My father has an alchohol problem. My boyfriend met him for the first time this weekend, and the family was argueing in front of him, and the bf got really upset when we talked in private. he said he wanted to go home. I was so hurt. my father said he would rather booze than his family. if he doesnt get it, he gets angry and says the most hurtful things to my mother and i. I feel helpless. and it hurt my bf because i was crying about it a lot this weekend and there wasnt anyhting he cold do about it. I just dont know how to deal anymore. we tried talking to my father and he just freaks out. I hate seeing my mom put up with this all the time. I moved out, but i came home for a month for xmas. but even so. the bf got really upset.
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I don't know how to deal.
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Unfortunately there's probably nothing much you can do for your father. Unless he wants help you can't help him, so all you can do is keep away from that bad environment as much as possible.
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yeah I figured theres nothing to do about it.
just it tore my boyfriend and i apart this weekend :frowning: :frowning: and im tired of all this shit going on with me :cry:
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I suggest you think about going to ALANON. It's very helpful for people in your situation. They will give/teach you methods to deal with alcoholics/addicts etc. and not get sucked into their drama. Seriously, give it a shot!
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Well my father was the same way when I was growing up. I ran away from home when I was 15 and never went back. My parents got divorced 5 years later. I keep in touch with my mother, but hasn't spoken to my birth father in 25+ years. I have NOTHING nice to saw about the man and only respect him for being the sperm doner for my mother only...There isn't anyone can do for him unless he wants help. I'm sorry. I know he's your dad but he'll continue down that road until he wants to change...Love him but stay clear...harsh but true.
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Thanks guys.Sory, I forgot about this post and I haven't checked this section in a while.I hate just.. DEALING. I seem so helpless and pathetic
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Well you shouldn't feel helpless or pathetic. Your already strong for trying to deal with this situation. Just hang in there.
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For me, the only way I've found to deal is just keep moving forward and let what is beyond my control just happen. It may hurt and shit may hit you in the face but as long as you keep going forward and don't stop to wade in the mire, one day you'll get passed it. It may not be the best but it's the only way I know to make progress in life.There'll be new shit once you get passed this shit but at least it's a different kind of shit and may not be quite such an unbearable a pile of shit.
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drug rehab Originally Posted By: ashley69My father has an alchohol problem. My boyfriend met him for the first time this weekend, and the family was argueing in front of him, and the bf got really upset when we talked in private. he said he wanted to go home. I was so hurt. my father said he would rather booze than his family. if he doesnt get it, he gets angry and says the most hurtful things to my mother and i. I feel helpless. and it hurt my bf because i was crying about it a lot this weekend and there wasnt anyhting he cold do about it. I just dont know how to deal anymore. we tried talking to my father and he just freaks out. I hate seeing my mom put up with this all the time. I moved out, but i came home for a month for xmas. but even so. the bf got really upset. Unfortunately, this is all too common in today's world. People are choosing drugs or alcohol over their loved ones. Most do not realize this as their brain has blocked its acknowledgment as it would be painful. Most justify it but if you take an honest look, it is clear that the addiction is hurting many people.
