NO SYMPATHY FOR TEEN MOTHERS

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In reply to:Oh I'm not attacking you... How many times do i read you do that...........say snide comments, then play the injured party when people react, and say "I wasn't attacking you..........like how can anyone think that of poor old you. Im sorry you have implied and made snide comments a lot, then act all bloody innocent..........rolls eyes

The reason very well might be because I plan on not having anything get in the way of my becoming a therapist. I'm a paranoid person, so, the risks seems 100 times more likely to happen to me than they are in reality. Also, I'm not interested in sex, really.

what kind of therapist hon?

I want to work with teenagers, mostly. I want to be a therapist that helps teens(mostly, adults as well) with mental disorders, mainly depression.

i dont live in the US no i live in the UK, here we dont have to pay for healthcare at all we have a choice of private or free NHS national health system so thats not an problem. yeah my bf did have to leave school at 16 but he got good basic qualifications and has enrolled in a home study system which will eventually qualify as a learning assistant for special needs kids. i finished school and did alevels which is one step below uni and im goin 2 uni. i went to a school for young mums with free daycare coz the children were at the same place and yes i will have free child care for uni.my parents do babysit sometimes but not often. we sort that our selves. ans as i said the only benefit we get is a child benefit that every child in england gets to spend on child essentials id get that what ever age.its v easy to think that wed be relyin on the state and its good to see u have ur head swrewed on in knowin the maturity involved in havin kids. its good 2 hear a guy who thinks bout that stuff.i wouldnt want to promote just havin a baby at 15 its not the idea of my posts i wouldnt want to encourage that at all, i was just sayin that with some teen parents its diff. and yeah society can be very antiteen parents but as u said because its not set up for that anymore but there are always going to be people that have kids young. tho no, u wouldnt wanna promote it.its not as glamour and cool as ud think its bloody hard, tyrin and sicky, dirty etc. in my case worthwhile but its not worth havin careless unprotected sex and endin up preg.once you have kids/get preg however u can only blame urself, and the guy so i see what the point bein made was its no1 elses fault. if u cant cope dont have i suppose.anymore qus?

wait... what? Why is it that everything I say someone takes offense to. I think it's me. It must be. Maybe I need to start keeping my big mouth shut. Yes, that's what I'm going to do from now on. Sorry for saying anything at all to begin with.

thats really good that you put more important things first before sex and looking out for your future.

I'll tell you why people take offense, cos you always seem to be getting at someone, making snide comments, maybe you mean them like that maybe you don't, but it comes across like that, and im not the first one to notice........If you don't mean to come across like that, they hey sorry but you are doing...........you seem to look down on people..............

My parents are always talking about how they want me to have the best future, but how they also don't expect me to make it anywhere, really. I want to prove that what I'm doing is not only for my benifit, but for others' as well.

How can I look down on people? I look down upon myself. If I say things I say them with sarcasm like many on here. I dono't try to put people down. I've been put down so many times and I know how it feels. So you know what... I'm just going to stop. Everyone thinks I suck and needs to shut up because I'm a dumb kid who doesn't know anything. So I will shut up like the dumb kid I am. I know these words didn't come out of your mouth. They came out of mine. And I accept this. So if what I'm saying is bad then no longer shall I say. I'm sorry. Never again.

I'm glad that you had access to the benefits that the UK offers, as well as a supportive family. It would have been much more difficult in the U.S. to do what you did. The only reasonable option for most people would be welfare, since if you got a job that paid much of anything, you'd lose your health benefits (in most states). There are millions of children in the U.S. without health insurance.

it doesn't come across as sarcasm..........i have felt you have made snide comments about me, being with someone and flirting like i do on here- for example -, and fare enough what you think is what you think....................i have had a few PMs from people who think you have been doing the same, hey you have every right to say what you want as i do.and why would you look down on yourself hon. your a great kid, i admire some of the things you say, i admire that you are still a virgin against peer pressure etc........ and i have said this before.

What snide comments at all have I said against you? When I talk to someone I try to be as nice as possible because I don't like fighting at all. My mother has told me that of all my siblings I will always come right out to apologize becuase I hate it when people are mad at me. I don't like to know that people dislike me for something I've done and I'd do whatever to fix it. And people are complaining about me? Jeez I didn't think I was that horrible... Don't worry I'll fix that though.

In reply to:Oh goodness. How many times have I heard that line? Just answer back with a "love's tough get over it". Peer pressure should not bring people to have sex. But hey like they say "misery loves company".I'm not sure what you meant by the sentence I bolded, but I'm sure it didn't come across the way you intended it to.Edit: It's not that people don't like you, it's that misunderstandings in communication crop up.

**hon people arn't complaining about you, so there is nothing you have to fix. I guess im not making myself clear, its late and im tired........i dont' wanna hijack this thread arguing.........you have a PM **

I know I should have explained that a little more. I mean that based on what I've witnessed. Like say if someone had caught a disease from having sex and they are pressuring another one of their friends to have sex it is also for the reason for that person to experience what they are going through. I've seen it happen before and it can be quite rude. I know friends are supposed to be there for each other but when it something as serious as that you should want them there to comfort you know suffer the pain too. Unless the friend is willing enough to. If that sounds right.

thats the bit, that steve bolded that got my back upt, it came across badly, if it wasn't meant like that, fare enough, but it came across badly.

yeah it would be so hard in the US. its a dodgy business not havin medical cover. i guess im real lucky really. if i was in the US i would have kept my 1st but prob not have had a second in tht sit. its hard anyway but with no support its worse. as i said rewarding but hard, i think its not for the faint hearted.a support system is necsissary for most parents whatever the age, without it things are mega hard so id say girls who know the guy will leave them and the parents wont help or who know theyd need state help should not get them selves in a sit where they become preg.

Like say if someone had caught a disease from having sex and they are pressuring another one of their friends to have sex it is also for the reason for that person to experience what they are going through.That's seriously sociopathic behavior, and people should go to prison for that. That was from way out in left field, and definitely needed explanation.It's a lot simpler than that, since most boys don't carry STIs: young guys want to get laid. They'll use any ploy they can think of to get into a girl's pants. Girls need to understand that and not let themselves be pressured into having sex.

Can't argue with that. But it's a lot easier to find and pay for (good quality) day care once your career is established and you have a reasonable income.In the U.S., the incidence of teen pregnanacy has dropped in the past 20-or-so years. But the incidence of having children out of wedlock has gone way, way up. In a lot of those situations, there is little or no involvement of the father.