Alright Im just going to go over a current scenario that occured recently and then tie it in to the big picture. I was going to hang out with 4 friends (two guys one girl. two are involved in a couple so that leaves me my bestfriend and a girl that i was friendly with and sort of liked prior to going there. I recently had an episode with a girl i was hoping to date and that made me go there with nothing to lose. I didnt get all dressed up but i was more presentable then my friend, we;d been playing baseball and he was kind of sweaty to be frank. He didnt shave looked like a scrub and kinda sat around and didnt say much. I was making everyone laugh effortlessly and just having a good time. The girl i liked was holding my hand for awhile and showing signs. I was happy to be away from my problems with the girl and with my 4 friends but now i was starting to become interested in the single girl that was flirting with me. I didnt try to hard or seem to eager but showed some signs back as well. I was really nice to her family but still genunine not fake and thought i had to be picking up points that way. (Let me just say this 100% honestly compared to my best friend who i have been friends with all my live i cant see any qualities that he has that could ever make him more desirable. Im not trying to brag but i am taller, more athletic, way smarter more charming better dressed well mannored every possible category sadly hes a great person and i would rather get beat up then say this too him but it is true)Later that night the couple took the couch and my buddy made a dash for the loveseat living me with a chair. she joined him on the love seat but further away, when she got up he sprawled out on it and sort of forced her to sit on his legs and as the night went on they were definelty sitting together close etc. nothin major but thats enough. after he got she said can i have a hug and i gave her one and she sat on my lap for a little while. I figured that she liked me and was trying to make me jealous. I think ive made some very long and confusing possible reasons for why this took place. I think she does now like my friend and i just dont know why, she doesnt think im totally a creep but just seems more interested in being friends. It could have something to do with her knowing other people like me and being afraid to interfere but other than that i dont get it. I feel like im always just gonna be the good friend and it sucks i dont want to ruin anything if my friend dates her and im not gonna take leftovers but i feel like if i could just do something within the next few days it could stop everything and she could just tell him he would understand but im so frustrated.
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Whats WRONG with me? (crisis)
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How about inviting her to something with just you and her?
You can't assume she'll find you more attractive than your friend, but don't assume you've lost, either.
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Asking her out is the best way to find out. Its really annoying doing it, but the results are usually more positive than expected!
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Looks as though they are going to go out. He asked me 1st which i said go for it because thats the right thing to do. Im done with her unless she calls me begging but once they are going out im done. I feel like my summer has been ruined and i wont be dating anyone ive used up my two best and only options. this sucks
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MY LIFE SUCKS
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It does. Wow, a girl you like is going out with your friend, kill yourself now.
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^Looks like u dont do much.. living
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Sweetie, first of all the is nothing wrong with you. This comming from a woman, and I'll have to admit that some girls can be very fickle creatures. Not all of them are, but some of them can be. This girl may be more attracted to your friend, but that doesn't mean he's better than you nor does it make you less of an attractive guy. She may find some quality in your friend she really likes that you don't know about... girls have a way of finding those hidden ones. Don't let this ruin your summer, one girl is not worth having it spoiled. You seem like a really great guy, so get out there and make yourself available and in no time I'm sure you'll have a few gals knocking at your door. Good luck my friend ^_^
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I'm sorry, that was inconsiderate of me. Just persevere and i'm sure she'll come around.
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sorry africa that was immature of me for responding like that. I feel like ive bashed my friend but i would never say this 2 him. she doesnt seem as interested in him im thinking it was more or less the jealousy attempt now but i dont fall into that. Im not sure how long i should wait before getting into things with her again assuming that nothing more will come of this or maybe shes just not interested.Quite a confusing situation that has unravelled here.
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She sounds like a waste of time. Women who play these games are just a lot of trouble in my opinion...
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The thing is i want a relationship and at this age (highschool) the girls are all like this that are worth pursing. i can get a girl but i want someone atleast somewhat close to my social status if that makes sense not some random girl just flopping around.
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yeah, it's pretty much pointless to go after someone who doesn't mesh up with you, but at the same time it's good to have certain standards.
I was thinking she kind of sounds like she's trolling for a guy. Try keeping friendly with her. Even if it doesn't go anywhere she might have a friend too... -
In reply to:i can get a girl but i want someone atleast somewhat close to my social status I mean this in the most loving way possible, but you sound like you are so far up your own ass. Your social status? What the fuck! Sure, no trailer trash or anything, but what would you consider to be your social status?
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lol bobyea what the heck do u mean by your own social status? cocky son of a bitch, i wouldnt blame her if she doesnt get with you because of that stupid ass comment.
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"Sure, no trailer trash or anything, but what would you consider to be your social status?"I just meant somebody from a similar background. I didnt mean i would date depending on their families income. Someone with breeding, moral values, respect for themselves etc. I totally phrased that wrong. I meant i could get a slutty girlfriend or a shy timid loner type. Don't jump to conclusions about me based on one emotionally charged post
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Someone with breedingYou must be a New Englander.
