Umm i gave him a bj and..

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Soo yeah last night i gave my boyfriend head for the first time, it wasn't my first time giving it- but it was my first time with him. I was doing it for a long time but he never came.. his legs were kinda shaky and he took a lot of those quick deep breaths that usually come along with an orgasm.. but i dunno cause he didnt cum!? i dunno.. was i doing something wrong? im so confused please respond

Don't give it another thought, some of us simply don't ejaculate as a result of oral sex. Our penises don't always respond to things routinely, sometimes it works well, other times it doesn't. Each guy is different and our penises are as well. This certainly isn't about you and I can assure you that even though he didn't "finish" he enjoyed it (those shaking legs and deep breaths confirm that!) If you'd like, talk with him about it...he's probably pretty bummed out as well and doesn't know what to say either. Its just one of those things, please don't let it bother either of you...just keep having fun and keep trying!

Yeah dont worry about it. Most guys like to enjoy it for as long as they can. I know I can make myself hold off for upwards of an hour or focus and go really quick in about 5 minutes.Well in most cases I can. One of my old girlfriends told me she could make me cum extremely fast, so I tried to hold off as long as I could. After bout 5 minutes though, i had to go. She couldnt believe that i lasted that long and I couldnt believe she made me go that quick...But thats strayin off the point. What I'm sayin is that I've never had a bad blowjob. Theres been several where I didnt cum, but i enjoyed them all...

yeah,i'm with the other guys on this one.i've been in your bf's postiion and i thought,she shouldnt feel bad about it,i just dont seem to come from oral,but that doesnt mean i dont enjoy it.

Trust us here, it's nothing at all. Some guys just take a while to come, and it's not always a good thing to come during Oral sex. One reason is b/c some girls don;t like cum, another is that if you're going ALL the way in sex, it's technically premature ejaculation unless your BF has a fast recovery rate.

If it makes you feel any better, my girlfriend has given me loads of blowjobs and I haven't cum ONCE. Okay, I cum if she uses her hand to wank me off ALOT while she is doing it, but once she was giving me one for about an hour and not using her hands much and I didn't even once get the feeling I was going to cum! However! Just because I didn't get "that" feeling, it doesn't mean I didn't enjoy the blowjob. I did infact, very much so.

i was just wondering how long the average male should last before coming...

There isn't an average time someone takes to get of some people are quick and some take longer.

ok well how long is acceptable not to be laughed at?

You shouldn't be laughed at whatever happens. And guys are so different, there shouldn't be any specific expectation.

Yeah really you shuoldnt be laughed at.but if it happens within the first couple minutes - they might giggle later on if they talk about with their girly friends. Most guys are different in different cases. Some go quick some could have good stamina and hold it for a good hour maybe. but then her face might go blue For me depends how could she works it - I can say I have good stamina.

well wen i try on myself, if i consentrate totally and im in a really horny mood i can come in a couple of minutes. is this bad or will it take longer if for example im being sucked off?

It probably will take longer, but it depends on the girl, what she does, and how you feel about it.

well say last at least 5 mins. which reckon i could. would i get laughed at do you think? should i be able to last longer?

You won't get laughed at.

i suppose that if i tried to last as long as i could i would be able to last a while longer but as iv never experienced it i wont know.