Let me start by saying, I’m pretty shy. I’m not one to initiate a conversation, but however, if you start talking to me, I can be as friendly as anyone else. I just don’t initiate the conversation. Which would explain why I’m not so “hot” with girls. I really don’t know how to flirt, or impress a girl. I’m only saying this so you all know because you start reading my issue. Now I started working at this restaurant in September. Things were going good and I met this girl. She would say “hi” to me everyday when I came in. I’d say “hi” back, “how are you” the good ‘ole courtesy thing. Finally, she started to learn my name and we started talking more. She seemed to really want to get to know me. It really felt good. But she has a boyfriend who works there too. It’s not like he’s some big bad controlling jerk, he’s cool and I talk to him often. The thing with those two is, they’re more “friends” than “boyfriend-girlfirend”. As we get to know each other better, Next thing you know, we’re playing around with each other, little fake fights here and there, just little cute stuff. She always seemed to make sure to say “hi” to me. And she always seemed to want to talk. And of course, I talked back. I started to, you know, “like” her. Then there was this time when I was getting a little sad about school. My grades were slipping and I’d come into work not very happy. Now, at this point, I’m still considered relatively quiet. I’m making pizza next to her and she goes “what the **** Jordan?”-What?-What’s wrong with you? You're usually talking to me by now.-Well I really don’t talk all that much.-Bull, yes you do. You talk to me all the time.So I took my break the same time she did. And I was depressed the whole time. She’s trying to figure out what’s wrong. And I’m not being too subborn, but I’m not really cheering up either. This went on for a little while, About 2 weeks or so. I got a little happier, but she still kept on me. Finally, I’m back to my old self. But she’s not. She starts not saying hi to me and just doesn’t really want to talk to me. This is when my self-consciousness kicks in and I start to think I might be annoying her. Only because I see her acting all friendly to other guys at work. But not me anymore. It seems like it all just stopped. We don’t say hi to each other, rarely play around. It seems like she’s given up on me. So I don’t know. I’m a pretty self-concious person and I start to think I might be annoying. So I lay off a little bit. I don’t talk to her nearly as much. Now, I talk to her about as much as when I was depressed about school. Does she ask about it like before? Of course not. I’m just a little confused and frustrated. We really had something good going, and now it seems as if she wants nothing to do with me anymore, like she’s given up on me and it hurts. I’m just so confused and don’t know what to say or anything because I really like her.
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This girl is always on my mind!
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hmmm this is a tough one. first off, my advice is to not date neone you work with. but if you must ill give you advice about this situation. If this girl really liked you she wouldnt have given up on u like that. and the fact that shes flirting around with other guys says she prolly doesnt like u like that. plus u said shes dating a guy that u work with. you sound like a friend of mine. all the girls talk to him because hes a nice guy, but they dont like him in that way. hes always in the friends zone, which i think you may be. i think she was friendly to u because u would talk to her bf, thus u and her started talkin. In my opinion i would forget about her and move on. maybe talk to her again, start the convos with her, see if something could pick up, but dont hold ur breath. keep ur eyes open for other girls
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wanna know what i think? i think that becuase you didn talk to her the day you were mad, or upset, she thought she did something to bug you or make you feel like that. She did try to cheer you up did she not? and you didn cheer up much right? so she tried. When i girls trying you need to give her some feedback, like shes doing a good job or jsut tell her whats really wrong. becuase really getting bad grades is nothing, likt its a big deal and all, but if you wanted to get to know her you would have told her what was bugging you so mcuh becuase she was trying so hard to understand. And then there's something on the other hand, she had a boyfreind and after you she started flriting with someone else, would you really want to even date someone like that? dating you but flirting with some next guy at the same place you guys work. AND if you want things to go back to the way it was talk to her, go up to her and be like, we don't talk as mcuh as we did b4, and i was just thinking maybe i came off the worng way that day, being sad and stuff, its jsut there was alot of stuff really bugging me.. and so on and maybe she will talk to you again! LOLL iuno if thats any help! =)
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That's kind of hard. I'm a shy person too but mostly/only with people I don't know. I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I feel like I annoy people too. I'll talk to one of my friends and then all of a sudden say "I'm sorry" for no apparent reason but they're used to it now. It's a habit. But if this girl really likes you she wouldn't be doing the things she is. I understand about you being self-conscious but that's something you're going to have to overcome. Don't go after a girl who seems to have no interest in you. She doesn't really sound like she deserves you either. Opposites attract even when it comes to shy people and outgoing but sometimes not always. Even if things don't work out between you and her there's always the possibility of someone better.
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Thanks a bunch everyone! All your replies really helped. Right now, i really want to ask her what someone suggested. I want to ask her why we don't talk as much as we did. But this is really hard for me to do. I 'll think about it and i'll tell you guys how it went.Thanks again to everyone!