Relationships SUCK

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as old as I am, you would think that I would know better than to fall head over heels in love with a woman other than my wife. You would also think that I wold know better than to beleive that she also cares for me. Surely I can't be that desperately unhappy, that I spend all of my waking hours either thinking of this woman or talking with her. I am a chump. I would feel much better if others joined me in a chorus of "CHUMP". and don't spare the fuckin horses

there is no age limit on love, tho i think you have a problem, being already married! Do i take it from the post that this other woman, doesn't think the same way about you as you do about her????

Angel, it is not the age diference, so much as it is my inability to grasp relational issues between men (specifically me) and women. I can fix or make just about anything I want to, but I am challenged when it comes to me and a woman, and divining her intent. She has told me that she loves me, and that she is mine, I am hers, she thninks of me constantly, etc. but now I am not sure. Perhaps it is my insecurity, or my disbelief that something so good can happen to me, but I am plauged with doubt. I don't like being toyed with, if that is what she is doing. Human emotions are only so resiliant. As per my marriage, it has been a hollow shell, and I have been numb for a few years now. With this woman, the numbness has turned to a wellspring of feeling, long relegated to a shelve on the basement steps, gathering cobwebs. Her boyfriend is in his thirties, ans she is 20, and he treates her badkkly. So then I also wnder if she is clinging to me to escape him. I know she has fixed feelings, wanting to work it out with him, but he doesn't seem ammendable to such, and then she wants to be with me...she says. Damn I should just date sheep

**i don't understand why either of you are in your present relationships..............whether you get together or not, i think you and she ought to re-evaluate whats important to you, and what you want out of relationships............does this mean you have been cheating on your wife with this woman????? **

Yo are so right about the relationships and that we neither one should be in our respective relationship, regardless of the outcome between her and I.You would have to define "cheating", but as I think of it, in the physical, that has not happened, but we are anticipating it....urging for it....wanting it

Glad you havn't cheated, on her, you would go down in my estimations if you had! not that that matters any, but there we go...........see to your own relationship before you start another one, its the only fair thing to do for all parties.

> Her boyfriend ... treates her badkkly

Bingo. Been there. Done that. Her relationship with you probably has a lot more to do with her than it has to do with you. It's really unfair to you if you start having strong feelings for her, but she has no intention of getting out of her current relationship. But in my case, I was single, so you have the little issue regarding your own significant other.

It is finished...please everyone join in kicking me so that I cannot ever be so stupid again. Kick hard, and long, leave marks. Give me painful memories.fuckrelationships suck

i always thought it was weird that men would look at other women with thoughts of being with them even though they are married. Wasnt the agreement of being married to stay true to the one your love and to only be with them till death do you part or something along those lines? The way i see it, if your wife has not done anything to you to give you any reason to cheat on her why do it? If she doesnt mistreat you or abuse you or anything why hurt her like that? I guess that just means the love for your own wife has passed and she was only temporary and you feel its time to move to another woman. If thats the case, file a divorce with your wife and save her the trouble of her having to find out later that you were cheating on her.

I'm sorry hon big hug

'preciate the input, Steve, and you are right. It was more about her than me. I think she was looking at me to save her. But you are supposed to be kicking me!

Angelwitch, thanks for the hug, and for the input. Your stock continues to rise, and I thank you.ABC123 yo have not kicked me hard enough. But thanks for the effort. I have felt some discomfort

well i tried....now go make mad passionate love to your wife!

You've kicked yourself enough, vincubus.

A major congratulations for resisting that temptation. Speaking from experience, you would have regretted cheating for the rest of your life. Affairs are like a camp fire...they are hot and blazing at first but it all ends up in a smoldering ashes. Plus, if they cheat with you they will cheat on you...speaking from experience as it happened to me. :wink:

I respect you for not cheating on your wife. I mean that took alot of self control and I respect that. Sweetie before you ever look outside your marriage you need to step back and analyze the relationship you are already in and see what it could be that went wrong and how you could possably fix it. Have you ever concidered talking to your wife about your feelings? Have you checked out all the options? If this relationship cannot be saved I say move on before you start to hate/resent her and yourself for staying in a relationship you're not happy in. Good luck my friend, I wish you all the best.