NO SYMPATHY FOR TEEN MOTHERS

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thats really good that you put more important things first before sex and looking out for your future.

I'll tell you why people take offense, cos you always seem to be getting at someone, making snide comments, maybe you mean them like that maybe you don't, but it comes across like that, and im not the first one to notice........If you don't mean to come across like that, they hey sorry but you are doing...........you seem to look down on people..............

My parents are always talking about how they want me to have the best future, but how they also don't expect me to make it anywhere, really. I want to prove that what I'm doing is not only for my benifit, but for others' as well.

How can I look down on people? I look down upon myself. If I say things I say them with sarcasm like many on here. I dono't try to put people down. I've been put down so many times and I know how it feels. So you know what... I'm just going to stop. Everyone thinks I suck and needs to shut up because I'm a dumb kid who doesn't know anything. So I will shut up like the dumb kid I am. I know these words didn't come out of your mouth. They came out of mine. And I accept this. So if what I'm saying is bad then no longer shall I say. I'm sorry. Never again.

I'm glad that you had access to the benefits that the UK offers, as well as a supportive family. It would have been much more difficult in the U.S. to do what you did. The only reasonable option for most people would be welfare, since if you got a job that paid much of anything, you'd lose your health benefits (in most states). There are millions of children in the U.S. without health insurance.

it doesn't come across as sarcasm..........i have felt you have made snide comments about me, being with someone and flirting like i do on here- for example -, and fare enough what you think is what you think....................i have had a few PMs from people who think you have been doing the same, hey you have every right to say what you want as i do.and why would you look down on yourself hon. your a great kid, i admire some of the things you say, i admire that you are still a virgin against peer pressure etc........ and i have said this before.

What snide comments at all have I said against you? When I talk to someone I try to be as nice as possible because I don't like fighting at all. My mother has told me that of all my siblings I will always come right out to apologize becuase I hate it when people are mad at me. I don't like to know that people dislike me for something I've done and I'd do whatever to fix it. And people are complaining about me? Jeez I didn't think I was that horrible... Don't worry I'll fix that though.

In reply to:Oh goodness. How many times have I heard that line? Just answer back with a "love's tough get over it". Peer pressure should not bring people to have sex. But hey like they say "misery loves company".I'm not sure what you meant by the sentence I bolded, but I'm sure it didn't come across the way you intended it to.Edit: It's not that people don't like you, it's that misunderstandings in communication crop up.

**hon people arn't complaining about you, so there is nothing you have to fix. I guess im not making myself clear, its late and im tired........i dont' wanna hijack this thread arguing.........you have a PM **

I know I should have explained that a little more. I mean that based on what I've witnessed. Like say if someone had caught a disease from having sex and they are pressuring another one of their friends to have sex it is also for the reason for that person to experience what they are going through. I've seen it happen before and it can be quite rude. I know friends are supposed to be there for each other but when it something as serious as that you should want them there to comfort you know suffer the pain too. Unless the friend is willing enough to. If that sounds right.

thats the bit, that steve bolded that got my back upt, it came across badly, if it wasn't meant like that, fare enough, but it came across badly.

yeah it would be so hard in the US. its a dodgy business not havin medical cover. i guess im real lucky really. if i was in the US i would have kept my 1st but prob not have had a second in tht sit. its hard anyway but with no support its worse. as i said rewarding but hard, i think its not for the faint hearted.a support system is necsissary for most parents whatever the age, without it things are mega hard so id say girls who know the guy will leave them and the parents wont help or who know theyd need state help should not get them selves in a sit where they become preg.

Like say if someone had caught a disease from having sex and they are pressuring another one of their friends to have sex it is also for the reason for that person to experience what they are going through.That's seriously sociopathic behavior, and people should go to prison for that. That was from way out in left field, and definitely needed explanation.It's a lot simpler than that, since most boys don't carry STIs: young guys want to get laid. They'll use any ploy they can think of to get into a girl's pants. Girls need to understand that and not let themselves be pressured into having sex.

Can't argue with that. But it's a lot easier to find and pay for (good quality) day care once your career is established and you have a reasonable income.In the U.S., the incidence of teen pregnanacy has dropped in the past 20-or-so years. But the incidence of having children out of wedlock has gone way, way up. In a lot of those situations, there is little or no involvement of the father.

Yeah, no more comments from me unless it's serious. This mouth of mine gets me into so much trouble.Reality Check.

One thing to keep in mind is that this is an international forum. People have certain ways of communicating ("How many stone do you weigh?") that's not well-understood in other regions. Some things that you'd tell a neigbor, joking around, might be misunderstood by someone in Colorado or Australia.Why do the British talk about their weight in stone anyway? Are there scales that are calibrated in that unit?

I just wanted to say that I agree with Angel. I've noticed your snide comments also. And yes alot of members do the same thing, but you throw in these comments out of no where. Like when your talking about strippers and then mention "members on here that don't wear underwear". This is why I don't like you.

I second that, some of the comments are a little uncalled for, But i realize i make some mean comments sometimes then i read over what i say later and PM the person about how mean i think i was (now have the time they dont notice i was mean, which is cool) or i try to edit if i can still. But some of the things you say are just out there. I dont dislike you or hate you smooches.

By the way, I really admire your strength and ability to do such an amazing thing. I dont want kids (any time soon or in the future) but im not a kids person. I think having kinds period is difficult and hard enough, but at the age and carrying a stangers baby is absolutely amazing. I hope you end up well in life, and I wish you and your family a wonderful future :smile:

thank you, like i said to me hes not a strangers baby hes my baby. i guess it would hurt too much wondering what would have happened if i hadnt kept him. my kids and bf are my world. everyones diff, not everyone is a kid person but i cant imagine my life without them. although there are no plans for any more atm (and i assure u there wont be 4 a long while) in the future im up for doin it all again. i think its all down to supporting the child at the end of the day, if u can give your children what they need and bring them up well enough to respect others and themselves then youre onto a winner. on the subject of sayin rude things, people are intitled to thier oppinion but maybe some thought is needed before a post is made. there are non offensive ways to put everything across. think before you make a point ppl thats all.