First Time

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I found this website last night and it's helped out with alot of my questions. Anyways, I know this has been posted quite a few times but I just feel like asking it in my own way. Okay, i've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now, and we've talked about having sex. Now I know this might sound kind of pathetic, but the thing that i'm most nervous about is my cherry popping and the blood that comes with that. I'm 17 years old and I just prefer not to wear tampons. I know theres blood involved with the cherry popping, but how much blood is there? And what are the chances that your hymen has already been popped? Or is it like a 50/50 kinda deal. :blush:

okay still got some more to learn...Popping the cherry is a term used to correspond with the hymen breaking during sex, but most of the time that is already broken due to excersing or something will cause the hymen to break. It is not the cherry popping to worry about, but i will not discuss my beliefs. You can PM me if you have questions I am sure I can help.

If he has fingered you, or something its probably broken. It breaks running, bicycling so many many many ways. And, there isnt really that much blood.

K, I have been fingered before.And no blood.So, that probably means it's broken, right?

yes it is gone. What else do you desire to know?

Well, i'm kind of embaressed that i'm 17 and still a virgin, while there's little 13 year olds running around blabbing about their sex lives.But I don't really feel nervous about the sex thing.Because we've talked about it and all before.I don't want to be in control, he says he'll be gentle.Missionary position best for this opinion?And once he gets it in, is that when there's like 2-3 minutes before he begins to ejaculate? (Roughly)

It depends on the guy and how long till he ejacutlates.and roughly only 50% of teenagers has had sex before they graduate. I didnt lose mine until i was 19, and there are several older people (i mean middle aged) that still havent lost it so i wouldnt be nervous about that.

Alrighty, thanks for the time. :grin:

We're here if you have any other questions

Thanks again. :scream_cat:

I am still a virgin...at 20...i am at the point where i feel unloved everytime i get turned down...

Well people are stupid and not worth it if they turn you down.Why do you think they're doing it anyways?---I really want to have sex with my boyfriend, as does he, but how do you guys know when the time is right?Any suggestions on how to hint it to your partner while lying down together in bed?

And another question.Is it true that smoking weed and then having sex makes it better?Because i'm not enforcing it, but whenever I smoke weed, I tend to get very very horny.Anyone know why?

Not true. Its the same thought with cocain, but in the long run it ends up hurting your sexual performance (men who are long time addicts cant even get it up)

Shit, because I just want to find some way to get really horny, and make it hurt less.Without the need for lube and shit like that.Plus, how do I hint to my boyfriend that I want it when we're lying down together?We both want it but i'm not sure how to tell him when I want it.

tell him you want to have sex? just let things progress i supose. ive never had to hint at what i wanted lol. It will hurt less (if at all) if your relaxed. if your stressed your muscles tense up even with out your knowing and make it hurt for you.

Yeah, Hey Baby, lets have sex.I donno, not really appealing to me.And I feel soo comfortable just thinking about it.And knowing that my hymen is most likely broken.I donno, i'm just really excited =)

oh oh i was asking if thats what you meant lol, let things progress. itll happen when it happens

Lol, ohh, gotta read things more carefully.

If you want my advice, and this is just a suggestion from a mans point of view, when your lying there start caressing the inside of his legs and then just look into his eyes and tell him that 'your ready'. If he doesnt get the point and asks ready for what give him a flirtacious smile and pull him towards you, he should get the point.Remember to remind him to be gentle as he may get a bit excited .