Are you saying that spanking makes more sense than taking away the video game, TV, and phone? Or is it just easier? Those parents also need a clueWell whenever I (or my other siblings) got spanked as a child I had all my toys taken from me as well and was made to sit in my room to think why I was being punished. Even before I was spanked it was explained to me why I was being spanked. My parents just didn't go off and spank with no explination.
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Nanny 911
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I'm not saying it makes more sense or it's easier. I'm just saying that sometimes it can be necessary in certain situations. I don't think children should ever be that far gone that they even NEED to be spanked. A light tap on the back of the hand of a toddler could spare heartbreak later. Pretty much by the age of seven I never got spanked. Same with my older sister.And, NtroducingMyself, same thing here. I was always told WHY I was going to get a spanking.
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my wife smaked my son immediately after he made a run for the busy street. That's the only time and it certainly got his attention.
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In reply to: But must 2-year-olds are pretty out of control. and how many 2 year old have you been a father to then steve? Thats a lot of crap, the terrible twos i would guess you are talking about.......2 year olds arn't out of control, unless your a bad parent, my kids where adorable when they were 2............now when they were 4 well thats a different matter LOL joking by the way.
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Exactly. My son ran out into a street that was crawling with cars. We were at a July 4th clusterfuck, and I smacked his but, and then was SO damned glad he didn't get killed. Two seemingly opposed emotions in the same instant. Wanting to kill him for running into the street, and the relief that he wasn't killedI have often thought that prospective parents should undergo a psychological assesment to see if they can be fit parents. If they fail...mandatory sterilzation. Raising a child is little diferent than raising a dog, just the former is more challenging. A dog or child will do what he or she is allowed to do, and it is the responsibility of the parent to set limits, establish guidlines, boundries, etc. For me, to create a ceiling and walls on behavior shows the child security and that they are loved. But, every child is diferent, and cannot be diciplined the same way.
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The only thing I have a problem with is parents that yell at their kids to eat. I think that's just ridiculous, because the kid will (in most cases) eat; they don't need to be forced. When I was younger, if I didn't eat it was okay, and I was excused (but I was also expected to not want desert, because I was full) from the table. If a kid's hungry, they will eat, if not, they won't, and if they are hungry later you can give them something nutritious to snack on.
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I agree with you, I think it's very unhealthy to force a child to eat. Used to be a rule to "eat everything on your plate". I think some of that is the reason why American has such weight issues. (Course fast food doesn't help).Thankfully we were never forced to eat. We ate until full and than were allowed to leave the dinner table.
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True, but if that behaviour starts to become a pattern, it has to be nipped. And it can be done. My sister in law always complained that her youngest daughter never had an appetite, and never ate dinner. We sat for her kids once, and the girl was always afteer cookies, brownies,etc. Close to dinner, snacks were curtailed, and she complained that "mom always lets me". Of course, my response, was, of course, your mom is not here. She had an appetite, and her mom was shocked!!
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lmfao YES!!!4 is twice as bad as 2!! simple math.A mom friend of mind said the the terrible twoes are bad enough but just wait for the "fuckhead fours". At least she tried to warn me.
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I think I said something to the effect of "a healthy snack", meaning one, singular, food that consists of an apple, or any other healthy snack item. NOT a brownie, NOT a cookie, and most certainly NOT a lot of them.
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Understood. I did not mean it that way. I should have put a space between the first sentence showing my agreement with yours, and the rest of the paragraph. The rest of it was more a thought association, illustrating a common problem parents make. Nothing really about your post except the initial agreement.
