you.

I agree with cub.

If the dream hadn't been sexual, I'd say go ahead and tell her. Since it was sexual, and you don't know her well enough to gauge her reaction, I think its best not to tell her. I'm not a person that believes "dreams" always mean something though.

well if a guy told me that it would be a real turn on i think you should somehow get into the topic and let her know

Even if it were a guy you were close friends with, but didn't want to have sex with? It wouldn't make you feel weird the next time you talked to him?

i have had a few sexual dreams of a friend of mine (shes female). we are both 19 and even though i used to want to date her, we are just both friends now.i do have a gf and i do occasionally jerk off while thinking of my friend (shes hot and i like to have ideas), but having dreams about it mean nothing, right?or is it just likely that i would probably still want to go out with my friend if she asked me to (and i was single)?

ive had sex dreams about friends that are girls. when i wake up, i feel and think differently of them...sometimes i have temporary feelings for them. they soon wear off..in an hours span..just a dream..

I agree somewhat with Ilikeitalot. Look, it is a given that any woman eould feel flattered that you had a dream about them. They are strange that way. You don't even have to tell her it was a sexual dream...at first. Let her take the idea to the level she feels comfortable with. You and she are close, she is the closest thing you have to a real girlfriend, a flesh and blood sex toy, so your mind in sleep inserted (ahhh.....had to say that, it is a sex forum, right??)her features into the generic "woman" that would usually be the recepient of your interest. No need to make more of it than it is. It seems like some dreams can become self fullfilled, and you seem interested in making that so.Of course, since I cannot make anything simple, maybe your subconcious is telling you that she has very strong feelings for you, but you just haven't or don't want to pick up on that at a concious level.

I have thought about sleeping with several of my friends, some of them were probally interested in me but i missed the signals.