ok i got this prob. its probably best fit for dr. phill or maybe springer but i want to hear normal ppls opinions.ok about 5 years ago i met this girl over the internet she lives in pa and i live in tx well we started talking on the phone and writing letters and emails to eachother and well belive it or not we fell in love but we were both too young to do anything about it (like move in w/one another) well after a few years she broke up w me saying that she couldnt stand the pain of being in love but soo far apart we lost touch and went our ways then after a year or so we started talking again now she is engaged to her ex stepfather (like i said) anyway my feelings for her now are actually stronger than they were when we broke up she says that she still loves me too i told her i would move up there to be w her she says that she wants to stay w him because he makes her happy but she is always complaining to me about how he treats her and its not good and at first she said she didnt want to leave him cause she didnt want to break her promise to stay with him thru thick and thin and she didnt want to hurt his feelings and make him think that she just took advantage of him....we talk every day almost on the phone but he dont know about it she is all i can think about i kinda get the feeling that the only reason she wont leave him and be w me is because i dont live there now and w him she is more secure because he has a house and that all her family told her that it wouldnt work and she wants to prove them wrongwhat do i do?? do i stop talking to her?
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What to do?!
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I would do nothing, let her be with the guy she's with now. Honestly, you dont know her in person and people tend to be a lot different.
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oh yea i forgot to mention i have met her in person and talking to her just makes it that much harder to let go and move on
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hmm, Wow that is tough, just remember she is already with someone, so might want her to pick. How ever obvious you are in how much you like her, its up to
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should i go visit her for a couple of days and see how things go?
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sure, but do NOT make her cheat.
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no i would never try to get her to cheat but if she decided that she wanted to without me bringing it up i dont know that i could say no
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In reply to:she is engaged to her ex stepfather...anyway my feelings for her now are actually stronger than they were when we broke upIn reply to:she says that she wants to stay w him because he makes her happy but she is always complaining to me about how he treats her and its not good and at first she said she didnt want to leave him cause she didnt want to break her promise to stay with him thru thick and thin and she didnt want to hurt his feelings and make him think that she just took advantage of himDoes anyone else think this is seriously weird? How long was he in the parent role before he switched to the boyfriend role?
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dude! like i said springer! she said that she didnt have any feelings for him till about a year after we broke up
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Yeah, but I don't believe most of what I see on Springer. It mainly looks like bad amateur acting.How long was he in the parent role before he switched to the boyfriend role?
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yea springer is def. fake but its something you would see on springer tho real or not..... i think he was in the fathering role for like 3 years..im not sure if i belive her tho when she says it was a year after we broke up that she had these feelings
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i just talked to her today and now she says that the main reason that she dont want to leave him and be w me is because she dont want to take the chance on getting w me and it not working out should i try to convince her to take the chance that i know in my heart that it would work i mean we have been talking in a serious way for almost 6 years now and neither of us has lost the feeling for the other how could things not work?
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Two words, errr, is it one word? = Ex-StepfatherI'm sorry but that says a lot to me right there. If that's not enough, how about this? Have you two even met in person? I don't think moving across the country to be with someone you haven't met in person is such a good idea. Besides, how do you know she'll leave this guy? It'll be like Lloyd Christmas on Dumb & Dumber going across country for that woman that was already married.Forget her or just keep her as someone to talk to. Find someone nearby and avoid that potential headache and heartbreak.
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Go spend some time with her. The whole parental figure turning into a lover is seriously whack. If she was with just some guy i would suggest to leave it alone. But if i was in that situation i would be seriously messed upp emotionally. id go sick on the step father. But dont do that. Maybe you can make her realize its a weird thing to be with her old step father and maybe she can try something with you again. But be careful.