Hey all, im an old member and im back, i started on these boards when i was about 14, im now 17, i meet a girl at the mall, been talking to her a few months. Our conversations have been quite blunt. she says she doesnt want to date at the moment because of a prior relationship, but that if it wasn't for her ex she would be dating me right now.Our last few conversations have been quite interesting, more than others, by now, i know how to make this girl feel things she has never felt before, ive learned everything about her, but she ahs been hinting at me on the phone the past few nights about the next time we hang out. Now, im a one woman kind of man, i dont play games, i really care for this girl, but i really dont want to do anything and then get stiffed for a relationship. Trust me, i like getting some action as much as any guy, but i care for this girl to much to risk this kind of thing...Any advice?I have made out with her...quite a bit...but nothing beyond that, she herself has not gone past foreplay with anyone before, so i would be her firstim just afraid to lose her, dont want it getting weird but i also dont want her getting mad if i say no to it...What do i DO!
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You answered you're own question, You don't want to do anything and then get stiffed on a relationship, so don't do anything. Wait for her to either be ready for a relationship, or tell her you want one with her.
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she knows i care about her, and i know she cares for me, she said she cant handle a relationship right now, and i understand that, her mother just passed 4 months ago, and ive been with her every step of the way, i talk to her on the phone for about 4-6 hours every night. she calls me upset, i make her smile in a matter of minutes, its how it works, but she said she wouldnt be able to handle getting hurt like she did with her ex. i guess i can understand that, but to want to have sex...to me its like she is in a vulnerable stage, and im not going to do it if thats how it is
Alrite i have 2 older sisters and they have gone through a lot and ive been there to witness it. So heres my advice, her mom just passed 4 months ago so shes probably not in her normal state unless she didnt like her mom, so do not go past 2nd base or even stay with 1st, i remember when a close friend that was a girl brother passed away, either suicide or accident they never said cause there was evidence for both, i ended up sleeping over her house that night to help her through and me and her made out at night when she was crying but then it felt really wrong what i did even though she kissed me first.You really like the girl so be friends for a while, if you like her you will understand, once shes sorta over her semi-depression then ask her out calmly take her out to dinner and ask if she wants to be more than friends, make sure to tell her if shes not ready she doesnt have to but you still want to be friends, also very IMPORTANT, when you do ask her, make sure it doesnt seem like you only stuck around her for that time just so you could get in her pants, be sincere.After you two are more than friends i think you guys will have a open relationship and you can go right out and ask her her boundries. Then once she tells you that, well i cant go any further.Hope this helps, yeh its long sorry.PS. If shes still a virgin this could be bad cause ive learned there are two things that can happen after you take someones virginity away, they cant let go of you, or their scared to be with you, so if you are REALLY serious, do what iam doing, wait till your married.