One of my female friends was having hard time getting a man in her life and been wanting to have a baby. (She is 33 years old and single). She said that she wanted to have a baby for herself only. She asked me if I will be willing to donor my sperms. I am actually hesitant to that idea (I am married). That woman is very sweet and loving. I know she would be excellent mother. I told her that she could go to a sperm bank and have them put in her womb but she said no and she wanted mine. I am very compassion person and love to share with people. So I would like to see other people's opinion on this topic..please no wisecracks on this topic! Thanks!
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Sperm Donor??
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I don't see any problem with it. It would complicate things less if you avoided actual sex, and instead just masturbated into a container for her. She could then insert the sperm manually; if she doesn't have anything more suitable, then even a turkey baster would work.Ask your wife, of course. And you will also want to lay down (on paper!) rules on visitation, parental rights, etc. Cut off problems at the pass, before they become a nightmare.
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I would advise you against it.. it could become a problem in the future
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**I would think about this VERY carefully, as you would be a father to this child.........its something that you AND your wife would have to agree on, and especially if you have to have sex with this woman to impregate her, and who knows how many times you would have to do it before she got pregnant. This is a very serious thing to do, i would be inclined to say no don't do it, it could cause a LOT of problems in the future, there is a way of her getting pregnant IF she wanted to that bad, i get the sense that its not so much a baby she wants, its you...........but hey i could be wrong! **
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Angel I was thinking on the same wave length as you.Honestly, I wouldn't do it. If she TRUELY wants a child, a sperm bank would be her best choice, no one will get hurt that way. Maybe extend a welcome hand to be god-father to the child or something.. but just please think hard and long about donating your own sperm.
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Well, thanks for the inputs... I am well aware that it would complicate me and my marriage. I do love my wife. I would not even consider having sex with that single woman. I talked to that woman today....she said she does not want go to the sperm bank because it would cost her. She told me that she will release me from all of the responsiblities of father and financially. She did said the same thing what the first reply said....she would use turkey baster to do it. I do feel odd about it...should I and my wife draw up papers slating that I am donating my sperms and will not hold me responsibe as father to that child and have it notatized by the court? :smile:
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People say one thing in the cold light of day hon, but, once the baby is here, things could, and very probably will change...........example: what if she's having a hard time providing for the child, what would you do if she asks you for money - you feel like you want to help now, how will you feel when its to do with your child. Have you even mentioned it to your wife????? You feel odd about it now, how will you feel when you see the womans tummy getting bigger and bigger knowing your child is in there..........or god forbid something goes wrong........... I seriously think this is something you shouldn't do!!!!
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The ladies have good points, and in fact have swayed me. It does sound like a bad idea, when you consider how -you- might feel later.If you can afford it, why don't you offer to lend her the money to go to a sperm bank, instead?
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After some serious considering and discussing with my wife and seeing some other people's opinion on this topic...We feel that it would be best thing that I would have to deny that woman my sperm. We do want to help that woman out but we would not feel comfortable knowing that she is actually carrying a child which came from me that in fact I am married to my wife. Thanks for all the inputs!! :smile:
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I really think you have made the right decision hon big hugs
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I'm going to a sperm clinic this year! I will actually do it! Easy money, lol. Also would like to see my test results.
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How much do you get paid??