Excessive pre-cum

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I'm glad I found this site to ask. I'm 20 years old, and I think when I'm aroused I have an abnormally large amount of pre-cum. I'm a virgin, and have only been in one relationship where the farthest we got was making out. Because of this, I don't know if this is a thing that will pass or not. While making out, I would have so much pre-cum that I had a wet spot on my khakis from it (went through my boxers), and my boxers had pre-cum all over in them. Even when we were only holding hands I would have some pre-cum come out. I'm just wondering if this is natural, or if this is excessive, and if there is anything I can do about it. It may just be from me being nervous around her since this is my first relationship. Did anybody else go through anything like this when they first started dating? Thanks for your help.

I dont think that theres anything wrong with you, some people produce a lot of precum while others dont produce much at all. Theres nothing you or anyone can do to change things.

I dont' think there is anything you can do about it hon, and all men produce different amounts, personally i love pre-cum so it wouldn't be a drawback for me and im sure there are other women like me out there..........

That is PERFECTLY normal! I am the same way. I havent found a women who wasnt turned on by it. It just shows her that she is really turing you on.

As others have said about not worrying, I tend to agree. I'm not sure there's much you can do about it either.

Maybe it could change over time by itself, if this is in part because of you being extra aroused with it early on in a first relationship and all. It's hard to say though and everyone's different.

I know some women have this too, being more wet than others, and being a guy I can only say that is a turn on for me, and with precum having to do with arousal, I'd guess the same went for most girls. :-) After all it's a sign you like her.

Yep like everyone has said, its normal. I have the same problem too. At first i thought i was wierd but its normal. Not much you can do about it man you're only human. The girl should understand. P.S. Most girls, i have found, will find that attractive

Do you masturbate? The reason I'm asking is that a few years ago when I went several months without masturbating or anything else, strange stuff like that happened to me. I guess I have that to look forward to again in a few months...Just a thought.

Isn't it unhealthy for your prostate and such to have semen backing up for so long? I think the male reproductive tract was "designed" for periodic ejaculation.

That's why your body absorbs unused semen.I've actually read (possibly on here) that regular masturbation has a sort of cleansing effect on the plumbing. However, I've not seen any medical source that backs that up.That being said, I don't believe it is unhealthy to abstain from any sex that causes orgasm.

In reply to: I've actually read (possibly on here) that regular masturbation has a sort of cleansing effect on the plumbing So that means its good. Source or not thats all i needed to hear....now i have an excuse!

Does that mean you'll be busy for a while?
:wink:

busy ummm studying, yea thats it.....studying

So that's what you kids all it these days.Well, anyway, have a wank for me. I'm not doing it anymore.

Barbara Keesling's 1999 Psychology Today article on health.yahoo.com. --> here (not a scientific paper, though)I remember seeing an article about a study having been done that showed a correlation between regular sex, and a lower incidence of prostate cancer (and maybe also inflammation of the prostate). It seems to stress the body more to dispose of all the dead sperm and fluid then to just dump it out of the body.In any case, there certainly seems to be no health benefit in not orgasming.

In reply to: In any case, there certainly seems to be no health benefit in not orgasming. Maybe the benifits lie elsewhere.

There are ascetics (and others) who believe that. Unless you're talking about going cold turkey to deal with an addiction.Going cold turkey on choking the chicken. Yup. (That's for the birds.)

In reply to: Isn't it unhealthy for your prostate and such to have semen backing up for so long? I think the male reproductive tract was "designed" for periodic ejaculation. Precum has nothing to do with the prostate, nor ejaculation frequency or ejaculations at all. Precum is produced by the Cowper's Glands near the base of the penis, way down stream of the prostate gland. It is normal to produce a lot of it easily, or none at all - it varies from guy to guy.The male reproduction system takes care of itself, whether you use it or not. It handles excess sperm that aren't ejaculated through either wet dreams, reabsorption, or discharging excess sperm in your urine. There are no negative health effects of not ejaculating at all. The whole prostate cancer thing is a theory that has not been proven at all.

I was addressing Damien's non-masturbation (and implied no-sex as well) idea.> here are no negative health effects of not ejaculating at all. The whole prostate cancer thing is a theory that has not been proven at all."Proof" is a strong word. One or more studies has shown a correlation between not ejaculating and prostate problems, though I wouldn't get too excited over a couple of studies.Although excessive masturbation can be a distraction for some people, I'd be excessively distracted if I went more than a week or so with no sexual outlet, masturbation or otherwise.I'm not sure about pre-cum, but you certainly get a bigger load of semen when ejaculating, after a period of abstinence.

Thanks for all you feedback everyone, its good to know other people have the same problem and that it isn't totally abnormal.

damien, now that you mention it, I was on a dry spell as far as maturbation. I only did it maybe 4 times over the 3 months, so that could have been the cause.

For those of you who say you experience this same problem, what do you do when you go out. I started wearing 2 pairs of boxers since I didn't want another incriminating wet spot on my pants. Any suggestions?

Thanks again!

Yeah, its not a "problem" and it is completely normal. I get the same thing - the amount of precum that I drip out when aroused (and not necessarily hard) can be alarming. I've had girls see how much was in my underwear, and they thought I had cummed already! But when I explained to them what it was, they all found it hot. If you don't want it to soak through to your pants, wearing 2 pairs of underwear is a good solution. Also, wear briefs or boxer-briefs - they do a much better job of containing the precum so it doesn't go all over the place. Boxers do a lousy job at that.