I signed up for one but all I have received are messages from people from russia.If I had $$$, I don't think I would have any problems. But then they wouldn't like me for me.
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Disabled and breasts
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This has to be one of the sadest situations I have heared of in a while. I feel bad for you, its so shit not knowing anyone. I have moved countrys and I know whats its like to know no one and be all alone. I met all my friends through school or college. You say you went to school so would it be possiable for you to get a job? Jobs are often some of the best ways to meet people. Hell you could even go to college and do further education. Its kind of hard for people in your age group to find people via internet since alot of 40ish year old women dont have computers or dont use the internet. Or if they do they arnt looking to meet new people. Most people are scared/feel akward of disabled people because they dont want to say somthing to offend them. You may find if people are acting wierd around you they feel sympathetic for you? I find some people talk to disabled people like kids, that really pisses me off. You just have to make them get past that akwardness barrier. To tell the truth I feel akward too around people with disablitites because I dont want to end up offending them. Any kind of club or anything you could meet people though, if your desperate enough you could try religion to meet new people.
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see at first i was like...you have the internet, then i figured out what you were saying.if a woman doesnt want to be with you just because youre disabled, would you still want to be with her? I wouldnt, just keep your chin up
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Dude you always reply to the wrong person.
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i just press the first reply button i see, people see it anyway...
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Ya I know but I get the email saying you have replyed. If you reply to the apropriate person then that person will see your reply since I dont usialy check a thread again unless I get the reply email. Not having a go at you or anything like that. I you want to carry on doing it by all means do, its just kinda confusing tiz all.
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ah ok my bad, you know until now, i didnt even notic the whole "re: soandso: think at the title, now i keep checking lol'most forums i go to just have a general "reply" button
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Yeah same here, its kinda anoying when you want to post a general reply and you have to find the most relivant other post. But yeah glad I could be of assistance :laughing:
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Also, if you don't post to the right person, and you look at a topic in threaded (versus flat) mode, you trash the flow of the threads.To iw2sbs: There are a lot more 40+ people on chat boards, dating services, etc. than there used to be. And if you meet someone, a WebCam might be something to think about.
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It is tough when everybody around you is getting married and having kids and you can only wish for someone. I admit have made alot of mistakes in the past! I know I have to do something and soon! There has to be someone out there! :smile:
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I still think a job would help you meet now people? Do you have one at the moment?
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No, I don't have one. Don't know what the heck I could do.
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You never really said what type of disablility you have or if you didn't want to say.
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Well even considering your disability that shouldnt stop you getting a job. There are plenty of jobs whos buildings are disabled friendly. You should start with what you enjoy doing and what you are qualified for and go from there. I dont think many people meet anyone without work or school or college. Thats the main place to meet new people. All you have to do is enter one of those environments and youre on your way to makeing friends. Also you say you live out in the middle of nowhere, this isnt going to be the easiest places to live or meet new people. Consider maybe getting a job in buisy area and if all goes well move into the area. Just because youre disabled shouldnt stop you being indapendant. I dont want to put it nastly but one day your parents will pass away and then you will have to be indapendent and have no one to help you. At least if you try and move out now you will have their love and support. I dont know if this all aplys to your situation because I dont know everything about your lifestyle. I hope this gives you a few ideas on where to go with your life.
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The reason I asked about money was not to attract girls, but to give you more independence. Either you want to get a job that will support you, or if that's not possible because of your disability, you should have a disability pension. Living with parents is cheap and convenient, but it's holding back your personal development. It would be much better if you could, for example, live in a shared house in a town.But it's hard to give advice knowing so little.
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I gave sort of an answer. :smile: I'm breakable which means my bones aren't as strong as everybody else's. A little move this way or that way could mean a broken arm, leg, etc. Of course it hurts when it happens but the pain meds make things better. :smile: When I was a kid in middle school all the other kids were doing archery in pe. I wanted to do it, went to shoot my first arrow, ouch there went my arm. Back to watching all the kids have fun. :frowning:
About job, yeah I know. I should have gotten one many years ago. Don't know why I didn't. Not enough guidance I guess.
I think about the future all the time, its pretty much all I do. I have no idea what will happen. That's why I am hoping to find someone.
Being independent, I guess it's another one of the things we messed up on. Maybe they didn't think I could handle it. I don't know. I guess we should have tried something. Doing something now? I don't know.
Hopefully, others in similar situations haven't made the kind of mistakes I have made.
Hmm, maybe I shouldn't be telling all the mistakes I have made. Who would want someone who is one big mess?
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you have to have more confidence in yourself. Some girls like big messes. You are who you are and nothing, not even a disability, can get in the way if that. Remember, theres someone for everyone, but you gotta look.
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I definitely need confidence or something. I am always looking. I still have hope or I wouldn't be here.
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Its a start. Just a few years ago I wasnt very great when it came to women, just give it some time!
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I think about the future all the time, its pretty much all I do. I have no idea what will happen.
It depends what you make happen, iw2sbs. Things can happen, but you have to take action to carry them out. It's not too late to start. Why not start looking into jobs you can do?