Should i beleive my dad?

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Well i posted a thread a while ago that said that i caught my dad talking to someone on the phone and saying sexual things. Well i thought he stopped, but i just caught him again i heard from my room and i listend in and i knew it wasn't his mother again. So i just confronted him that very moment and i just asked who are you talking to and again, he said his mom. I knew he was lying so i just said dad just tell me the truth who are you talking to, do you have another women or something? and he said no i swear i don't have another women, then he told me the truth he told me that hes talking to one of those 1800 sex line things. I mean im kinda ok with that, its better than cheating on my mom, but the thing is should i believe him? It really doesn't make sense because of when i overheard all those times..

Is there a reason you don 't think it's a phone sex line?

Has your father ever led you to believe that he would want to cheat on your mother? That's kinda the most important piece.

I believe people here told you last time that it was something between your mom and your dad... same thing applies. Still between your mom and dad.

have you tried the redail button on the phone? could be some help

Originally Posted By: StillSearchingI believe people here told you last time that it was something between your mom and your dad... same thing applies. Still between your mom and dad. But my mom is so oblivious to these things and im really the only one who hears him, and im just tired of always staying quiet and never speaking up. I know its something i really shouldn't get into but i still feel concern and i can't just not do anything..

Originally Posted By: eh501 Originally Posted By: StillSearchingI believe people here told you last time that it was something between your mom and your dad... same thing applies. Still between your mom and dad. But my mom is so oblivious to these things and im really the only one who hears him, and im just tired of always staying quiet and never speaking up. I know its something i really shouldn't get into but i still feel concern and i can't just not do anything.. Well if you really want to do something I think the redial button is a very good idea. It'll let you know for sure if its just a 800# or a mistress.But once you do find out whats going on and lets say he is having an affair... what will you do? Are you sure you want to put yourself in the middle of the situation?

Originally Posted By: RainNightBlueIs there a reason you don 't think it's a phone sex line?Has your father ever led you to believe that he would want to cheat on your mother? That's kinda the most important piece. Its just the things i sometimes hear like for example sometimes when i overhear i hear him saying things related to his job and his job name, and then i hear him saying all those sexual things. It just really doesnt make sense...And he has had a reputation for being a player or w.e and having a lot of women in his life before , and i know he has cheated on my mom i just don't want him doing it right now, i mean because when i was little i never really couldd do anything, but now that im older and that i have the courage to speak up and confront my dad i might as well tell him what i think.

Originally Posted By: NtroducingMyself Originally Posted By: eh501 Originally Posted By: StillSearchingI believe people here told you last time that it was something between your mom and your dad... same thing applies. Still between your mom and dad. But my mom is so oblivious to these things and im really the only one who hears him, and im just tired of always staying quiet and never speaking up. I know its something i really shouldn't get into but i still feel concern and i can't just not do anything.. Well if you really want to do something I think the redial button is a very good idea. It'll let you know for sure if its just a 800# or a mistress.But once you do find out whats going on and lets say he is having an affair... what will you do? Are you sure you want to put yourself in the middle of the situation? I can't redial because he uses his cell fone and he pretty much has it with him all the time..and if i do find out if hes having an affair, well at the moment i don't know what i'll do but idk..

Here is the deal kiddo. Your mom may be "oblivious" or whatever. She knew what he was like when she found him, and she may well know something is up and is just trying to "let it blow over". Hell, she may even be condoning it!!!So, for you, the best suggestion, is let it go, and if you think cheating is bad, don't do it in any of your relationships.

Originally Posted By: PepsiChaserHere is the deal kiddo. Your mom may be "oblivious" or whatever. She knew what he was like when she found him, and she may well know something is up and is just trying to "let it blow over". Hell, she may even be condoning it!!!So, for you, the best suggestion, is let it go, and if you think cheating is bad, don't do it in any of your relationships. Ok so everyone is telling me to just not get into things with my parents and let them settle things themselves, i don't want to do that but i guess i will because i guess its better to not get into their bussiness, which might cause more problems..

Originally Posted By: eh501 guess its better to not get into their bussiness, which might cause more problems.. And you just hit the nail on the head!!!

I do think he is telling you the truth. If he had a mistress you'd probably notice other things besides the phone calls.But I wouldn't rule it out completely.What he is doing isn't right though... and i bet in her eyes she would consider it cheating

Originally Posted By: pinkranger4I do think he is telling you the truth. If he had a mistress you'd probably notice other things besides the phone calls.But I wouldn't rule it out completely.What he is doing isn't right though... and i bet in her eyes she would consider it cheating Well um, in the summer when he came back from a vacation he went to by himself to his home country i found condoms in his luggage..

Well, that definitely is suspicious, but that doesn't mean he's having an affair. It is possible that he went away, had some "fun", and came home. I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying it's a possibility. Maybe he's just very sexual. Or maybe he's going through a phase.

It really doesn't matter!It is up to his mom and dad to deal with this. Not him.I would beat my kid if I found out they were digging through my luggage!!! (Or any of my stuff for that matter!)

Dude, stop going thruogh your dad's luggage.And DROP IT. This is none of your business.

Originally Posted By: PepsiChaserIt really doesn't matter!It is up to his mom and dad to deal with this. Not him.I would beat my kid if I found out they were digging through my luggage!!! (Or any of my stuff for that matter!) I wasnt digging through his stuff, well i was but he told me he had something for me and that it was in one of the pockets, i guess i just looked in the wrong one