One of my best guy friends is having some girl trouble. This girl is really really into him but he doesn't like her like that and she's been doing things to try to get them into "couple status". So while I was helping him, one of his friends suggested that I "pretend" to be his girlfriend so that she would back off. I see nothing good coming from this at all whatsoever. But he's really desperate...
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Bad news
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I'm guessing he's already told this girl he's not into her?
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well the thing is, she makes it out as just she just wants to be friends but he knows by the way she's acting and her antics that she wants more but he doesn't want to blatantly tell her that he doesn't like her so she won't get offended. that's where I come in I guess sort of as a hint that "he's already taken" or something like that.
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I think your instincts are right. These ruses usually create more problems rather than solve anything.
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Quote:that's where I come in I guess sort of as a hint that "he's already taken" or something like that.As these forums reveal, people end up far more hurt and offended finding out that they've been 'played'. Your guy friend owes it to this girl and to himself to be straightforward and honest with her.Isn't that what you'd want in a situation like this? __________ Given you're all very sure this girl actually does like him as you say she does.
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All he has to say is to that girl is that he's not looking to be involved with anyone at this time. I've used that line, and it works.
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you guys are kinda missing the point. she hasn't said anything to him about being in a relationship but the way she is acting towards him and how she flirts with him and such hints towards it. and he doesn't want to say something such as he doesn't want to be in a relationship without her being offended since she never mentioned it. So as to jump to conclusions sorta.
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Then he needs to remain single until she brings it up, THEN let her know he isn't interested in a relationship.Don't complicate it.
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and he doesn't want to say something such as he doesn't want to be in a relationship without her being offended since she never mentioned it.
Honesty is the best policy.It's fine that your friend is a nice guy and doesn't want to hurt anyone. But sometimes nice people need to break that and be straight up honest on how they feel or else they'll be walked all over. There's nothing wrong with being a little assertive.
Just because this girl hasn't SAID that she wants to be with your friend, you keep saying she's hinting it with her behavior. I say he needs to tell her to back off and maybe at best, they can be friends. Playing the false girlfriend is not going to work. If he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, how is it going to make her feel when she finds out he already has a "girlfriend"? You're basically lying to this girl and I know that's not what you guys want to do.
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no, absolutely not. I wasn't going to agree to it anyway. I don't like getting myself mixed up in those kind of things. But yea I'm going to tell him to just set her straight. Be nice but be honest. Thanks guys