I don't know what to do!

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well, i figure what i'm about to say will fall under the "relationships" category.so i met a guy at a bar right? I'm so happy for once he's not all about hooking up at all because that's mostly what people at bars do ya know. at least most of the guys i have encountered at bars are about hooking up besides one or two, heh.i've hung out with him a few times now. so last night i went to the bars and met up with him, again. he brought a friend whom i have never met before and so the three of us hung out for the time. and his friend was definitely really into me whether anything was said about it or not and i didn't really like it. his friend kept on hitting on me (seriously) but i was not interested in his friend. i was interested in him (the guy i originally met) and i definitely was being really flirtatious toward him and hardly to his friend at all.so now his friend found me on myspace and keeps asking to hang out with me. i don't know if he means the three of us, or just him and his other friends. all of us did talk about the same thing though. which ever the case, i keep trying to be nice and say i can't hang, which i really can't luckily, but still..what should i do? i get the feeling if we all hang out again, the friend will continue to hit on me. i'm not sure if the guy i like can tell if i like him. i mean we're always joking around flirting, it's not serious, still...i also just met the guy a lil less than a month ago and his friend just yesterday. and his friend is already coming on really strong.i don't want to make it awkward hanging out...ah, sorry if it sounds confusing, i don't know if anyone gets what i'm saying.what would u do if u met someone and liked him/her but u only met one of his/her friends for the first time once, and after that one time that friend keeps trying to get together, with just u? i barely know these people but i feel that i'm way more compatible with the guy i like. yet i don't want to say anything because he knows about my recent events about some other guy, heh. but he says he'll still talk to me though. and also because i like how i finally have met a guy at a bar who is just a friend for now. but his friend has already shown what he wants from me...and that for sure is not just friends (after having only been hanging out with me for one time).

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sorry if it sounds confusing, i don't know if anyone gets what i'm saying.

I see wut ur saying. I have similar (not the same) experience and next weekend .........well I don't want to think about that. In my situation it's my ex gf that want stop flirting and telling me/us sexual jokes. She's not mean and she is pretty fun to be around but she's very touchy and flirty and always has some kind of sexual comment at the worst times. My gf hates her. We've had two big fights cuz of Lindsey.
The first was cuz she answered my cell. In my defense I was shooting pool and Lindsey grabbed it out of my pocket be for I go t to it. Man did I get a ear full from Shannon. Then again when she got there. After that Lindsey (Shannon wasn't there) saw me and was telling me about her new trailer and it has living quarters in it and bla.. bla.. Told me into going and checking it out. Dumb me did and that's not wut her intentions were. I didn't do anything wrong. But I got my ass chewed out by my gf anyway. I didn't want to tell her but at the same time I was scared wut would happen if she'd found out from...well Lindsey. (plus pete said I should tell her.. lol /I wonder if u even remember all this pete. lol) just so u know I didn't cheat on her, I don't want to cheat on her, I didn't really want to go see her trailer but I'm can't tell people no. I just came up with the quickest excuse I could think of and left. Yet I got yelled at for just going with her.

Now after talking to Pete last summer about her.. I can see why Shannon hates her. ( I dk if she really hates her. But she dislikes her and she don't trust her. OK I don't either after wut she tried last summer.. It just took that for me to see who she really is. I guess.) anyway I wouldn't be to happy if a guy was doing that with Shannon. I dk why I couldn't see it last summer tho. The best thing I can do this summer is try to dodge her but I stick out like a sore thumb... and at the same time I don't want to be mean.

I dk I guess my point of all my rambling is I am getting stressed already and well I kinda get it. You Don't want to be mean but then you don't like wuts going on either. I know how that is.

I'd say wut u might want to think about doing is calling up the guy u like (if u still got his number..) or contact him how ever you contact him and ask him out.(alone...with out the 3ed wheel) There is nothing wrong with a girl asking out a guy. Lindsey (the ex I was talking about) actually asked me out first (so did laces/we dated over little of a year) but I don't see a problem in a girl asking out a guy. You can only get 2 answers. Yes or no. buy wut u said I don't think he'd say no.

noooooooo this sucks. the guy i don't like already told the guy i like that he's interested in hanging out with me. maaannn...i don't like it. i keep bringing up the guy i likes name alot and he still doesn't get it. ugh.they're both friends just clarifying so that makes it more complicated i guess, heh.

