Wondering why?

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I have been Reading a lot of posts and I wonder why are you guys so worried about being gay? Your always asking "does this make me gay?" "Am I gay because I feel this?"...Is being gay some horrible disease that I wasn't aware of? I see nothing wrong with knowing who you are and what you want and like...

to most young people, being gay is something they are afraid of because everyone in school will bully them and make fun of them. Most people wont realize that a gay person is a normal person just like everyone else until they meet them in college and actually get a chance to hangout with them. Most people dont know that being gay isnt a choice thing, you are either born gay or your not. It just takes time for some people to realize they are gay and sometimes people refuse to accept the fact that they are. Simply put most young people are too immature and thats why they are afraid of looking "gay".

I especially find the put downs appalling saying stuff like "thats so gay" is a terrible put down of the word. I don't even think people realize when they say things like that they are putting down the lifestyle someone has chosen for themselves. Why must people be so damn pathetic...

yea its true, most people dont even know what their saying when they use that phrase. Seriously though, the only people i hear using gay references as a put down are high school kids. Never heard people use it in college and rarely ever hear it in workplaces. Usually the only ones i hear using gay putdowns in workplaces are also high school kids.

id never really thought about it but i think i say it sometimes - im going to definately think before i say that again!

The only time I have ever heard anyone say "thats so gay" and didn't get offended by it was when my gay guy said it himself...of course he said a ton of things like "jesus doesn't like gay people", other then that when other people say it I get offended mostly because one of my close friends is happy with the way he is... I just worry because hate usually leads to violence and when people cant except other people for who and what they are, bad things tend to happen as a result.

thank you I appreciate that...i think it's just one of those things that doesn't need to be used as a derrogitory remark...

i hate homophobes - i havea number of gay friends (males and females) and it sickens me to hear people using such words as fag and bummer and the likes - u hear them so often and it shouldnt happen... your right trixie hatred and violence stems from much smaller things - look at todays events in london as an extreme!

bummerI think that word has different meanings in the U.S. and Britain.

Being gay usually in like high school gets your reputation up. Like..the school will know that 'You're gay', because it'll spread. Often times guys wont want to hang around you because they feel that you might 'come on' to them, or something like that, or they may feel hanging around you will give other people the impression that you're gay too. It's a variety of things. The ones I listed are just a few I've heard that are common around here.

it makes some people call them fags, but it makes most girls act like retards. they think because the guy is gay, that it is alright if they sit on his lap and let him grab her boobs or something. it is quite pathetic.but yes, being gay isnt being normal, thus people will not praise it or see it as being equal or anything.

My brother is gay, and he uses the phrase "that's so gay" derogatively all the time. Kind of funny.

I didn't mean better your reputation. By 'up, I meant like..you get, in a way popular, because everyone knows you as gay.."Oh hey, thats 'so and so', there gay'!..like everyone knows you BECAUSE your gay. see what I mean? lol

Well being a gay male myself I can understand where this is all coming from. There's a lot of internal and external conflicts a gay teen has. The main one is we FEEL normal. To me being gay feels just as normal as a straight man feeling straight. Its what feels right to me. But than you have a lot of people telling you this is NOT normal and you need to change your ways etc etc. Its very confusing for a teen.But now as an adult, I still feel normal and I understand that there are people who do not understand yet that I did not choose to be gay, but instead its part of what I am.. not WHO I am. If I had the choice to be gay or straight.. trust me I'd pick to be straight simple because life would be easier. BUT I don't have that choice and this is who I am and I am very happy with myself.I think people truely need to know that it's certainly okay to agree with someones lifestyle thats part of being human, but at the same time learn not to push their beliefs on others.

on my last statement " think people truely need to know that it's certainly okay to agree with someones lifestyle thats part of being human, but at the same time learn not to push their beliefs on others."

I meant to say its okay to DISAGREE with someones lifestyle. Thing said I exceeded the edit timer hehe..sorry.