Notice: In this thread, I want help with dealing on how to make/plan my future. I will mention some things that bother me and affect how I feel, but I will save them for other depressing threads. Well, I guess I will begin with the fact that I have no idea what I am going to do when I get older (what colleges, jobs, etc.). Currently, I am in all level classes at school which I am constantly reminded that colleges frown upon highly. However, I am going to be taking a different foreign language this year after completing 2 years of Spanish. I am not smart, my grades aren't exactly 'exemplary' and when I look around, I see everyone just doing fine in school unless they are lazy and all of my friends are in advanced classes and they have no problems pulling off A's. I don't do bad because I'm lazy, I do bad because I am not good at thinking. I can't process information, I can't ever remember anything no matter how hard I study and I'm just not able to function. The only reason I ever pass is the occasional multiple choice test, which doesn't require knowledge, but strategy. I can't write to save my life, if you haven't figured out from my posts so I fail every essay that I write. I enjoy doing school projects, but they never teach me anything about what I am learning in class, so they are never any help. When I mean I'm stupid, I mean it. My brain just doesn't function, I am usually just sitting there in class without a single thought in my head. I just can't handle it and I even have a hard time processing words when people speak to me; I often have to tell people to speak louder and slower so that I can comprehend what they are saying. Even without thinking, I am still worn out by the end of the day. During concert season, I spend my time after school in the band hall, where I will sit down to do my homework. Many times, I have had to be woken up because I fell asleep. When I get home at night, I hobble into my room and lay down and I pass out. My parents have to get me up at 2 or 3 in the morning so that I can do my homework. I have a serious sleep problem, which the doctor thinks nothing of. Throughout the summer, I have averaged no less than 12 hours of sleep a night. Some days, I have slept as much as 20 hours straight. I just can't ever wake up physically and mentally. My friends are always ragging on me about it. During marching band, I hold the snare line back because I just can't think and coordinate my feet, the direction I'm going, and playing at the same time even after the months of practice and learning to do this. My parents are poor, so I will have to get part time jobs and scholarships (how?) to get through college and I have no idea how I'm going to juggle all of that. I have no interest in anything and I have no skills in anything. Everyone is studying, doing their homework and they have time to have fun and do things they want to do afterwards. They are getting good at things and building their futures. Summary: I can't think and I can't wake up enough and I don't have any idea about what I want to do for a living. Basically, I don't know how I'm going get into the real world and have a job and survive. Well, I can't think of everything I want to say right now, so I'll post more as I think of it.
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Where's My Future?
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no matter what u think, theres sumthing out there 4 every1, very1 is good at sumthing tho it may take alot of self discovery to figgure out what u are ment to do with ur life. it takes time and really, theres no rush. dont feel preasured and pushed into makeing desisions.and about that sleep thing, i do the exact same and i cant figgure out y but, i the holidays i cant get outa bed if i havent slept 12 or 13hours, but i useually sleep more, its really anoying and i just dont get y i do it.things will sort themselves out, u just have to belive they will.
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ImBob, these things you describe, if accurate, suggest more than normal problems with schoolwork. Your doctor may be no help, but I think a discussion with a psychologist might be very helpful, especially one with experience with learning disabilities. Sometimes there are treatments or work-arounds, if you know what you have.What sort of things interest you and you think you could do well?
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If you told your doctor in brief what you typed here, he's completely clueless if he think there's no issue. I don't know what the problem is, but a lot of it could stem either from depression (though you don't specifically say that you're very depressed), an endocrine problem, or a brain chemical thing. You might have a hypoactive (underactive) thyroid, for instance, which is making you sluggish and sleepy all the time. Or maybe there's something going on that a psychiatrist can address. Or maybe there is a combination of problems.You really need a check up by a good doctor. Your family physician may not be able to handle complex cases that involve such things as behavoir.
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things will sort themselves out, u just have to belive they will.That is definitely not true, and is a good excuse for procrastination and inaction. Sometimes things get worse, no matter what you believe.
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In reply to:What sort of things interest you and you think you could do well?That's a big part of the problem. I'm not interested in anything and I get no joy out of doing anything.In reply to:(though you don't specifically say that you're very depressed)Actually, I do suffer from depression and I take Lexapro. My doctor had me go off of it for a few months, but things got way worse then than they are now so I'm back on it.In reply to:You might have a hypoactive (underactive) thyroidI had a physical a few weeks ago and had blood drawn for testing. I haven't gotten any results yet.
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I'm not interested in anything and I get no joy out of doing anything.That sure sounds like depression to me. And it's not easy to do well in school if you can't get mentally engaged in anything.> LexaproHas the doctor thought about maybe trying something else? You would be better served if you had a psychiatrist prescribing antidepressant medication, rather than a family doctor (who doesn't seem to realize that there is a problem here).
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That is definitely not true, and is a good excuse for procrastination and inaction. Sometimes things get worse, no matter what you believe.im not saying sit on ur ass and hope 4 the best, u have 2 do sumthing about it but, if u keep thinking "oh wholey shit!!!! what the eff am i gonna do!" ur just gonna freak urself out and get all stressed which wont help at all. it is good 2 keep a positive attitue. no matter how big my problems r, i seem to get through them if i belive i will, if i give up im not goin anywere
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i can relate to alot of the things youre saying, like how youre having trouble comprehending what people say, and the coordination issue. my grades werent the best in high school either...Also, are you sure its that you cant think when you do your hw, or just that you cant get yourself to concentrate? idk, its a thought. its the problem i still have when i go to do hw for a class i loathe.
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From what I'm reading you're experiencing quite a few different things. First off, you mention that you lack the ability to concentrate in school. This could be caused by A.D.D. (attention deficit disorder) A person with A.D.D. often:A. fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities.B. does not seem to listen when spoken to directlyC. often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to engage in tasks that require sustained mental effortIf you fnd yourself relating to any of these symptoms, you may have A.D.D.Now, lets talk about the sleep you're getting. You said you feel exhausted after a normal school day and could sleep for periods longer than 12 hours, which could be a sleeping disorder, that may be cured by prescription meds. Your studies at school should be discussed in a meeting with your parents and teachers, to find the best possible solution in order for you to get a successful education.Cliff Notes:1. See a doctor about A.D.D.2. See a specialist about your sleeping disorder.3. Set up a meeting with your teachers and parents to find a strategy to kick ass in school.4. Possibly see a psychiatrist to find out why you've been so depressed lately.P.S. - All the information in this post is my opinion and that alone, take it as that, and that alone.Goodluck!,-M.Y.