in response to CR125...well usually i don't have to call the dude i like b/c we always run into each other the same place we go by chance. see, i don't want to come on as strong as this creepy guy is doing to me so i just am happy if i see guy i like at wherever and whenever. thanks for the advice tho. yeah this friends thing tough, heh.-----------------------------this is even more frustrating than i thought. people say i'm too nice and don't know when to turn down someone well..i finally decided to tell creepy guy that i'm interested in someone else (his friend i met first, but i didn't say it was his friend i just said it was someone else)...yet still, he asks me to go to a party with him. so when creepy guy called, i asked who was going to be there and he wasn't sure if the person i know ( ) that he knows was going to be there, so i just said i didn't wanna go because i wouldn't know any body...first of all, when he called me i hadn't stored his number in my phone even though he gave it to me, he greeted me with a, "hey what are you doing?" trying to sound "sexy" type voice.creeping me out even more. even after i said no to the party he still asked me to go to dinner and a movie sometime! UGH! It sounded like he only wanted it to be me and him, instead of with the three of us (meaning guy i like, me and him) when we first hung out.I don't get it. what do i have to do to get this dude off my back? I was thinking about ignoring him for a while in hopes that he'll eventually go away. But he still keeps coming on strong. after i mention said guy i like a lot to him, and turning him down over and over. he still keeps asking to hang out...i don't even really wanna see him ever again. and he said he was gonna be at this place that i usually go to, and i said i was or wasn't going to be there this week.When's the best time to ignore someone and what should I do? What would you do?

Just ask the guy your originally met you would want to meet up with him without his friend, donesnt he have a myspace? he will get the idea your into him and he might stop being a doofster and briging his friends with him. maybe the guy is to shy to be with you alone or something and needs some comfort.

Do you have original guy's number? Maybe you can ask creepy guy what original guys number is if you don't have it.I think you need to become more agressive. Pursue the guy you like. It seems he's content with being laid back. Maybe he's the kind of guy that just let's the girls come to him. In which case, call him and ask him to hang out with you... just the two of you. If creepy guy comes up in conversation, tell original guy about how you mentioned to creepy guy that you are interested in someone. Afterwards, maybe you can say, "That someone I'm interested in is you". See where it goes from there.Quote:see, i don't want to come on as strong as this creepy guy is doing to me so i just am happy if i see guy i like at wherever and whenever.You won't come on as strong as creepy guy because you've already hung out with original guy several times. If you were to come on as strong as creepy guy, then you would have been all over original guy on the first night.

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You won't come on as strong as creepy guy because you've already hung out with original guy several times. If you were to come on as strong as creepy guy, then you would have been all over original guy on the first night.

Ah, this is true. I'm actually kind of glad I wasn't as strong as creepy guy the first time I met original. I never asked original guy if he had a girlfriend when I first met him, nor gave him my number. I'm really glad because I think he was going out with someone then. I just heard from creepy guy that guy I like and some other girl broke up not too long ago so I don't know when the right time would be to actually bring what I feel about him up. But, I just hope there will be a chance that if I can talk to him myself, one-on-one, I will use the advice given here.

Actually, after the third time, we hung out/talked to each other, he asked for my number. I wasn't even going to give it to him and figured he'd just be some guy I see around whenever, but I'm glad he asked. He's never called me, but as luck would have it, we always see each other at least once or twice a week when we go to the same place anyway, heh.

I think it was last Sunday, yeah, it was when I saw guy I like again. I went to the place we usually hang out at and my friend met him, too. And my friend said he could really tell I was into the guy I like, lol. And that's when I realized, I think that I actually like this guy more than I thought, even after only hanging out a few times here and there.

I have never told a guy how I feel. Usually, they just hear through someone else, or they actually figure it out themselves, lol. But with this guy, I think if I get a chance, I will tell him sometime. Hopefully, before it's not too late.

Just curious. Did original guy ask for your number before or after breaking up with his girlfriend?

hmm...i'm thinking it was after. i'm guessin' maybe that could have been why he didn't ask for it the first two or three times we started talking i suppose, heh. but i usually don't bring up giving out numbers, i just wait until the guy asks. the thing is, he hasn't really shown interest as much as creepy guy, but we do talk and always have fun though whenever we hang out. either he's really not interested or is, and doesn't want to do anything about it after he knew his friend the creepy guy likes me. i don't know if they have talked yet, but i hope he knows that i'm not interested in his creepy friend. funny cuz the guy i like doesn't seem creepy at all. as a matter of fact, he's the first guy i've met who actually isn't an asshole, i guess. well, doesn't come off as one, lol.

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either he's really not interested or is, and doesn't want to do anything about it after he knew his friend the creepy guy likes me.

