Can't Let It Go...

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I don't know what to do. Any advice would be helpful...Well, I met this guy the end of last year and he was great. Sweet, cute and funny. He was everything I wanted in a guy. He wanted me to be his girlfriend. But during that time I was having problems with myself and my family and I think I may have taken my anger out on him. I look back and see that I was mean and difficult. We didn't talk for two months after that and that whole time I felt horrible. I couldn't eat or sleep right and I cried all the time. I felt that bad. I would pray to God that I would get a chance to make it up to him. He finally called me and we hung out. It was pleasant. I felt relieved that I got a chance to show him the better side of me. I thought that would be our new beginning, but I haven't heard from him since. It been almost six months and I can't get over him. I cry all the time and wish I could turn back time to make things right. It's obvious he's moved on and in my mind I know that, but I still want to be with him. I'm convinced that we're meant to be together and I can't see myself being with anyone else. This is driving me crazy and making my life miserable. I would call him, but I think too much time has passed. No one know how much this situation has deeply affected me. I keep it to myself because this is kinda crazy. I just had to let it out. I haven't done anything crazy like stalking, but I do think about him all the time (way too much). Do I need counseling or something? This really upsets me.

I'm no expert, but I've been in similar situations. I think you should call him. Call him and ask if he wants to just meet up for lunch some time. You need closure in some way, and that may only come from speaking with him face to face. Not saying you should try to convince him to date or anything, just have lunch. You'd be surprised how much better you might feel after seeing him. You might also discover that it might not be him exactly but the memory of him you've been holding on to.

I hope things work out.

let it go stop being to dramatic, you cant get all worked up every time you meet a nice boy. let it go.

Well, that's why I'm here. It's not so easy. I wish I didn't feel the way I do, but I can't help it. What do you want me to do?

Well to be honest, its your fault for taking your anger out on him. Atleast you admitted it yourself. Learn from your mistake and move on.

Hey,I hear what you're saying. There were a lot of girls I wish I could get interested in me again from my aloof high school days.One thing though is it is not healthy to obsess about something too much. Love's like drinking I guess in that it can really hook you if you let it. Sometimes you idealize someone and that makes it really easy to kind of worship them but it helps to look at them as a normal person with faults and flaws.I think that it might be worth a shot to give him a call and see if he wants to get together to do something. He might have a girlfriend now though.I can't speak for the guy, but if it were me I would appreciate a girl who I liked but rejected me coming back later and saying "look this is where I was when you came along and now I'm over that and I like you and I want to give things a try"

I'm afriad of what he might say to me. If he had a girlfriend, it would devastate me more than now. I don't know how I'm going to get over this...I liked him so much. :frowning:

Don't blame you. I'd probably react the same way in the same situation.
I'm reading Romeo and Juliette right now and I thought some good advice in the play was "one fire burns out another's burning...take thou some new infection to thy eye, And the rank poison of the old will die."

Thanks. I'll try to be optimistic and keep that in mind...

yeah, always think that if you were meant to be together, you WOULD be together. and if its affecting you as much as you are saying it is, then you should call him up or something, just to chat, but dont scare him off by telling him that you cant get him out of your mind.

i say that winged hit it right on the spot.... that should ease it up pretty well. his idea was perfect!

In reply to: You might also discover that it might not be him exactly but the memory of him you've been holding on to. That's what I've been telling myself. Being that I haven't seen him in almost six months, it's crazy to continue to hold out hope that we have an inkling of a chance. My head understands it, but something inside me won't let go. As time goes on, it is a distant memory. Sometimes it feels like it never happened. Like us was a figment of my imagination. And personally, if I were to see or talk to him again, I don't know how I'd feel. I'm angry. I'm embarassed. I'm sad. But most of all, I have too much pride. That is one of things that's holding me. (That's why I'm here, pouring my heart out to you guys.) I've been told that I am very attractive and I think I could find another guy, but it's very rare that I like someone that much. The last time I was interested in someone was three years ago! But if given the chance, I would maybe just apologize. I think it would make my conscience feel better...

To winged,Your post about holding on to the memory of him opened my eyes. I believe that is true in my case. In reality, we had just started talking and in hindsight, we didn't know each other that well. Who knows how I would have felt about him in time? I still feel bad about treating him the way I did, but I see that I was making him out to be this martyr, when in all honesty, we were both frustrating the hell out of each other. I am still convinced that it will be a long time to before I find someone else, but I being realistic right now. I'm sorry to all of you for all the whining. Thanks again to winged for the honest post!