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    Sassylmd

    I went out last night, and I met a guy. I actually went up and talked to him first, and we talked for a little while, he said that maybe we could go out sometime, asked for my number, I gave it to him, and then we both went back to our friends. He texted me that same night and asked if I was doing anything after, I didn't reply back, firstly because it was really late, and I was ready to go home, and secondly...there's really only one other thing that could go on at 1:30am after being at a club and drinking.

    I did text him the next day though and tell him I hope he had a good rest of his night and hoped he had a happy new year.

    Anyway what do I do now? I'm not one to blow up someones phone, he didn't text me back. This probably doesn't make much of a difference, but I am about 6 feet tall (long legs haha) and what made me go up and talk to him was the fact that he was REALLY tall, as in 7'2" and kind of gorgeous. I haven't dated anyone in a really long time, and I'm out of practice. I need some pointers!

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    So my cousin and her family recently moved to the same state that me and my family live in. Well I was hanging out with them at there new place and my cousin had to go and pick up her kids from a friends house really quick. Well that left me and her husband there alone together. As soon as she left he was just constantly flirting with me and then tried to kiss me! I would never do something like that to my cousin. And anyways it didn't stop there I immediately tried to leave and he blocked my path so that I couldn't and was wrapping his arms around me. I told him to back off a few times and everytime I got around him he would grab my arm and pull me back. Luckily my cousin had just pulled into the drive and he immediately stopped. I then gave my cousin an excuse and left. But I don't know what to do. Her husband is a POS and I don't know if I should tell her or not. This is a really sensitive subject.

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    Thanks I just don't think that is what it is though. He seems to be fine, you know as far as going off to war and then coming back.He asked if we could just be friends, and that kind of caught me off guard. I did talk to him and this is an exact quote of what he said, "I want to get married, and have kids. You are only 19. It's not you, it's me. I want to hang out with you and spend time with you and everything. Nothing will change between us. It will almost feel like we are still dating, and you can't be friends?"He is barely 3 years older than me. And he says he loves me and cares for me. I have never said anything about not wanting to get married or have kids. I just cannot do that at this point in my life. Well the kids part anyway. I want to finish school and start my career first. I always made that clear to him from day 1. He then said that he can't wait that long. I am well on my way to finishing college and getting my degree. I don't understand how waiting a few more years can be that long. Also if he really loved and cared for me, shouldn't he wait? Should I ask him about the type of love he has for me?

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    Okay so my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 1 and a half years. He is in the army and just recently got back from being in Afghanistan for a year. So we had been dating a few months before he left. We were completely and totally in love before he left. He called me and texted me all the time and wanted to see me and be with me. He then left, and we talked all the time, he then got R&R for two weeks in the middle of his tour and we were together for the entire 2 weeks. 6 months later he comes home and is acting totally different. He has been home for about 2 weeks, ive seen him twice, so maybe a total of 4 hours since he has been back. He doesn't call me, he only texts me if I text him first, and every time I try to make plans to come and see him, he either is too tired (okay understandable his sleeping is all messed up from the major time difference?? maybe) or he is with his friends. I know hes out drinking a lot.Should I just give him some space? I honestly don't know what to do. I need to do something because I can't focus on anything else. I missed him so much while he was gone, and I still miss him even though hes been back.

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    Ok so I am 19 my boyfriend is 22, we have been going out since dec 2008, so not quite a year. Anyways this is really difficult, I have MAJOR committment issues, and this is the longest time I have ever dated anyone, I can't even really call the guys before him a boyfriend because they never laster longer than 2 weeks. I've lasted a lot longer with him because I refuse to give up, even though I feel like a major weight is just pushing down on me, I almost feel claustropbic. I know he loves me, just by the way that he looks at me, and how he treats me, and any girl would be lucky to have him, he is a really great guy. A month after we had been dating he told me he loved me, I couldn't say it back. Well just recently I said it back, and it doesn't feel right. I always thought that when you met a person you really and truly loved that it would feel well I don't know, but It doesn't feel that way with him. I care about him a lot, but I just don't think I am IN love with him. He has been in afghanistan since march, he had mid tour leave in august, and came to stay with me for the 2 weeks he was here, we had fun...for the most part, and then he went back. When his tour is up he wants me to move in with him, I ABSOLUTLY CANNOT do that. And he also is kinda hinting around that he wants to get married, he never really comes out and says it, but makes little comments here and there.I just don't think I can handle this, he deserves someone who will love him back as much as he loves them. I have tried to break up with him before only because I know that I can't love him like that. I chickened out because I couldn't stand to hurt him especially while he is in afghanistan, I know it will tear him apart. I've even tried picking a fight to make him dump me, but it's like he can't even get mad at me.I need help, what do I do?

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    Sassylmd

    Thanks so much! That really helped a lot!

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    Ok when I say I get freaked out I mean like I stress myself out, and I start distancing myself. O and one other thing, he told me he loved me...and there is no possible way I can tell him that I love him back, I really like him and everything but I am just not the type of person to say that I love someone when I really don't. And when he says that he loves me, I'm pretty sure he's NOT just saying that because he wants me to have sex with him. We have discussed this and he knows that it's not gonna happen any time soon. And I didn't really start freaking out until he used the L word.

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    Ok so here is the deal. I am 18 and currently have what would be considered my first boyfriend. He is 21. Well anyway we have been dating for about 2 months now, and like the last 2 weeks I have been freaking out really bad, and I don't understand why I freak out so much. This isn't the first time that I have freaked out either. Before this guy there was 1 other and I got so freaked out I dumped him after about a week, but that was about 2 years ago.

    So anyway I didn't start really freaking out until about 2 weeks ago. I am really attracted to this guy, hes really sweet, and just an all around nice guy. He pays for everything when we go out, sometimes he lets me pay, but I have to force him to. So why do I freak out so much?

    One other thing, we havn't done anything sexually like as far as it has gone in making out. I know he wants to take it farther. He knows that I am a virgin and am not ready for sex yet, and he gets that but what he doesn't get is why when we are making out I wont let him touch me anywhere "down there". And I always push him away, but he always listens and never forces anything.

    But anyway that I guess is the background. So why do I freak out so much when he tries to touch me, and why am I freaking out about being in a relationship with him, even though I really like him?

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    Ok so this guy that I really liked just asked out another girl. This all started when me and this guy starting hanging out, at first I couldn't tell if he liked me or not so I didn't get too deep into it. But then we went out on a date if thats what you wanna call it, he payed for everything. So im like well maybe he does like me. Next he told me all the qualities that he liked about me. He even told his best friend that he found me "attractive" (his exact words) Then over winter break he shows up at my house and all of a sudden has a girlfriend. Then he asks me why I don't have a boyfriend. I was sitting there thinking well omg you should know iv'e been wasting my time on you because I thought you liked me. I mean this guy showed like all the possible signs that there are. So what happened here?

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    Sassylmd

    So....does anyone else have any other input?

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