I have genital herpes. I take medication daily and for 12 years I get about 1 breakout a year (same place too...right in the front of my "lips") I have a lover who is now scared to be w/ me b/c I told him I had genital herpes. I do know about dental dams and suggested we use them. But my main questions are:1> Can I have anal sex (with him wearing a condom or not) and he still be in contact w/ the virus IF he has no contact w/ my genitalia?2. What other ways can we have fun safely? Can he use his hands around my genitals, inside me, or wherever JUST so he doesn't touch any part of himself afterwards?3. Any suggestions of anything else I can do?????I want to have him and I want to keep him, but I know he's scared...and I don't blame him! HELP!!!!!!!!
Herpes and safe sex
awwwww,thats a tough place to be in.i have no advice though,no idea?hope you find a solution
As long as there is no exchange of fluids, everything should be fine. There should be no penetration or intercourse, (oral, vaginal, or anal) without the use of a condom. Also, as for other foreplay, if he is REALLY concerned, you can buy finger condoms. Otherwise, just so long as he washes his hands directly after and does not touch himself, things should be good. Good luck!