i have just a couple questions regarding sex...my girlfriend and i have been dating for 9 months, and she says shes ready for sex. not that i'm scared, but really just wondering about some stuff. i've heard that usually girls wont orgasm the first few times, and also stuff about how rubbing certain areas helps, how does this work? any information will be greatly apreciated. also, i'm dont know any techniques with giving female oral. i know the whole deal, but i dont know anything different from moving your tongue around and stuff. is this all it takes? and would girls enjoy that more than sex? also, what would be the best position to first try?
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A Couple Questions
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**First please dont' post the same question more than once...secondly if you do a search i am sure you will find tips about giving a girl oral etc..........and as the which postition to start with, what ever feels comfortable for you both, it doesn't have to be some wild position like hanging from the lampshade, you on top of her, for the first time would probably be the best............also, no don't expect her to orgasm, most women don't..........the secret to good sex, is being comfortable with eachother, being relaxed, and having lots of fun.................remember be safe, use a condom. **
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Without giving too much detail, just tell her not to fake it and to only moan when she feels the need. This will greatly help you establish what areas feel best for her. Lick the labia and surrounding skin until she starts to breath a little more roughly than at the beginning, or when you get another signal like a moan. You need only really explore with your tongue until she starts to become more frequent in her moaning. You can compare having sex with a woman to helping her deliver a baby. If you have the basic knowledge of delivery that is. The contractions cause moans which show that the orgasm is approaching. When the contractions start getting closer together, stimulate the clitoris with your tongue, and spread the labia with your fingers. Be sure you stimulate in increasing pace so you actually get a reaction. I could probably give better advice, but I'm more of a hands on kind of guy. Good luck!P.S.: I've never known a woman not to orgasm, that is bullshit. They might not have their best orgasm, but women start having orgasms within 5-15 seconds of any sort of stimulation and continue on sometimes even after sex.
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Good advice for the most part, but there are indeed some women who do not orgasm during sex or a particular kind of sex. I dated a girl for a year and a half and she never had an orgasm. I don't believe this is a reflection on my abilities, although it might be; but we were enthusiastic and young, and I am reasonably sure that if she could have, she would have. Some people are just built differently, or take time to reach that place.
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It doesn't have to do with your abilities so much as discovering what makes her orgasm. I've been with a few girls, and they've always orgasmed. There was only one time at which one of them though she hadn't orgasmed(it was her first time), so I made sure she'd be certain the next time. Some girls take a longer amount of time to orgasm, but not by days. It's seconds to an hour(give or take) for every woman. Experience definetly comes into play, but if you're someone with a rational mind and hours of porn, it doesn't take long. Your fingers will rarely do it unless you find the g-spot(despite inexperience). Your tongue will always work on the clitoris, sometimes so well that you need to do as I've instructed above first. Penetration is a little more difficult, and that's where a couple's experience really comes into play.Regardless, all women will orgasm within a few seconds of sexual contact. It's a smaller one, and most women don't seem to realize that it is indeed an orgasm, just not a very good one. Unless there is a physical problem that delays the orgasm(I.E. not having had puberty), it will most certainly happen. [Also, in answer to a question of yours I seem to have missed: Women each prefer different things. The women I've met prefer fingers-tongue-penetration in that order of least to greatest, but some women are different. The best advice is find what feels best for you, and it will feel great for her too.]
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I don't want to offend you, but I really don't think you know what you're talking about here. Perhaps the girls you have been with have all seemed similar in these respects, but they do not apply to all women.Regardless, aCoupleQuestions, don't worry if she doesn't have an orgasm the first few times, or ever. It's something to work on, and it's always fun to put in lots of practice. But the raw pleasure is only a small part of the sexual experience. Intimacy is the name of the game.
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In reply to:Regardless, all women will orgasm within a few seconds of sexual contact. It's a smaller one, and most women don't seem to realize that it is indeed an orgasm, just not a very good one. You really have no idea what you're talking about.
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I think he make the mistake of generalizing from his experience with a few women, who may possibly have been faking some of their "orgasms". OneDamageNuke, do you agree that your opinion on orgasms runs counter to most (academic) literature on the subject?
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In reply to: Regardless, all women will orgasm within a few seconds of sexual contact. It's a smaller one, and most women don't seem to realize that it is indeed an orgasm, just not a very good one. Unless there is a physical problem that delays the orgasm(I.E. not having had puberty), it will most certainly happen. what a lot of complete bollox you're talking there.........
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You really have no idea what you're talking about.
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what a lot of complete bollox you're talking there.........
Clearly these women are just in denial, so astute is your theory. In fact, I bet they have orgasms all the time. They're probably having them now. Probably everything causes them to have those little orgasms!
"Honey, what's for breakfast? Waffles?"
"Yes... waffles... waffles... waaaffles... WAFFLES! YES! YES! WAAAFFLEEEEEEEeeeesssss!" -
Waffles...LOL!Anyway, damagenuke, you definately have no clue.
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And to lend my voice to the chorus, many women have orgasms prior to puberty. My ex wife had then as early as the age of six. You could make a good writer of fiction. You have a good imagination.