Another possibility : If original guy was being laid back and you became interested in him, then apparently that strategy is working for him. If this is the case and he recognizes it, then why would he change up a strategy that's working? Most likely, he wouldn't change his strategy if he was interested in you.

So, basically you're faced with the same hardships that guys deal with when pursuing women.

I wouldn't worry too much about creepy guy. He's probably the type of guy that likes a girl and then pursues, if it doesn't work out then he moves on to the next. If this is the case, then you're probably in good shape.

Quote:I wouldn't worry too much about creepy guy. He's probably the type of guy that likes a girl and then pursues, if it doesn't work out then he moves on to the next. If this is the case, then you're probably in good shape.Let's hope that's so, hehe. I'll probably see guy I like at least one time this week, and then I'll report the update on this situation.

Good Luck!

Thanks .----------------Alright, so yeah, I'm one of those girls who goes to the guy she likes myspace's everyday, haha. and i noticed that i was not on his top friends before, but i am now! lol yeah, a trivial thing, ha. *** Okay, so I have some updates about guy I like and creepy guy. Yes! Creepy guy backed off. I didn't even say a word to him and I did see him so I think he finally got the picture.I saw guy I like last night at the place we usually hang out at on Wednesdays. I heard him talking to people about his ex because he usually runs into her there, too. It's a bar called Rum Runner's, I dunno if anyone's ever heard of it.Anyway, I heard him talking to his friends about hating to see his ex around, tries to avoid her, and how she is a bitch to him or something. He also said he's not looking for a serious relationship and is done with that. The thing is, I'm not really looking for something serious, either, but I didn't get a chance to talk to him about that which is okay. There was some non-serious flirting going on though, haha.I pointed out to him that he is such a butterfly because he talks to everybody and anybody. I don't know if anyone finds this weird, but he even asks for guys' numbers, too, and met a buddy of his at the bars around the same time or so he met me.Anyway, I'm really glad about creepy guy not even talking to me, even though he's like one of guy I like's best friend. I probably sound like a kid when I say this, but I was really happy to get a picture with him and his bar buddy who isn't creepy guy, too, haha. Oh well.It's cool to hang out as friends, though. I'm just glad I'm not the "other woman" with him and that he's single because I don't like surprises like that which I have been getting a lot lately, heh.

Your updated news about creepy guy sounds great. He got the point or he found another interest. Or maybe both.You can still have a relationship without calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend. I actually prefer a "no titles" relationship. Most people think it's because if I have no "girlfriend" and I'm in a "no titles" relationship with someone then it's okay to have sex with whoever I want. This is an innacurate way of thinking because even in a romantic relationship where people don't title each other boyfriend and girlfriend there can be loyalty and commitment. People don't have that title that make them feel like they have to do things "because she's my girlfriend" or "because he's my boyfriend". Rather, I do this because I like her or I do this because I like him.Anyway, aside from my mini-rant, basically it seems like you enjoy your time with him, so try to spend more time with him. If he asks why you want to hang out more than just meeting at the bar, an easy and honest answer would be, "I like hanging out with you, I enjoy your company."

Man, do I have myself in a real bind. So on Wednesday when I had updated about hanging out with guy I like, I also started talking to someone I used to go to high school with but never talked to then until now. And yesterday, I hung out with two of my old high school friends that are guys.The funny thing is one of my high school friends knows guy I like because they used to date the same girl, but not at the same time. The girl was my high school friend's first love or something and after that they broke up and it's been a while and then guy I like started going out with her last year I think, and then they broke up I don't know when. It was definitely a while ago, though. Both guy I like and high school friend aren't on bad terms but the thing is, boy oh boy...So when I hung out with high school friend and his friend last night, I did not know that I would be staying the night at high school friend's house. It was just a last minute decision and I thought the three of us would be there, so yeah...HAHAHA, we all slept in the same bed and it was kind of awkward, lmao. They said they have never been in that situation before and neither have I haha. The other friend stayed for a while, but then finally left me and high school friend who knows guy I like by ourselves. I did not do anything with the friend that left. Well, earlier that night, we, meaning high school friend who knows guy I like and knows that I like him, hung out a lot by ourselves. I figured we would be able to hang out as friends, but umm yeah...So naturally, we slept in the same bed but we did not do anything really except for make-out mostly. And now I feel bad because I think he's starting to like me, but he knows who I like. It's just that I don't want to tell that guy I like that I like him yet because it's not the right time.I don't know why I always get myself in these situations, blah.I just want to keep myself open for if the opportunity ever comes up with guy I like to date.Sorry, felt like a vent, heh.

