I am 17 yrs. old and i have had this girlfriend for almost a year...she was my first real girlfriend as we learned things from one another and just always had lots of fun doing practically anything!She about a month ago got drunk and made out with another guy. Now, i know her drunk and she is not herself, and also she is strictly against cheating in every form, so since that incident she was never the same towards me again. I didnt do anything wrong at all. Her friends called me the "perfect" boyfriend or w/e and personally, i think she wanted to be let "free" a little and just experience other exciting things.There was so much miscommunication between us both that I thought it was the right decision to end things with her, because she "wasn't happy", even after all of those fun times we've spent together. After we broke up a few weeks ago, i heard that she and him (the guy who she met when she was really drunk) made out once or something but then he quickly got rid of her for whatever reason (hes a player)...There are so many stories circulating about what happened between us, and looking back we both actually meant something different than what I acted on (not saying that it was not the best thing to do). I am currently single and have been meeting other cool girls and don't get me wrong I am very happy right now!Last night me and her talked on IM for awhile, but very low key and nothing too serious...and then she called me and we talked for some time...I have begun to have some small feelings for other girls, but nothing compared to what I once had with my "ex" girlfriend. I feel that things could possibly work again if we tried, and i want to really bad, but everyones telling me different sides of what i should do next. it is hard because i really want to believe in her again, and i know she honestly messed this all up, as she knows, but when we talked on the phone again.....the trap began to work on me again...even though she claims she has no interest in me anymore as a boyfriend...eventhough deep down she does.We are "friends" right now and i don't know how i feel about all of this, or what i should do for that matter...Don't get me wrong, i'm very happy without her, but maybe all we really needed in the beginning was a break (and she said that)! What should i do? Whats okay to do?
My Girlfriend Situation
"Okay" is never a particular defined thing when used in the question "What's okay to do?", but it generally refers to 'What is the right thing to do?'
I had a situation like this with my first girlfriend. She didn't get drunk and cheat on me, but she started spending alot of time with this other guy around our 1-year anniversary. December 31 2005, 11pm, - January 1 2006, 1am, she told me over the phone that we couldn't be together, and that she didn't have feelings for me anymore.
I willowed in depression for about 3 months, I still liked her, but I told nobody but my closest friend. My ex-girlfriend broke up with that other guy in around March 2006, and started to pay a bit more attention to me again, like she did just before we began to date the first time around.
Last year in late August, she confessed, after I had hounded her to tell me what was going on (because for the last two weeks or so, she'd been referencing to our last relationship), that she liked me again and wanted to have a relationship with me once more. I took about a week to decide what to do, and ended up going out with her again, because of course; I liked her still. This relationship is a lot more.. passionate.. than the last.
Perhaps that you're right, and all you needed was a break. Maybe you can start the relationship with her again, but if she does something else silly like that, end it as fast as possible.