My girlfriend and I have not slept together yet because she says she wants to take things slow, which is fine. However today we were talking about her sister-in-law and how she can't have kids due to some kind of genetic condition. She brought up that she has a condition herself and when I asked what it was, she said it's where she's "too small down there" and that her gyno suggested cutting her to open things up a little. She said that she didn't like her gyno (a woman) and changed doctors (a man) and he said that it probably wasn't a good idea because it could lead to scarring and that if she wanted to have sex that it might make it tighter. She didn't say how long ago that conversation took place. She kept talking and changed the subject to something else so I couldn't ask her any questions about it, but I am wonding if it's even possible she can have sex. I don't know if she's a virgin or not because we really haven't talked about sex much.Has anybody heard of such a condition where the vagina is too small, and if so, is there a term for it? Or is her old doctor a quack?
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Girlfriend said she is "too small" down there
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You should talk about things more. Get to know her better before you try to make a jump for the sack. At least find out if she has had sex before. If you can't talk about it with each other you have no business doing it. Girls love to talk.As for your other question, I have never heard of that before, but hey, I'm not a doctor either.
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We've been together for four months and things have been awesome so far. I've never met anybody who I had so much in common with or got along with so well. I've told her I loved her a couple of weeks ago but she hasn't said it yet; she said she's close though. It's probably too soon to say this but she may be the woman I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. We feel like we've known each other forever.One of the reasons I haven't brought up sex is because she did tell me she takes things slow (although she's let me fondle her breasts on several occasions), and that was definitely not the case with my last girlfriend. That relationship got too serious way too fast and the constant sex was great but she started feeling guilty about it (got religion?) and cut me off completely which really sucked. Without going into too much detail, that relationship was based too much of sex and that's why it failed. I don't want to see that happen with this girlfriend, therefore I haven't pushed the sex issue with her. I respect her limits and don't want her to feel uncomfortable.I guess I'm afraid to get a negative reaction from her but I think that's perhaps a little unfounded because we haven't had trouble talking about anything else, including some really personal stuff.
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Hey hon hugs great to hear things are going so well As for the 'problem', well i would definitely talk to her more about it, but saying that being too tight for a baby is very different from being too tight for a penis, unless you are of record-breaking size hon grin
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You should talk to her about sex, but just do it at the right moment. Like when you are just talking about everything, just to make sure what her limits are. In some cases with girls, it is okay do go up her shirt and play with her boobs, but to go down her pants with anything is way off limits. You say you talk about all sorts of stuff, including really personal stuff. So you should be able to bring up the sex issue. Just becareful how you word stuff, and make sure you want to do what she wants to do and you don't want to make her do anything she doesn't want to do. Tell her you aren't being pushy, just curious on the limit issues. Good luck.
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I can understand being too small in the pelvis to deliver a baby vaginally. I find it almost impossible for a girl to be to small to accept a penis, given that the vagina naturally stretches to accomodate a baby's head ( and I've got to believe that your penis is certainly smaller than that).I also find it interesting that the second gyno said if she wanted to have sex and not when she wanted to have sex. How many virgins of reproductive age and ability do you suppose there are in this world?
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She isn't religious, so that won't be the cause of her wanting to take things slow. I've noticed that she doesn't care for nudity in movies but at the same time she's talked about sexual stuff (not personal experiences) so she isn't a exactly a prude. A few weeks ago when we were making out and I touched her clothed breasts she reiterated about taking things slow. Then we were out with her family and she made a remark that I was mean because I wanted to do things. I don't know if she was being serious or sarcastic, but I couldn't ask her about it because her mom was right there next to us.When we were making out last week and was doing some touching she commented about how guys are always thinking about sex, kinda a roundabout way of saying that about me, and I said "is that bad" and she said no. So I don't know. I guess I should just ask her.Let's assume she is unusually tight. I'm of average size. Is there a way for her to stretch herself out so it won't be a problem, assuming plenty of lube doesn't cut it?
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If she isn't letting you even touch her breasts now, I don't think that you are going to worry about how much lube or if you can get in her or anything else. I don't think that she is ready by far for sex. But if it does happen, you are just going to have to take it really slow and go in a little at a time, make sure she is really wet and if you still need lubrication, then do so. But go really slow as you go inside her.
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yo dogg,i've heard of conditions like that. this girl i was talking to mentioned she had the same deal. I'm not sure how severe it can be...or if shes talking about giving birth or falking. anyway, just bring it up like this...totally out of the blue...'so like, remember that time when you were saying something about...like, a condition down there or something...what did you mean by that?'then just go from there.if you trust her enough to tell her you love her, you probably should trust her enough not to get bitchy about you asking something that is pretty important in the scheme of things. bad sex can ruin a good relationship...probably because guys are generally asses...but the same goes for girls.also, write her a poem to loosen her up haha yessss- guy
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Okay, here's an update. We talked about this last night.She is a "technical virgin", meaning she hasn't had intercourse but has done pretty much everything else. In regards to being to small down there, she said that she didn't think that anything bigger than her pinky would fit. She didn't want me to think she's a prude or doesn't like sex. I told her it wasn't important that we be intimate anytime soon and that I was willing to wait as long as she needed to be comfortable with it. Her reasons for not wanting to be intimate turn out to really be more emotional than physical.In regards to her still not being able to tell me she loves me, she did say that her last serious boyfriend really hurt her and she had made that relationship be everything for her, and when it didn't work out she felt like she had nothing. Hence, mainly her reason for wanting to go slow. I've told her I loved her several times now and she's fine with that but she seems a little confused about whether the feelings she has for me is love or not. I guess she's afraid of getting hurt but I told her I plan on being with her for a long time and that she's very important to me. I think that reassured her a bit.We had a good talk and I think we got a lot of lingering concerns dealt with. When I got home, she had emailed me telling me how lucky she felt we are together and that I am very important to her. From what she said I am pretty confident that she does love me, even if she hasn't been able to say it yet.I really think that I could marry this girl...
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**Wow................you sound really happy honey, im really glad for you *hug* **
