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I have decided to go after my ex-husband for child support. He was ordered to pay 1/2 of childcare back in Sept 1999 and has never done so. (It would be about $11,000.) And the retards at the courthouse wrote up the order in such a way that made unenforceable, so to have perused it back then would have required me to have taken off a min of three days of work. Since I was paid hourly that just wasn't possible. But now I'm a stay at home mom and won't have to take anytime off work. He's not going to have the money. He and his wife have 4 kids between them, not including my son, he works low paying jobs and can't even keep them so he will neve be able to pay even the smallest amount of child support, but since it won't be taking food out of my son's mouth to perused this I feel I should. The question comes in regarding his parents. I am really close to them. Should I tell them in advance? Am I deceiving them by not saying anything or am I just not saying something about something that really isn't their business. They aren't going to be mad per say, but they will be upset. Because they know, he won't pay and he struggles through life pretending to be a real human being. They invited us on a vacation yesterday, which I had to decline due to lack of money, but I didn't tell them about this even though I had already made my decision. What do you guys think? Tell them or let them find out from him?

He works under the table as a farm hand.

There are many things the government can do to make him pay. They can intercept his tax returns; take any licenses he has, put him in the pokey. Plus, He could be getting himself in a mess with Uncle Sam. If the DA reports him for tax evasion, well he'll be in a real pickle then.I'm not even really worried about that. He'll get what he deserves in the end. I'm just thinkin' about my relationship with the grandparents. My son enjoys that.

In reply to: They can intercept his tax returns; take any licenses he has, put him in the pokey. Unless you are getting a lawyer, don't count on that. They have so many deadbeat dads, it will be a long time before they caught up to him. (I speak from experience). If he works under the table they cannot garnish anything. Once he does start working legit, then you will get some money from tax returns.And why would you want him in jail if you want him to pay support?

I don't want him in jail. I was simply stating that they could do that. As for them actually doing anything I'm not really hoping for much. They said they are pretty good about enforcement in our county so maybe. But if not my son will have claims to anything he ever gets. Which, with the exception of an inheritance from him parents isn't likely to happen. Even then, I don’t know that my ex will get much. Their previous will gave 1/3 of his share to me, 1/3 to our son, and he received the rest. I told them I didn’t want their money and that it would be put to better use if they put the money aside for my son’s education. All I want is something personal to remember them by. And my understanding is that the new will does that. But I don’t know what if anything my ex will get. It’s possible, even probable, that my son gets his whole share.