so it's been a few days since (saturday) i've talked/seen this new guy that i went to high school with. i guess we're gonna be just friends which is good. although, i really don't know if he likes me or not, i hope not.more updates about guy i like:i don't know why, but with him, i feel like i can always easily ask him to hang out or talk to him and not be afraid, but with other guys i'm kinda scared to ask to hang out with them or something. I just text'd him a few minutes ago asking if he wanted to hang out tonight cuz I was bored, lol. and he told me to call him later. i guess...that is a good sign? heh.i think he's been one of the only guys i've ever liked where i'm comfortable around him. there was one other guy i really, really, really, really liked and i was so scared to ask him something, that i actually yes, i actually wrote him a note even though he was in the same house, and i gave it to him to read, lol. this happened earlier this year. but current guy i like i can definitely talk to and not do some first grade stuff, ha.

Quote:I just text'd him a few minutes ago asking if he wanted to hang out tonight cuz I was bored, lol. and he told me to call him later. i guess...that is a good sign? heh.It's a great move on his part. When a girl asks me to hang out with her later on in the same day, I will usually tell her to either give me a call at a certain time that evening or that I will call her at a certain time that evening. The reason why I do this is because I don't want the girl to think I'm desperate and that I would break plans to hang out with her when we are in that 'talking' stage. In my experience, if you're too easily attainable, then girls lose interest.

Quote:In my experience, if you're too easily attainable, then girls lose interest.yeah, that's true. he was with his guy friends when i called him back and he told me he would see me today which he did (well earlier in the evening). we actually got to talking about dating or whatnot.when i called him the other night, he was with his creepy friend, lol and other guy friends, too that i don't know. i asked if his friend knew i was talking to him on the phone and he said yeah. and then i also asked him what creepy guy said about me (this is in person this evening, not on the phone). he said that creepy guy was envious of me or something, i didn't quite catch it, but just that he did want to get to know me better or something. so this is when i brought up about being interested in "someone else" aka the guy i was telling this to, being as brief as possible. i'm not sure if he knows but he told me that right now he's just looking for friendship and that he's tired of losing friends over stupid drama.i then told him that yes, i was indeed interested in someone else other than his creepy friend, but i did not say him. and i also said i feel the same way about losing friends because i don't want to lose him as a friend and that i lost some friends over stupid drama as well. and then we stopped talking about that when i said i don't think i will ever tell that "someone" i'm interested in that i like him. and he understands.do u think that i've given enough clues to make him think that it's actually himself that i'm talking about when i say i'm interested in someone else? heh.

I think he knows. Go with the flow and have a good time.

let me tell ya that men are very confuzzling human beings, but then again, i'm sure you already knew that, lol.okay, so we were talking about being just friends with people, right? i don't get it...so this was at that bar again that i was talking about, but just yesterday. and we ordered drinks. so ours came and he had $5 and we were deciding on whether or not i should pay for mine.in the end, he ended up paying for mine, and he told me i could pay him back on the next date. i wasn't aware that this was a date and was confused because we had just talked about being friends with people, and me indirectly saying that i would never tell the guy i like that i like him because i always want to be his friend if anything and because we didn't want to lose each other to stupid drama.i just thought that instead of the word "date" he could have said, "next time you can pay me back," or "when we hang out again, you can pay me back." i never expected, "you can pay me back on the next date" or something like that, lol. the whole night he kept saying you're my friend. friends. we're friends. ugh. and after he said that the date thing came later on. why the word date? i know there's such a thing as friend date, but i didn't think it was necessary for him to say date, unless he wanted it to be one, but i don't know...and there were these girls in front of us, and he was like, i'd like to talk to those girls but i'm not in the mood to talk to girls or something. and then one girl came over to where he was with me and she was hugging all over him and he was hugging back.haha she actually asked him if i was his girlfriend but he said no, of course i agreed because we aren't going out and they talked about someone being jealous last week or something. but i said i wasn't jealous and didn't know what was going on. ((of course i am jealous)) but we had said that we are friends and well, i had to act like nothing bothered me even though it really kills me to do so, heh.yeah, i don't get dating at all...especially after someone just told me that he's only looking for friends at the moment, but then sees other girls and tells me he would like to talk to them or something. i dunno. i hope he wasn't being serious, but i'm not sure if he was or wasn't.but yeah, i am definitely having fun when i'm the only one with him and there's no other girl in the way.