I have been going with this guy who is so incredibly hott. I mean he puts the hott in hottness (no duh). Like an Orlando Bloom replica (girls you know what I mean). And he seems like the one though I'm not making any promises. So one day we were at my best friends party and he and I were sitting next to each other talking. Like a pretty serious conversation. Then he told me something pretty shocking. He said "you know your boobs are really big". This caught me by surprise and I said "yeah I guess they are". So then he said "well have you ever thought of getting them smaller". I told him I had but I don't know how. He suggested surgery and I looked at him like he had two huge green heads on his neck. I asked him what was wrong with them now and he said oh nothing they're just kinda big. I for one am very offended by this I did not ask to have big boobs at all. He kinda ruined that romantic moment we were having and I went to sit with my bff. I am really hurt by what he said. How can I be with someone who doesn't like me having big boobs. I don't want to get surgery, like I said in my previous posts. I talked to my closest to age sister about it and she said "dump the sucker". But I can't just fall out of love like that, not over a discussion on boobs. Plus he's really sweet, kinda like the type of guy every girl dreams of having. But it made me think that I was fat but I don't even weigh that much, like 132 lbs. That's not alot is it? I work out everyday, but the boobs haven't gotten smaller yet. I don't want to bring up the discussion again for my sake. No surgery though. What should I do?
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Um... no name sowwy
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you are who you are and if you decide to get a breast reduction then go ahead. but tell him to pay for it hehe
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But I don't want a breast reduction. I don't want surgery at all.
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He should love you for who you are, and not for what you have. You'd think he'd like a girl with large breasts!
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Yeah thats what I thought. But I guess some guys don't like girls with big breasts. :frowning:
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i ment he shouldnt be saying that at all love a person for who they are you cant change anyone
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exactly
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Well, see if he has a small penis and say, you should get surgery, its kinda small :-p
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lol that's funny I should do that
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Dump him! And I'm not saying that to give myself a chance , he is an immature asswipe and if he can't see past your breasts (no pun intended) then he is not worth being with.
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**a good example that just cos someone looks good, doesn't mean they are! I agree with the others dump him, what an asshole.
I have big breasts, and i have known very few men in my life who wished they were smaller.
Be happy with yourself hon, you are you and you should love it :grin: ** -
I agree w/ everyone else, but before u dump this jerk, u should see why he said that. Don't know if u will dump him or not but if u do, u might want to know his intentions before hand. Idk.
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i wouldn't get them reduced but that's my opinion because i ike big ones. i disagee with the fact tht ladies here say that he doesn't really love you. because he might really love you but just be interested in your boobs. becasue love is not only about feelings it's also about sexuality which includes your body so him saying he thinks they are too big doesn't nesseceraly mean that he doesn't love you.
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Good point Paki. But, it was kind of rude for him to say something like that, so my advice is to ask him why he said something like that, right out of the blue. Smooches said it was a kind of romantic mood so I don't know why he would say something random like that. Also, my opinion, you shouldn't get them reduced. Be happy with who you are! Also I like big ones too.
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I don't have too much experience on the subject, but I was under the impression that a girl's breasts don't define who she is. He should be greatful to have a wonderful girl in his life.
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i happen to be a guy who doesn't like big boobs. but if i like you as a person, then i wouldn't be upset about your big boobs. he obviously is about your chest and not you. if you dont want the surgery dont get it. with him, i suggest you think it over and dont let him break your heart because you seem so into him but he just wants your chest to be the way he likes it.