Hi, I'm new here, and I've got a couple questions. First,I've noticed that when I masturbate, I think I'm supposed to get "wet" down there and it's supposed to be clear and liquidy, but sometimes after I finish and look in a mirror or something there are more whiteish type lumps/strings of what I -think- came from when I finally got off. I'm wondering if something is wrong with me because of that. Also, my boyfriend and I have recently started experimenting with small things, like him trying to get me off using his hand. He's tried a total of 4 times now, and while it feels kinda good, I can't get off. I'm not sure why. It makes us both feel bad, and I think I'm defective. I don't get off by myself very often (the only times are when I use either an electric toothbrush that I've pulled the bristles out of, or the bathtub faucet) and I think I might be defective. When I do get off (at least I think I have) it's not really anything mindblowing or all that wonderful, I just tense up a bit, it feels good for a couple seconds, and then I just don't feel like doing anything else.He's tried slipping his fingers inside, but that only hurts and I can't really imagine it feeling good. The closest it gets is minorly odd feeling. If he goes too far, it starts to hurt a bit, kind of a sharp pain.He also tried oral once, but I couldn't get off from that either. The last thing is, I think I might be shaped irregularly. I thought the clit was supposed to be a round nub type thing, but I don't look like that. I basically look like two Vs right inside one another, like theres a flap over it or something.Help?
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That's perfectly normal. Girls don't secrete a clear fluid like guys. The white discharge is our vaginal lube.
You're not "defective". All girls are different. It just seems like you need more time to learn how to relax more and understand your sexuality (and by that I mean, what gets you off). These things take time, so don't expect your boyfriend to give you an orgasm until you know how to give yourself one. I'm sure people are going to give you tips or you can find tips and advice if you search around here. :smile:
Your clitoris is underneath the clitoral hood.
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Originally Posted By: Virtual_StarThird Question:Your clitoris is underneath the clitoral hood. Yeah, but if I try to slide that top part up, it doesn't look round, and I can't slide it up hardly at all like I've heard it's supposed to be able to. =/