Handshakes and peoples personalities

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I don't know if it's just me, but i can tell a lot about a person i just met just by the way they shake my hand. Even though teenagers now a days do weird handshakes, not the normal handshake, i can still sort of tell a lot about a person. I can't really explain it but i can tell how trusting a person is and how they feel about shaking hands with someone they don't know. I can also tell how "fun" a person is. Another weird thing like with my friends who's handshakes i recognize, i can tell what mood their in by how they shake my hand. Idk, i just wanted to share and see if anyone else feels like they can do that.

Yeah.. I don't know about that.. You can sense a bit about a person but I think you can't tell as much as you claim you can.

Tell me more.. this sounds interesting.... I would love for you to shake my hand and see what you have to say or think...

I mean i wish i could explain it but it's hard. Hmm your not being sarcastic are you? lol

interestingyes, this is true. A firm hamdshake is a sign of confidence, yet a "knucle buster" of a handshake, to me, indicates the opposite.And, of course, there are those "secret handshakes" of wich I know nothing about

No... I think it's kewl. I'm not being sarcastic. I would love to see what you have to ssay and how close it is to who I am....

Let me about it some more

can i try to test you? lolshank my hand....i want make eye contact. I’ll look at the ground. my hand will be a little sweaty from being nervous, And I’ll let go faster than you can actually shake it.so what does that tell you about me?

I shake hands with people all the time... At least once a day. And it's a real hand shake. none of this one armed bump shoulders things and guys think is cool to do... Be man enough to give em a hug if your that close....

no hugs dude... i couldn;t do that.at church we shake hands in hte meet time and then hold hands at the end all the way threw a song. i try to sit inbetween my mom and shannon or my sister. cuz of that. lol At horse shows when my dad introduces me to some one we shake. he'll shake hands when he introduces himself. when people come to the house to look at a horse a bring in a horse or a new rider..or whatever my parents will shakes hands...if i;m around i;ll do that too. not that i really like to i just kow they kind of expect it from me an dit;s good manners and stuff.

why are you so homophobic?

It's not just men and society. We don't hug or anything in my family even when somebody's spouse has died. It's just not done. It's to personal, to much contact. The one person that does all the hugging shit nobody can stand when she does it.My wife finds it odd but has grown accustomed to it.

Very true. Sometimes I forget to take that into account.

I think it is an NDN thing. I can't think of very many, if any, NDN people I know of (that still hold to traditional lifestyles) who hug or make such overt physical gestures to one another. Hugging is pretty much reserved for couples and even then it's done in private.

It makes me horribly uncomfortable to hug anyone, other than my wife or dog. Even of those two the dog is the only one I would hug in public. :grin:

It is a culture thing but I have issues with personal space on top of it. So it's even that much more intense in me.

Originally Posted By: albeitmyselfIt's not "Indian" I mean, there are different cultures among different tribes. True but of all the tribes I've had anything to do with I would say it applies to most. At least of those that hold to traditional teachings. I am sure, however, that there are some, if not many, tribal cultures that are different.

I'm splitting hairs here but I think what your seeing is a difference in customs and less a difference in culture. With both surviving intact to different degrees. In some tribes there is little are no native customs left but the thought process and approach to problems is still ingrained.More than anything, I think it's just a matter of convenience. It's simple matter of fact that when talking to non-NDN people most don't know or have any appreciation of the sometimes vast differences in native cultures. That's not a put down just a matter of fact. On top of that, more often than not anything a non-NDN is going to ask is generally going to be broad enough that the answer will fit most native peoples. Further, do to cultural degradation there is somewhat of a pan-NDN culture that we all now share... at least to an extent.When things start getting real specific then I move away from the term "NDN." I've just never found much point in talking specifying about tribe when talking to anyone other than another NDN. More often than not it gets in the way and tends to derail my train of thought.

Originally Posted By: albeitmyselfWhy do you assume he's homophobic? it's natural in this society for men to have more strict personal boundaries...there could be any number of reasons he doesn't hug everyone! I'm just yanking his chain. I have known him for a very long time...

i knew he was fucking with me. lol ( see, Roc,this is when smiles help!) you didn;t know that i been talking to him since i was 14. haha. He wishes he could yank my chain! Haha ( i wish there was a smilie with tounge sticking out lol) To be homophobic I’d just have to not want dudes to hug me. right? I don’t like even girls too. thinks about that for a minute……yea. I don’t like them hugging on me either. When people hug me (with exception of my mom, girl, and ash) I just wish I was a turtle so I could go up in my shell and disappear. same as when i see people looking at me.Now why? I don’t know. Maybe the same reason I don’t like shaking hands.  Quote:….other than my wife or dog. I’ll hug my dog and horses with no problems!

I've found that as I get older, I've become more openly affectionate. I'm told I'm an awsome hugger, just because I actually grab people and squeeze them like I mean it... because I do mean it.Naturally, in our western society, less of my male friends hug than female friends but when they do, I still hug them in the same way. I'm big and strong so everyone gets the bear hug!I was at a concert last month (an old-school heavy metal extravaganza) and the dude next to me grabbed my hand after and said "awsome rockin out with ya dude!". He got a hug that I don't think he was quite expecting lol Ok, so I was riding a little high on adenaline and beer.the father of very dear friend of mine is an older Scottish chap and he has kissed me on the lips. I know it sounds unusual but all it is is an indication that he thinks of me as familybottom line of this long message is that people would probably have happier lives if they would not be so scared of simple affection